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How To Stop Worrying And Start Living, According To Science

By the time you finish this article, you will have the scientific knowledge, backed by scientific research, on how to stop worrying, or at least to stop worrying about 85-97% of the things in your entire life.

Five hundred years ago, Michel de Montaigne said: “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.” Now there’s even a study that proves it. This study looked into how many of our made up stories never happen in the physical reality.

So How To Stop Worrying, According To Science?

A skeleton thinks how to stop worrying. Apparently it doesn’t work for him.

We worry way too often about each and every detail. Usually we worry about our diet, we worry about our health, we worry about making money, we worry about our physique, we worry if we are attractive or not, we worry about our partner, we worry about our parents and grandparents… we worry about each and every single thing we are unsure about.

Unlike the animals, we have the capacity to think about ourselves far into the future. Animals respond to life mostly on a moment-by-moment basis, but our ability to imagine the future allows us to behave in ways today that will have desired consequences later on. Now, don’t get me wrong, worrying is not all that bad. Self-awareness is essential for planning for the future, improving ourselves, and avoiding real danger in the future.

And yes, while thinking about the future is critical to our well-being, most of us think about the future far more than needed to manage our lives effectively. When we think too much about the future, we get distracted from our life in the present moment and what’s even worse, it fuels great deal of anxiety about things that will probably never happen tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, next week, year and even decades from the present moment.

While animals fear when they face real danger, they don’t worry about what might happen in the future, nor they read articles on how to stop worrying.

If all the things we worry about happen, and we are prepared for them, it would be an absolute blessing to worry. But on the other side, if all the things we worry about happen, that would be living in hell!

Most of the things we worry about never happen, and if they do, we can solve them a lot better than we thought we can. Worrying about future problems rarely gets us prepared when it’s time to take action in the physical reality.

Yet the question remains: if worrying doesn’t do much good, but more damage, why do we keep worrying? Why do we wrap around the anxiety blanket and keep on trying to predict the future? There’s a great theory predicting the answer of these questions.

“How To Stop Worrying” Didn’t Exist 10000 Years Ago

“How To Stop Worrying” Wasn’t A Topic Of Discussion 10000 Years Ago

Leonard Martin, social psychologist at the University of Georgia suggests a great theory tackling the answer to the questions above.

Martin speculates that self-generated worry about what might happen in the future became a problem in the last 10,000 years or so. Before then, our prehistoric ancestors were able to think about what might happen in the future, but their hunting-gathering lifestyle did not evoke a great deal of unnecessary rumination about the future.

For million of years, humans didn’t plan long-term to accumulate money, success, possessions, or simply self-improve themselves on personal and professional level. Our prehuman ancestors were focused on today, rather than weeks, months, or years ahead. Hunter-gatherers with little to no possessions at all didn’t plan for the future or long-term goals. They didn’t have a reason to think more than a day or two ahead.

But something happened that changed everything. When agricultural revolution or so-called Neolithic Revolution began 10.000 years ago, humans began to worry about the future. Unlike the hunter-gathers who mostly lived day-to-day lives, farmers must plan for planting, harvesting and storing the crops. Because so many things can ruin the crops, farmers began to think about the weather, pests, thieves, rodents and whatnot. Everything they can worry about just to protect their yield.

To make things worse, the new trend called “worrying” didn’t do much good to the farming community. No matter how well they planned or protected the crops from the predictable certainty, things like drought, infestation or even a stampede can destroy everything in a blink of an eye, leaving the farmers to starvation. No matter how many times they spent worrying and protecting the crops, everything could ramshackle like a house of card by things they couldn’t predict.

Many people say this transfer was crucial to humanity. For the first time we owned houses, supplies of food and livestock. Also, the agricultural era brought the division of labor and social roles. This in turn made us worry not only about our well-being, but the well-being of those who we depended upon.

If the theory by Leonard Martin is correct, the Neolithic Revolution brought a new set of psychological stresses because it switched from day-to-day living to worrying too much about things that could rarely be predicted.

Knowing This Is There A Way To Stop Worrying?!

Looking back 10000 years ago, we can hardly say things are getting better on the topic on how to stop worrying. Now we have a lot more things to worry about, especially since the introduction of The Information Age. We are being bombarded with so much information a day that it keeps us worried every minute of an hour. However, everything can be fixed if we have the right habits and tools, for which we’ll discuss at the end of this article.

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Montaigne’s quote that we mentioned in the beginning of this article made us laugh for five centuries, but worry is no joke.

The stressed caused by worrying generates serious health problems. The stress hormone that worrying throws into your brain is linked to heart disease, cancer, premature aging, family dysfunction, clinical depression, lowering your IQ, shrinking brain mass, and even making seniors more likely to develop dementia and Alzheimer’s.

Science tells us not to worry, and here’s the scientific research supporting my claim.

The study we mentioned in the beginning of this article, looked into how many of the things we worry about turn out to be true in real life.

In this study, subjects were asked to write down their worries over an extended period of time and then identify which of the things they wrote down did not actually happen.

It turns out that 85 percent of what subjects worried about never happened, and with the 15 percent that did happen, 79 percent of subjects discovered either:

a) could handle the difficulty better than expected, or
b) the difficulty taught them a lesson worth learning

This means that 97 percent of what you worry over is not much more than a fearful mind punishing you with exaggerations and misperceptions.

Now that you know this, STOP WORRYING! Easier said than done, right? How to stop worrying is better question.

Just by thinking to stop worrying is not going to help you much.

We have to implement habits and basically change ourselves ENTIRELY to stop worrying and start living better life filled with happiness and great moments.

Imagine the perfect YOU, the perfect self. Don’t save anything for later, just imagine everything you ever want to be and achieve.

Now here comes the catch: what I am about to say is mind-blowing!

To become the person you want to be, you have to change everything about yourself in this moment. Everything you “think” about has to be changed. Everything you “do” has to be changed. Long story short, you shouldn’t be the person that you are right now. If you were the person that you should’ve been, you would have all those things already, right?!

Change doesn’t happen overnight, just like there is no such a thing as overnight success. Change happens with mental and physical effort. You cannot wish for it and snap your finger. It doesn’t work that way.

Here are 3 practical tips you can implement right now and start changing your mentality from farmer to hunter-gatherer lifestyle.

1. Take a pen and piece of paper and start writing

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb

Ok, I have to admit. We are going to upgrade the hunter-gatherer lifestyle, since they didn’t have pen and paper, nor they planned for the future (stating the obvious).

Planning for the future is not the cause of worrying. Not knowing how the future unfolds is.

So here’s what we do. We take a pen and paper and start planning for the future.

I don’t personally know you, but I know that you, as all of us, have personal and professional goals that you want to attain.

There’s no precise guideline for this because what works for me might not work for you, but I will share my lookalike plan for the future on one of my goals.

YouTube Channel – I have 1M subscribers on YouTube by 202X year. I keep on publishing videos with enormous value without the need to get something in return.

My vision is making people’s lives better, and helping those who need help.

I publish at least 1 video a week and I will give my best in each and every video.

To be narrowed, I keep my channel strictly about self-improvement and I don’t steer clear of my vision at any cost.

I do research, assemble and write an article, and create that article in a YouTube video.

Here’s how one of my big goal looks like. Then I cut my big goal into smaller goals and do these things daily without skipping a single task.

For many people it works by only having one big goal, for example I will build a massive YouTube Channel by 2022. For me it works by cutting the big goals into smaller ones, and executing the same every day.

Once you start writing ideas will start flowing. Most of us are afraid to imagine and simply upgrade our capabilities to get that thing in the physical reality.

Start writing, have a clear plan about your future, and get to the next step, which is REALLY important.

Read Also: Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things

2. Plan without action is just a wish

I don’t know if you noticed, but I never mentioned that “I will” do something in my plan. I wrote things down as I already do and own them. That way I don’t have space to wish. I give myself the pressure to do all that is necessary to have those things achieved.

After you create your plan on a piece of paper, you already have it in physical reality. It’s really important that you write your plan down, instead of typing it or remembering it, which is the worst type of planning.

When you write things out, you create spatial relations between each bit of information you’re recording. Handwriting activates parts of your brain involved in thinking and working memory, and allows you to store and manage information. The movement associated with the pen and your hand can help you encode and retain information long-term.

Since you have your plan ready, the next step is to start taking action. The difference between wishing and achieving something is your ability to execute your plan in real life.

There are many philosophies that will push you to take action, or things that will motivate you to get up on your a$s and start executing your plan. But here’s the trick: if you love what you do, if you have your plan written next to you, everything else is just an excuse. Taking action does not require you to solve math problems or unsolved mysteries. Taking action is a muscle, and you build it by pushing yourself to do more. Imagine wanting to bigger chest muscles. You will have to work out and push yourself to get those chest muscles pumped.

What we fail to realize is that we are not always going to feel happy about it. Just as I am writing this I was sick as f*ck. I have fever and I feel like throwing up any second, but you know what? No one gives a crap about that. I am going to write this article and finish it and if I need, I will end it by falling with my head on the keyboard. That’s how much I am dedicated to each bit of thing I do today.

You don’t have to go so harsh on yourself, but you do need to be harsh against your emotions. If you feel lazy or just not amused by your work, that’s just unacceptable. That’s the excuse you are making to avoid hardship.

It all boils down to the things you DO. Not the things you “think” you do, but the actual things you create in the physical reality.

Stop doing things because of others. Start beings selfish about yourself, especially when it comes to success. You are going to perish one day. As bad as it sounds, no one gets out alive anyway.

Is your current state your dream life, or you have a lot more to do to get there? If you don’t take action, your current state is going to get worse, because when we don’t improve we usually impair.

Final quote: “Take action! No one will do the work for you!”

3. Life is not a finish line. Life is a journey

Yes. I already said that things will end one day, so eventually life has to end, but that’s the mental oxymoron we are fighting. Why do we all have to think that everything has to have an end? Don’t keep on thinking that when you do “this” you will feel “that”. It just doesn’t work that way.

For example, most people think that when they have money they will be happy and solve all of their problems. I can tell you for a fact that if you work to make money just so you can be happy, then you are NEVER going to be happy when you(if you) make money.

This is because you tie your end goal (which is practically a finish line) to a thing that you hope will make you happy.

And then you keep asking yourself why you are worried. Of course you will be worried! You are chasing 75% cotton and 25% linen (that’s what the money is made of in the US) and hope they will make you happy! Where is the sense in that?

Yes, money can buy you freedom, pay your bills, and put food on your table. But money is not going to make you happy or fulfilled if you chase them for the sake of having them. You’ve got to have an endless vision, a journey behind your earnings. Otherwise they will burden you to the point where you are going to spend them just to be healthy again. You get my point?

Create goals from tiny, daily executions, that will allow you to climb to the medium and gigantic goals.

For example, by researching everyday, writing articles and filming YouTube videos I am going to build a YouTube Channel up to 1M subscribers in X years.

This sounds like a fairy tale now, but if I keep on doing it for X years, I will eventually get there.

However, if I don’t enjoy the journey, and if I do it only to get to 1M subscribers, although the chances are very low, I still might do it. But when I get there I will be more miserable than ever.

When you focus on the journey instead of the goal, you give yourself permission to be happy every second of the day. I am not saying you will be, because every grand goal requires you to go through tons of s*it, but you will hold the switch to end those undesirable emotions every second of the way.

So no, you life is not a sprint, your life is a marathon, and if you want to be happy and fulfilled most of the time, give yourself the permission to do so by going on a journey.

In these practical tips, we almost never mentioned how to stop worrying. I did that on purpose because by having a clear goal, followed by execution and going along a journey, you have nothing to worry about. You’ve had it all covered by yourself. You are no longer farming. You are gathering the fruits of your own creation.

How To Stop Worrying And Start Living, According To Science
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9 Things You Should Delete From Your Life Immediately

Some things take WAY too much of your energy and here are 9 things you should delete from your life immediately!

Long life is a short ride. Things happen so fast that we barely have the influence to change them. How we react to the changes, and the proactive choices that we make determines our future.

Many of us fall in emotional or physical traps. These traps prevent us from improving ourselves on personal and professional level. For example, if you focus on things that you don’t have, how will that turn out for you? Not so good, right?

However, there is a fix for these things, and it starts within ourselves.

Here are 9 things you should delete out of your life immediately:

1. DELETE FROM YOUR LIFE: WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE

Let’s expand what we just mentioned above.

Too many people focus on what they don’t have, right? I can even get myself caught in this trap too.

Bigger house, yacht, boats, exclusive vacations, more money… the list can go for days.

By focusing on things you don’t have you create a vortex for your energy. It is of vital importance to focus your energy on things you CAN do. No matter how small steps you take, each step will get you closer to the goal, even closer to the things you still don’t have.

Be grateful, truly grateful for what you have right now because what you have is SCIENCE FICTION for some people that don’t even have access to clean water.

2. DELETE FROM YOUR LIFE: FEAR OF FAILURE

Welcome failure, champs! Failure is the best teacher that will tutor you through life.

Too many people don’t do things because they are afraid to fail, and there can’t be growth without failure. Just like there can’t be happiness without sadness and joy without sorrow.

As a matter of fact, many people mistake fear with danger. The difference is pretty simple: if a lion charges at you, you have a real danger to be afraid. Many people confuse that it’s “dangerous” to go up on stage and speak, or ask some people for advice. Fear is just a made-up emotion we use to cave in and justify why we can’t do something.

3. DELETE FROM YOUR LIFE: SAFETY AND COMFORT

These things don’t exist. Period.

Yes, the feeling is warm and cozy when you wrap around a warm blanket at home. You can order whatever you want and you’ll get it on your doorstep in no time.

What we fail to realize is that one day we are going to die. If you are okay with dying without making big, positive impact to the world, your family and those around you, then risk-taking and excitement is not for you.

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4. DELETE FROM YOUR LIFE: TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Are you afraid of being alone? Let me break it to you: it’s x10 better to be alone then waste your time in toxic relationships.

This doesn’t include romantic relationships only. It includes friends, relatives and co-workers.

You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you spend your time with 5 sh*tty friends, you will be the 6th.

Surround yourself with people that will support you. They don’t have to “adore” you and “compliment” you while they throw tons of s*it behind your back. Simply, they need to make you feel better when you leave their presence, not worse.

5. BEING AWARDED FOR EVERY TINY THING YOU DO

Don’t expect someone to tap your shoulder every time you do something. I was personally lonelier than a nomad! Seven years back, I started working online, completely alone! No one believed in me, people talked behind my back and my family was telling me to get a “real” job. If I waited for a tap on the shoulder, I would end up working 9-5 job that I hate.

Don’t let the support that you don’t receive make you forfeit from your dreams.

6. SHALLOW JUDGEMENTS

Everywhere I go people talk about other people. And what’s even worse is that those same people that gosip and FAR from perfect themselves. And when I say far I mean continents far!

Small minded people talk about other people, average minds discuss about events, and big minded people talk about ideas.

Don’t do it because everyone else does it. Change the conversation, start a positive narrative. Most people wouldn’t accept you because you don’t fill their empty mouth that feeds with shallow judgement. It’s okay to be alone for a while, until the right people gravitate in your life, and believe me… they will!

7. THE EXCUSES YOU HAVE BEEN FEEDING YOURSELF

People have a hard time accepting this, and you might be one of them too: you are the only one that should be blamed for your failures. Your childhood and your past do not define your future.

It is entirely true to say that we are carved by the events in our past, but it’s also true to say that your identity is ever changing! You have the wheel to steer your life in whatever direction you want.

If you focus on finding excuses instead of solutions, I will tell this straight to your face: you are going to end up as a failure and a miserable person.

Remember – when you point your finger at someone, there are 3 fingers pointing back at you.

8. THE END RESULT

I was stuck in this trap for a long time…

My previous mindset was that I thought that if I earned a number “say 12.000$ a month” that I made it! I can lie on the beach with an icy cold margarita next to me for the rest of my life. That was one of the biggest mistakes (and best teacher) that taught me that it’s very wrong to think in terms of end result.

Instead, we should acknowledge that what we do is never-ending! For people who chase comfort and safety this might be a little too much to handle, but I can assure you that if you see your life as a journey instead of an end goal, you will have an amazing shift of perspective for the better.

You won’t chase something that would end, but you would enjoy the course of events as they go.

9. PAST REGRETS

I read something the other day that really changed my life and you really need to pay attention to this: your past is your teacher, and it will never go away until you learn the lesson.

How mind-blowing is that!! I imagine this like an old person looking down at me repeats a sentence that I should engrave in my mind.

My mother passed away when I was 18 years old and that moment was really haunting me for a long time.

Fast forward years later, I finally realized that I am truly grateful to her for making me the person that I am today and that part of her will never die. It took me 10 years to finally realize that, and I feel so much relieved ever since. I only have gratefulness and appreciation for making me this stubborn dude that never wants to give up.

Don’t avoid your past, but look right through your painful memories and truly, from the bottom of your heart, try to learn the lesson that will help you out in the present and future.

I don’t want to remind you again, but if you are healthy and have a roof over your head, you are way ahead of most people in the entire world. Do not miss a single day appreciating that.

Read After: Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things

Some things take WAY too much of your energy and here are 9 things you should delete from your life immediately (pay attention to #9)
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Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things

No, mentally strong people don’t have big biceps or pretty, sharp face. Mentally strong person can be 130 pounds man with a resilience of an ant. It can also be a 110 pound woman that is quieter than the anechoic chamber at Orfield Laboratories in Minneapolis.

With so much information out there, sometimes it looks unbearable. Worldwide pandemic is soaring while they’re bombarding us with “second wave” pandemic this winter. Parents are getting fired and families are starving. There is so much going on that we can’t even begin to think positive about something.

However, let me break it all to you. A single person has the power to change the entire world. The willingness and desire we have can pierce through mountains and make create new roads when they don’t exist. We can pave the jungles, beat the unbeatable and create things that don’t exist! Each and every one of these things were made by mentally strong people who refused to back down.

If Thomas Edison said f*ck it and threw the project for the light bulb in his first failed attempt, we would still light up candles in the night. He had over 1.000 failed attempts to invent the light bulb. Can you even imagine?! We don’t even have the patience to count to 1.000!

Whenever you are on the brick to giving up, just remember that mentally strong people would never do these 6 things:

Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things
Whenever you are on the brick to giving up, just remember that mentally strong people would never do these 6 things. Photo by Noah Buscher on Unsplash

1. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVE

Yes, every sane person would say that things are not going well around the globe, especially after the pandemic at the beginning of this year. But if you are healthy and breathing, sitting on your phone or PC, you have a lot more than most people!

Things can be a lot worse then they are right now for you as individual and for the world in general. If you just Google the deadliest world events, you will be realize of how lucky you are right now.

As humans, we have the tendency to think negative and find what’s not right about our situation in this exact moment. That’s not necessarily bad because we are naturally pushing ourselves to take action and improve. But I’ve come with a solution that can make you think positive and push yourself to do better. I strongly suggest you to read this article after this one and answer the self-reflection questions I have posted there.

2. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T COMPARE WITH THINGS AND PEOPLE

You can really explain this with a single phrase: don’t do it, it’s a one way street.

Every time you compare yourself to others, you waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than your own. Comparisons often result in resentment towards others and ourselves. Comparisons deprive us of joy.

When you put your mind on other person, you deplete yourself of the energy that can help you improve yourself on personal and professional level.

Comparing is often materialistic and yes, while it’s better to cry in a Ferrari, materialistic things cannot make you happy. Period. Studies even confirm it.

The pursuit and purchase of physical possessions will never fully satisfy our desire for happiness. It may result in temporary joy for some people, but the happiness found in buying a new item rarely lasts longer than a few days. Researchers even have a phrase for this temporary fulfillment: retail therapy.

3. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T LISTEN TO EVERYONE

It’s been few months since my grandfather died, but I will always remember what he said one day. He rushed in my room, looked at my PC when I was struggling to write or fix something on my website and told me: nephew, you have to go out and find a job. You should stop playing these games all day. I laughed the crap out of me that day because I kind of realized that people around me, especially older relatives, will never appreciate what I do. Well, not until I brought 54.000$ at home one month (which I explain how in my VIP Hall Pass membership and my course).

I used to struggle for 2 years not knowing if I was going to make a buck or not. Friends were talking behind my back, my family was against each bit of what I did but I never, not once, gave up on my dream.

The reason why I am saying this is because I know that you can do whatever you want to do, as long as you have burning desire and resilience to do it.

People will always be against you, especially in the beginning. Do not let this ruin your process and make you wave your white flag.

4. THEY DON’T WASTE ENERGY ON THINGS THEY CAN’T CONTROL

Seriously, today the world is so volatile that you can barely control global things. If your business was physical, you’d be broke after what happened with the world this year.

Every regular Joe would bump his head in the wall, but not mentally strong people.

We really have 2 options available: either cry and find excuses why bad things only happen to us, or adapt to the situation and even improve a lot more than before.

When you really think about your life, you can be struck by very great and on the contrary, horrible things, but how you act upon those changes will determine the outcome of your life.

5. THEY DON’T GET STUCK IN THE PAST

I read something the other day that really changed my life and you really need to pay attention to this: your past is your teacher, and it will never go away until you learn the lesson.

How mind-blowing is that!! I really see it like an old person above my head repeating a sentence that I should engrave in my mind.

My mother passed away when I was 18 years old and that moment was really haunting me for a long time.

Fast forward years later, I finally realized that I am truly grateful to her for making me the person that I am today and that part of her will never die. It took me 10 years to finally realize that, and I feel so much relieved ever since. I only have gratefulness and appreciation for making me this stubborn dude that never wants to give up.

Don’t avoid your past, but look right through your painful memories and truly, from the bottom of your heart, try to learn the lesson that will help you out in the present and future.

I don’t want to remind you again, but if you are healthy and have a roof over your head, you are way ahead of most people in the entire world. Do not miss a single day appreciating that.

6. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID TO BREAK THE OLD PATTERN

I think this is the MOST important step of all, and I put it last because I want you to self-reflect on all 6 things after this.

Major changes require drastic measures. I know that there is a thing right now that you don’t like about your life. Just take a second and think about that. I am not going anywhere.

Okay, now that you know what’s the thing that doesn’t fit in your life, now brainstorm ideas that will help you change that thing. Let me help you out.

The people that you surround yourself with have A LOT to do with how your life will untangle. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are surrounded with negative and pessimistic people, do not expect you to be any different.

I would highly suggest you to change your environment. For me it worked by putting myself in quarantine 7 years ago (before it was cool) and separating from all the negativity around me. By avoiding most contact with people helped me realize who I was. Drastic changes were made and stunning outcomes were created.

FINAL WORDS:

No matter your circumstance or situation, the way you react on things defines you as an individual. Remember: not the things that happen to you, but how you act upon the things that happen to you.

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Toxic Positivity: Why Being Positive All The Time Can Break And Destroy You

In this moment I can think of a very devastating and shocking situation that changed the entire course of my life: the death of my mother.

I remember the frustration, sadness and emptiness I felt when I heard the dreadful news. She had cancer in the 4th stage and it was expected, but when you are 18 years old you just cannot accept that. You feel like the world is unfair to just people.

When she passed away, I got a lot of messages from people sending thoughts and prayers, but very few just didn’t seem like they were in place. One particular message really got me pissed. It was “keep it positive, things will be better.” I was pissed almost instantly. There is no way someone thinks that I will be positive after what happened. Do they even realize what just happened?! I didn’t feel better. I felt worse. This is what I call toxic positivity.

Here are some examples of toxic positivity:

  • Feeling bad, guilty, or shameful for how you feel.
  • Putting on a “mask” to the world when you feel completely different inside.
  • Ignoring, hiding, downplaying, or dismissing your emotions or real feelings.
  • Pretending everything is okay when it’s not.
  • Minimizing others’ emotions.
  • Shaming people for having negative emotions.
  • Invalidating someone’s experience by not acknowledging the real issue/pain/frustration.

I am a firm believer in positive psychology and all the perks and benefits from it, but sometimes being positive is not the answer. As a matter of fact, it can ruin and destroy your mood more than it already is.

I can credit positive psychology for taking me in this place that I am right now, or looking at the things a lot better than they were before they even happened.

However, positivity is not going to cure it all.

Optimism is not helpful when it makes people feel guilt, shame, or invalidated in a way.

Positivity is not positive when it invalidates, denies, or minimizes authentic human emotions.

Stoicism is not brave or courageous when it forces you to stuff down your real, true emotions and be inauthentic with what you really feel.

Perspective is not supportive when it marginalizes your experience.

This pandemic is making a huge changes to human experience over the world. We need to separate, limit and divide the connection between us. I really feel like the source of humanity is being taken away and I am not blaming anyone for this. We are doing this to protect ourselves.

Not to mention that millions of people were left without jobs, many families cannot feed their newborns. I cannot say “how” this situation occurred and who f*cked up the entire world, but things are not positive right now. Positivity will not find the cure or stop the worldwide pandemic. Here’s what’s going to stop it.

Your emotions are call to action

My perspective was changed in an instant! How would you handle your emotion if you knew that they are your calls to action?! If you are depressed, it means that you should take a course of action and feel better. If you are bored you’re probably lying in bed and watching Netflix for 5 hours, and you need to stand up and do something to feel better.

However, saying it so lightly cannot really make a change, right? Depressed people cannot find the motivation to stand up and do something. They get way too deep in the nothingness until their life simply makes no sense. So here’s an example that always helps me:

When I feel like I’m getting frustrated, obstructed or simply bored, I move! Yes, I simply move. I walk for 15 minutes, I do jumping jacks for 2 minutes or just run in place. This may seem like a strange thing to do, but I get out of those undesirable emotions immediately! Even if I don’t want to, I still do it, no matter how unmotivated I feel in that moment. I know that after only few minutes I’ll feel better.

Humans are creatures of movement. Just look at our history: hunters, gatherers, warriors, and soldiers. We have evolved to move and the rise of technology is slowly taking that away from us. Now, technology is inevitable, and people will be even more sedentary in the next few years, but no one can take our desire to move and exercise.

The reason why I am saying all of this is because taking action is the cure. Being positive is a great thing in most situations, don’t get me wrong. But being positive all the time is bullsh*t. As a matter of fact, I made a video about this topic:

Bottom Line:

Champs, be truly happy that we have this freedom right now. Thousands of years ago, every day was a struggle to survive. What we have now cannot be paid with a thousand castles long time ago. The comfort and freedom is way too much. Don’t take that for granted and don’t avoid moving your body – the only temple that you have.

Most of all, listen to your emotions and take action. Don’t be blindly positive because it can truly cause harm in the wrong state of mind.

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World’s Leading Psychiatrist Reveals The Top 22 Tips To Shift Your Life Upside Down

Throughout history, many individuals were able to change the entire course of development. People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time. Their ideas were revolutionary, influencing the entire world along with the leaders that controlled it.

One of the greats, is believed to be the Russian psychotherapist, psychologist and author Michail Litvak. Writing a total of 30 books on the topic of popular and practical psychology throughout the course of his career, totaling over 5 million books in circulation, along with a large number of scientific articles on important topics in the psychotherapy and psychology fields, Litvak has influenced experts around the globe.

One of his theories focused on relationships, conflict and conflict resolution was called ‘Psychological Aikido.’ This specific technique focused on providing its practitioners with a number of principles and rules to consider in every situation of human interaction, empowering them to better handle situations of conflict head-on should they arise.

People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time.
World’s Leading Psychiatrist Reveals The Top 22 Tips To Shift Your Life Upside Down

We’ve taken out the most important tips shift your life from this outstanding individual:

1. If all your actions are well planned, happiness will naturally follow.

2. Learn to live for yourself. Otherwise, you’ll always be trying to prove yourself to others, and you will be living for them.

3. You can never please every single person. And if you don’t stop trying, then you are preparing yourself for huge failure.

4. Both immature and mature people have knowledge. But for those who are immature, the application of this knowledge is not easy whereas the mature person utilizes it and converts it into action. This is the reason the former cannot do anything much, other than criticizing everyone else.

5. Nobody discards people. It is just that not everyone moves at the same pace and some move ahead sooner.

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6. If you want to daydream, fantasize about things which are realistic and goals which can be achieved. This way you will not lose your drive.

7. Instead of spending your time with a shallow person in the name of company, invest it in a book. It will be more entertaining as well.

8. Someone who can’t praise themselves will inevitably start criticizing others. And this is when they have nothing much to talk about.

9. The idea that there is a difference between male logic and female logic is illogical in itself. You are either wise or you’re not.

10. If people try to make you feel guilty or grateful for their help, it is better that you pay them off for their services and let them go.

11. Someone who is really happy within himself wouldn’t find it necessary that others should think really good about him or her too.

12. Your biggest enemy is not someone lurking in the shadows, waiting for you to slip up. Your biggest enemy is you and facing this enemy can be really tough.

13. If you really have an uncontrollable urge to dig into things, dig into the details of philosophy or science, not into each other’s back.

14. Do not pay attention to insults and criticisms. The day you finally achieve your goals, none of the rest would matter.

15. If you really crave something in life, don’t wait around and definitely don’t ask for permission to have it. Rather try to become the one who can control this thing.

16. Happiness is not something that you chase after. It will not be found hidden in the great outdoors’ nook and cranny. It comes from deep within you and can only be achieved when you learn contentment.

17. Talking to your friends is a good thing no doubt. But when you talk with those who are your enemies, you learn so many new things. Your own shortcomings are just a few of the things. It is rather better to listen to your enemies, than friends.

18. Depression is bad, and frightful and hard. But it is also an opportunity to look deep within yourself. And find out what are the things that have been driving you forward or turning away.

19. If you are in a relationship, be it that of romantic inclination, or a business partnership, you should never break it off, unless you feel that your own growth has been suffocating and not able to take off when you were part of the said relationship.

20. When you try to talk to someone, don’t be afraid, they might actually think favorably of you.

21. If you are alone, especially if you face loneliness after love, it means you are mature and grown spiritually. Also, being alone sort of enhances our productivity.

22. Never be too selfish of your own happiness. When you share it with your friends it enhances your happiness by making them happy. When you share it with your rivals, they just have to deal with the idea that you are better than them.

People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time.
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5 Things Will Start To Happen When You Discover Your Hidden Power

When you discover your hidden power you’ll live the life of your dreams. You, me and everyone else around us has an inner power patiently waiting to be tackled. It’s not anti-gravity, or invisibility; it’s something that we possess in the mind.

Many people don’t believe they possess it, and that is why they never see it. We have warrior inside us that will fight to fulfill each and every one of our wishes. The power is called decisiveness, persistence and resolution.

We expect things to be easy, but they are not. No matter how bad you want something, there will be problems that must be tackled in order for you to grow. Why do you think most people are not successful, fulfilled and happy? Because they want things and feel certain emotions, but they never do the work. They just “wish” things were different but never take action in the physical world.

If you have what it takes, then these 5 things will start to happen when you discover your hidden power:

1. When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Learn To Face Your Fears, Even If They Terrify You

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” – Judy Blume

Fear can cripple your life. It has the power to immobilize your strength and paralyze you to the core.

When I say this, people immediately think that fear is the enemy. No, that’s not the case.

Fear will always exist and it is one of the most powerful guiding emotion you can possess. Thanks to fear, we have evolved to this beautiful creatures we are today.

When you discover your hidden power, you won’t use fear as an impairment. You will use it as a call to action!

We either run away from fear or chase pleasure. This is the basis of life. Let me give you an example:

Let me give you a simple example:

If you have extra pounds (let’s just assume that) you are getting short term pleasure from the extra calories you take through the day. To lose the extra pounds you will have to go through hardship and stressful cravings to get long term pleasure of your fit body, more energy, self-confidence and dexterity. Your emotions will tell you to grab that chocolate next to you because the more you do something, the more you strengthen the bond between the physical action and your brain. This is called neuroplasticity, and it’s actually brilliant. The more you do a simple task, the more it becomes ‘wired’ in your brain. So if you exercise every day you will get bound to it and it will get easier the more you do it. But this also means that if you eat chocolate every day, the more you will do it. The choice is yours.

You should understand your emotions. Not live by them.

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2. When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Become Grateful Even For The Little Things

When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Become Grateful Even For The Little Things
“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.” John F. Kennedy

No matter how many bad things happened in your life, I can guarantee you in this moment that you have SO many things to be grateful for.

I will give you a simple exercise, but you have to promise me, and most importantly, promise yourself that you will do it every morning. Promise yourself now that you will not skip a day without answering these questions every morning.

Are you ready? Here they are:

  1. Why am I happy in my life right now? What in my life makes me happy? How does that make me feel?
  2. Why am I excited in my life right now? What in my life makes me excited? How does that make me feel?
  3. For what am I most proud of in my life right now? What in my life makes me proud? How does that make me feel?
  4. What am I thankful for in my life right now? What in my life makes me thankful? How does that make me feel?
  5. In what do I enjoy most in my life right now? What in my life makes me joyful? How does that make me feel?
  6. What do I strive for in my life right now? What do I aspire to do in my life? How does that make me feel?
  7. Who do I love? Who loves me back? What about that person makes me be full of love? How does that make me feel?

Originally taken from Tony Robbins – Awaken The Giant Within these questions can truly help us make a drastic change for the better. If you constantly answer these questions every day, you will notice that you’ll start to feel happier, more fulfilled, excited, proud, thankful and loved.

3. When You Discover Your Hidden Power, You Realize That You Are Bigger Than Your Mind

When You Discover Your Hidden Power, You Realize That You Are Bigger Than Your Mind
Discover your hidden power to gain control over your emotions.

Oh, God bless we’ve been bestowed with this amazing tool called brain. However, let’s not forget that the little rascal up there is not always right.

As a matter of fact, he is always right, but how we interpret the signals is what makes the difference between how we feel and how we act upon that emotion.

Most of the “negative” emotions that we feel are calls to action. Let’s take an example: if you feel anxious about something, as trivial as the test you have on Wednesday, can be instantly changed if you learn the subject. You can easily lose the extra pounds that are making you insecure by exercising and healthy diet. You get my point?

Each of your emotions can be cured by some sort of physical action. The real problem is that we don’t do enough things in the 24 hours we have. We get easily shackled by the entertainment industry that is killing your potential. Unless you have return of investment of using social media on personal and professional level, I suggest you to stop using it immediately.

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4. You Believe In Yourself And Have Bigger Confidence

Discover your hidden power to boost your self-confidence and faith.

Part of discovering your inner power is being confident in your actions and having faith in yourself.

The more you do, the better you feel. Say you have a goal, and that goal is to lose 7 pounds this month. When you lose those pounds by diet and exercise, you’ll feel like you have more control over your life, right? The achievement of pursuing your goals and completing the same will give you massive boost of faith and confidence.

The same goes for business: if I have a goal to gain 300 more subscribers on my awesome platform this month, I will be even more confident in the things I do because we see results.

Bottom line is that confidence and faith comes from the things you do, not the things you think you do.

5. You Attract The Right Things

“The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself”

It’s amazing how things change when you define how you want to feel and where you want to be in the future.

If you follow the 4 steps above, you will notice that you attract things and people like a magnet.

The truth is that we are always magnets to things and people, but your magnet will not draw the good fruits if you do opposite of the things mentioned above. You will attract negativity, debt, bad people and life full of misery.

Your life is defined by the things you do. I see my actions as an antenna: the more I do good for others and chase my goals, the more people in that sphere I will attract. The right people, things and ‘good fruits’ will come to me, no matter how much time will it take.

If you want to discover your hidden inner power, do these things above and you will be amazed by your ability to achieve greatness!

You, me and everyone else around us has an inner power patiently waiting to be tackled. It's not anti-gravity, or invisibility; it's something that we possess in the mind.
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The Top 37 Things You Will Regret When You’re Old

THE TOP 37 THINGS YOU’LL REGRET WHEN YOU’RE OLD…

1. Staying in touch with your friends

This is one of the top 5 regrets of the dying (revealed by a nurse). People on their deathbed told the nurse that they wish they stayed in touch with their friends. It’s still not late for you to connect!

2. Staying in toxic relationship

Relationship has a way to grow on you, no matter how good or bad it is. Don’t let it consume you up to the point that your quality of life is compromised, or completely destroyed.

3. Not traveling when you had the chance

The recent events of the global situation was a wake-up call for this one. Traveling when you get older becomes harder, especially when you are 2+2 or 2+1. You are also gonna need more finances with your family.

4. Not learning another language

I wish I’d known earlier that every new language is a treasure. If I only paid attention to those Spanish classes…

5. Missing the concert of your dream artist

I had a chance to go to M.J.’s concert when I was younger, but I didn’t and he passed away. Do not let it happen to you.

6. Failing to be in shape

When you realize that your body is one with your mind, and that you can actually feel happier, fulfilled and more confident when you exercise, you will shed a new light on fitness activity. Not to mention your health will drastically improve.

7. Working something you hate

Like a bad relationship, we have the skill to adapt to any condition as long as it helps us avoid fear like being broke, hungry or homeless. You have the power to make that change and make it work. Quit before it grows on you.

8. Caring what other people think of you

In 20-25 years from now, you will massively regret the things you didn’t do because of the trivial opinions of others.

9. Oral hygiene

Oh, this one! Believe me, you don’t need anything written about it. Just take it for granted and do it.

10. Staying in touch with your grandparents

Also, take this for granted. When people get older, especially ones with many health problems, the clock is ticking short. Stay in touch with them, call them and talk to them at least few minutes a day.

11. Being scared to take risks

Calculated risks, of course. No gambling or unnecessary speeding.

12. Not realizing how beautiful you were

Hey, it’s life! As we get older we tend to get wrinkles, age spots and skin tags. Look yourself in the mirror because you won’t see that beauty in 30 years from now.

13. Not using sunscreen

Sunscreen can protect your youth and health from the excessive use of sun bathing.

14. Not learning through the youth

If you fall in love with learning, there is not a single chance that you will fail to realize your goals and vision.

15. Afraid to say “I love you.”

As you get older, you will realize that your insecurity of not being loved back is not that important. What’s important is that you express your emotions, especially the good ones like love.

16. Not listening to your parents’

When you become a parent, you will see that you teach your kids only what you think will help and protect them.

17. Helping other people build their dream instead of building yours

Don’t get me wrong. Supporting others is beautiful, but not at the cost of failing to pursue your dream.

18. Working way too much

This falls in the category of the top 5 regrets, also revealed by that same nurse. When you work too much the balance in your life gets disrupted which will affect your quality of life like spending time with your family.

19. Not being grateful enough

When you realize that your clock is truly ticking away your life it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

20. Spending your youth self-absorbed

The most important thing is not you. It’s the moments that YOU share with others that will make you a wonderful person to be around.

21. Not moving on fast enough

When you move slow, your life doesn’t. So get that turbo and make most out of your life right the hell now!

22. Holding grudges, especially with those you love

It’s the mental barrier that you don’t want to have. Just toss it away and don’t let it consume you.

23. Not standing up for yourself

The mental pain after is more damaging than the actual moment you chicken on someone. Don’t let that disgusting feeling be your daily routine.

24. Not volunteering enough (or ever)

The awesome feeling you get when you volunteer and not get anything in return is why you’ll still have faith in humanity when you get older.

25. Not learning how to cook

There is so much more to this than a plate of chicken. If you are not capable of cooking an awesome lemon shrimp pasta then you are not aging as you should.

26. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment

Life now is hectic. So many things affect the present moment (like social networks) that we never even see it.

27. Failing to finish what you start

I can easily say that this is one of the top 3 reasons between failure and success.

28. Never mastering one awesome party trick

How awesome is the feeling you get when the trick you perform is making people believe in magic again?

29. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations

Again, this one can destroy your life completely and will be one of the biggest regret when you get older.

30. Not playing with your kids enough

This may sound strange but the moment when your kids or nephews want to play with you will be instantly changed to “I want to stay in my room alone.”

31. Never taking a big risk in love

It can be terrifying to dive in a relationship. But if he/she is the right person for you have the courage to take down your shield and be vulnerable to them.

32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network

This seems like a total crap when you are younger, but as you get older this is one of the most important thing in business.

33. Worrying too much

About 85 percent of the things people worry about never happen.

34. Getting caught up in needless drama

Unless you plan to be an actor, you don’t need it.. at all.

35. Not spending enough time with loved ones

Love and connection should be nurtured, especially if you want it to persist when you get older.

36. Never performing in front of others

Many elderly people wish they knew (just once) what it felt like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

37. Not keeping up with technology

Not knowing tech today can be considered as a disability. Keep up with that as it progresses.

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Your Life Will Change 180° If You Let Go Of These 20 Mental Barriers

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in my life is that we are our own worst enemies. The mental borders we place on ourselves are defining our present and future.

Knowing that you can do anything in your life, why would you choose anything else than something great and wonderful? It’s not as easy as it sounds.

The fact is that today we live very comfortable life. With almost any job you can afford a food on the table, a place to live in and pay your bills.

I am not saying that working something to survive is not okay. I just don’t think that we should stall our personal and professional growth by sticking around the comfort zone and covering in warm blanket.

The fact is that we have limited time on this earth, something that many people fail to realize. If you know you can be gone tomorrow, what would you do today? We should be asking ourselves this question every morning.

Let go of these 20 mental barriers and your life will change almost instantly:

 1. Let go of attachments: Attachment is one of the roots of all suffering. Do not take pride in your possessions which are of temporary nature. We must be grateful for the things we already have because we are more than enough as we are right now.

2. Let go of guilt: Feeling deep sense of guilt in our mind will distract positivity. What could guilt possibly solve? If you name a thing I will agree with you and pull back my words… yeah, that’s what I thought.

3. Let go of self-criticism: A constant fear of self-criticism turns one to a situation of disempowerment. It is very interesting that people who say: “I am not good with names” will never be good with names. If you feed yourself with things you are not good at, there is no chance you are going to improve in them.

4. Let go of prejudices: A prejudiced mind is another serious mental barrier that promotes ill feelings, resentment, turns risky and becomes a serious road block for a good, healthy relationship. If you have preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience, then you are living in an illusion. As a matter of fact, what you say about people, doesn’t really say much about them, but it says a lot about you.

5. Let go of Negative thinking: Negativity creates a dark aura that does not permit optimism to seep in. Your thoughts portray themselves in the physical reality. Would you put cr*p on your food and eat it? Then why would you do that to your brain?

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6. Let go of compulsive thinking: Many people have no control over their thoughts. They let small, made up stories create an entire chain of uncontrolled thoughts preoccupy their life. And the thing is that these made-up stories don’t end up happily ever after. They end up in dismay that is taking a tool on our mental health which later on shows itself in the physical reality.

7. Seeking other’s approval: No matter how good you do, some people will always have something negative to say. People will never fully accept what you do, let alone approve you. Let of of it because it will never make you truly happy with yourself.

8. Let go of grudges: Holding grudges can make you angry, even if it’s below the surface. It has the power to control your life and paralyze your self-control. Instead, ask yourself: Why did this situation make me feel angry? Why they didn’t meet with my expectations? Was it something that I did that made them act like they did? These questions will reveal a lot about you which you can use to improve yourself.

9. Let go of limiting beliefs: Our beliefs are the basic pillars in our consciousness. If you believe that you cannot make $1.000.000 dollars in the next 2 years, guess what? You will never make it. And what’s interesting is that even if you believe that you can, you still might not earn that amount, but you will be a lot closer to that $1 mil if you do, right?

10. Let go of postponing things for tomorrow: Sometimes we are terrible at taking action right now, but great at postponing things for tomorrow, the 1st of the month, or next Monday. This connects with the thing we mentioned above: we are mortal human beings. All we have is right now. No one guarantees you tomorrow. I will ask you again: what would you do if this was the last day in your life?

11. Let go of anxious thoughts: We cannot fully remove these thoughts. The thing we can do is to take away their power when they are weak.

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12. Let go of a heartbreak: We have this biased belief that a lot of time has to pass for us to overcome something painful. I know it might sound harsh, but you are 1 second away from feeling great after a heartbreak. Why does things have to unroll in years when they can be fixed within few days? Learn from your mistakes in the last relationship and move on.

13. Let go of painful memories: In a way, these painful situations can be anything from the loss of a loved one to a broken heart or a job failure. But, if we stop to think for a second, we’ll realize that on a daily basis we experience many astonishing, beautiful and pleasant situations. A kiss from a child, a call from someone you hadn’t spoken to in a while, eating your favorite fruit, reading a few pages from your favorite book… these are all things to be grateful for. Look at it this way: the pain you hold on to, is a teacher that is trying to teach you a lesson. It will stay with you until you pass the test.

14. Let go of useless things: In a funny way, useless things can shackle us. Even if you think about them for a second, it still has power over you. What I do with my useless things is that I mostly donate them. This way you relieve yourself of them and do good for others. A win-win situation.

15. Let go of bad company: You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are surrounded with negative and pessimistic people, do not expect you to be any different.

16. Let go of the past: One of the most effective ways to heal from hurt is to learn the lessons from the situation and use it to focus on growth and forward momentum. If we get stuck in thinking about what “should’ve could’ve been,” we can become immobilized in painful feelings and memories.

17. Let go of identifying with roles: This one is very underrated mental barrier. We are one particular person with the family, another with our friends, and completely third with our co-workers. When you break this down, it means that your identity is scattered in 10 places, while adapting habits that you really don’t want to have just to be “OK” around people. This can severely affect your mental health. Look at #7 again. You can’t please everyone. At least try to please yourself.

18. Let go of taking criticism to heart: It’s okay to take criticism, but it’s harmful to take criticism to heart. When you take things to heart, you let them affect your mental health which can impact your overall health. The point is to get better based on what people say about you. Take criticism on the surface, improve yourself, and let it perish.

19. Let go of the immortal clock: I know this may sound morbid, but your time is limited. I don’t know how many times I should say or write this so you’d truly grasp it and live by it. Call your grandparents, make that move, plan out your financial independence and take action… tomorrow can be too late.

20. Let go of counterproductive habits: Scrolling through TikTok and Instagram watching funny cats and dogs? Let it go. Stop wasting your time by falling in the trap of the entertainment industry. Let go of everything that doesn’t improve you on personal and professional level.

These are some of the most important factors that act as our mental barriers. Dare to reboot your life 180 degrees for the better by letting go of these mental barriers. I would suggest you to read these all over again and know that they have the power to change your entire life for the better almost instantly!

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5 Extraordinary Things Successful People Do Every Day

When I had few buck in my pocket I was frustrated. What’s ever worse is that I wanted to make cash instantly which evoked an old habit of mine, gambling. I used to bet on sports and prayed that I would make my get-rich-quick wish come true. I had a completely bogus mindset, and little did I know that success takes time and strenuous effort.

When you hit the rock bottom you have 2 options: either you will stay there and go below it by acquiring worse habits than you already have, or attach your current situation with so much pain, that the only option you have is to rise like a phoenix from the ashes.

Success can mean many things to each individual, and that is completely ok as long as you accomplish your aim or purpose. However, each one of us have to make sacrifices to achieve success on personal and professional level.

For example, if you want to lose weight you will have to make the sacrifice of not eating whenever you feel like, and perform physical activity. Or if you want to create a successful company you have to abstain from the quick pleasures, like staying out late on a Monday night, or watching 10 episodes straight on Netflix.

Rather than making sacrifices, why don’t we become people who don’t need to make these sacrifices and become people who will enjoy doing these things, especially these 5 below:

1. Prepare for the day

When a person has no plan, he is lost. Long-term success doesn’t happen based on luck, coincidence and accident. It happens based on plan, action and execution.

The most fascinating thing is that we have the utmost control to change how we feel, what we do and get the desired results. We are powerful beyond measure and it’s truly sad to see these capable human beings being consumed by the false reality of the social networks and entertainment industry. They watch funny cat’s and dogs and then get depressed when they have no results based on their actions.

I would love to tell you a fancy story about how easy it is, but it’s not. The fact is that it will be hard, very hard, before it gets easy. And it will get easier because you will create the mindset and neural patterns to control your life based on your actions.

I really give effort to write these articles and help people, but I cannot help you unless you suck this knowledge and help yourself.

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2. Create False Reality

Whoa, whoa. Hold your horses, let me explain first:

False means “not according with truth or fact; incorrect.” Now let me explain some more.

Being realistic can be the most toxic thing you can ever do, because the reality in my particular case was that I had few bucks, gambling habit and no skill. Where would that reality lead me?

I can tell you right away. It would lead me to miserable gambler with no moral compass, family, and lot of debt.

I will get back to what we mentioned earlier: we are powerful beyond measure. When it comes to creating a reality that doesn’t exist, we have incredible ability to make it happen. The power of our imagination can create something before it exists and by having the utmost power to change our life, we can make that reality feasible.

I know… some of you may have been through a lot of failure and terrible accidents and I know that this may be a far-fetched tale, but I can guarantee you that when you accept this as a fact, you can change your life by creating a false reality (one that’s still not true) and make it happen by plan action and execution.

3. Harness the power of your actions

Let’s start one simple fact: motion determines emotion. If you lie in bed, scroll through the social media and look at the ceiling, you are not going to feel good. Maybe for 5 minutes you will, but long-term you will start to get depressed. Here’s why:

Our physiology is made to be in movement. We have evolved through thousands of years by constant movement. When you don’t take action, you turn so much to yourself that it becomes toxic. Overthinking and negativity will creep on you because your brain will start to create negative stories. Taking action on the other side will portray your personal skill with the world. When we use our energy to help others and create better world for everyone, we feel really great, right?

Today you can even achieve success by sitting on your computer all day, but you are not going to be healthy and significantly reduce the quality of your life. The way I do it is that I exercise 5-6 times a week (you don’t have to be this brutal) to balance for the time I sit on my computer.

By taking action to fulfill your goals and vision, you pave imaginative reality. But pay attention: you pave it. You make it real by taking massive levels of action.

If you want to make 100$ today, you will have to do a set of actions. You can write articles for someone, create videos online, work in Mcdonalds… you get my point. You must take some action to get monetary value in return.

We have the power to imagine and create and instead of 100$, dare to visualize more and approach things differently.

4. Avoid the marshmallows

Who can avoid a sweet tongue-melting marshmallow? Some kids could, some couldn’t.

In the 1960s, a Stanford professor named Walter Mischel began conducting a series of important psychological studies.

During his experiments, Mischel and his team tested hundreds of children — most of them around the ages of 4 and 5 years old — and revealed what is now believed to be one of the most important characteristics for success in health, work, and life.

The experiment began by bringing each child into a private room, sitting them down in a chair, and placing a marshmallow on the table in front of them.

The researcher told the child that he was going to leave the room and that if the child did not eat the marshmallow while he was away, then they would be rewarded with a second marshmallow. However, if the child decided to eat the first one before the researcher came back, then they would not get a second marshmallow.

So the choice was simple: one treat right now or two treats later.

The researcher left the room for 15 minutes.

As you can imagine, the footage of the children waiting alone in the room was rather entertaining. Some kids jumped up and ate the first marshmallow as soon as the researcher closed the door. Others wiggled and bounced and scooted in their chairs as they tried to restrain themselves, but eventually gave in to temptation a few minutes later. And finally, a few of the children did manage to wait the entire time.

Published in 1972, this popular study became known as The Marshmallow Experiment, but it wasn’t the treat that made it famous. The interesting part came years later.

The Power of Delayed Gratification

As the years rolled on and the children grew up, the researchers conducted follow up studies and tracked each child’s progress in a number of areas. What they found was surprising.

The children who were willing to delay gratification and waited to receive the second marshmallow ended up having higher SAT scores, lower levels of substance abuse, lower likelihood of obesity, better responses to stress, better social skills as reported by their parents, and generally better scores in a range of other life measures. (You can see the followup studies herehere, and here.)

The researchers followed each child for more than 40 years and over and over again, the group who waited patiently for the second marshmallow succeed in whatever capacity they were measuring. In other words, this series of experiments proved that the ability to delay gratification was critical for success in life.

And if you look around, you’ll see this playing out everywhere…

  • If you delay the gratification of watching television and get your homework done now, then you’ll learn more and get better grades.
  • If you delay the gratification of buying desserts and chips at the store, then you’ll eat healthier when you get home.
  • If you delay the gratification of finishing your workout early and put in a few more reps, then you’ll be stronger. [source]

Bottom line: if you want to be successful, have the power of self-control to delay your gratification.

5. Know that you don’t know

This oxymoron is really important.

Knowing everything is impossible. Even if you think you know everything, the power of surprise will strike you when you least expect it.

Knowing you don’t know is actually really important to learn even more. The questions we ask ourselves when we don’t know something is making us learn even more on that subject. Every time you learn something new you get closer to something you still don’t know that you don’t know.

This endless loop will make you an expert in everything in life. If you want to lose weight and start learning about the calories you take, you will pay closer attention to what you eat. If you want to build a website, the first step is to look for a simple answer “How to build a website” on Google or YouTube and start from there.

The not knowing evolved us in this point in time. A dude had a vision to skip the physical letters and made the phone. Two brothers wanted to fly in the sky and made the first airplane. These things were not invented by knowing first. They were invented by not knowing and figuring out the answers.

You still see it today that technology is improving as we speak. The TV you buy today will be worse than the one that will come out next year. Same goes for your phone and every single piece of technology. Same goes for science, medicine etc. These things will never be in final form because people will never have all the answers.

If you apply these 5 things I can guarantee you that you will change your life 180 degrees for the better.

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Here’s Why You Tend To Click More Fearmongering News Than This Brilliant Article

Pay attention. This may be the most important article you read online.

When I first started writing online, my articles were rarely getting traction. I was really frustrated. I thought I was writing brilliant headings like “Beauty and Confidence” or “Why Building Your Potential Is Important?”. Little did I know a catchy heading and picture, or most important, negative news can go viral beyond measure when you connect the three.

I was still young and inexperienced. I was writing simple headings with positive news for months with no traction. When frustration kicked in, I had to dig in more and find out why all of my articles plummeted with brilliant self-help information’s in them. I found something very interesting.

Then I started testing headings: “Julia Roberts gives a great advice you should hear” does a lot worse than “SHOCKING! – Julia Roberts made a SERIOUS Threat to all Beauty Companies by Posting THIS Photo and Writing…” (with the same exact article inside). It was in a short period of time that my articles started to skyrocket in the algorithm.

The way most algorithms work is that they show what people tend to click the most. For example: if I share this article, and if 900 out 1000 people that scroll through Facebook stop and interact with this article it will show it to another 1000, 10.000 or even 100.000 people. That means that the article has a high chance of going viral. Of course, it all depends where you share it. A Facebook Page with 100 likes cannot make your article go viral. It’s not going to be shown to many people, no matter what type of heading do you have. I am telling you all this so you can understand the whole picture. Stay with me.

The way you make something viral is the perfect combination of heading, picture and content. Picture stops you, heading evokes interest, and content makes you share it. As simple as that.

Now, let’s quick jump on why you tend to click more fearmongering news than something positive. It’s very simple.

People either run away from fear, or chase pleasure. These 2 things (which I wrote about in a previous article) control almost everything that you do. The fear factor is one of the biggest marketing trick in politics and sales, but let’s not dig into that. Let’s stick to your wellbeing for a second.

“Fearful people are more dependent, more easily manipulated and controlled, more susceptible to deceptively simple, strong, tough measures and hard-line postures . . . they may accept and even welcome repression if it promises to relieve their insecurities.” — George Gerbner (Former Dean of the Annenberg School of Communications at the University of Pennsylvania)

Fear is a mechanism to protect us from potential damage. That is why we mostly fear things we think will bring us harm, such as spiders, snakes or even ghosts. Fear makes us avoid these things as much as possible.

Now, fear is very important because it also helps protect us. It makes us alert to danger and prepares us to deal with it. Feeling afraid is very natural and helpful in some situations. Fear can be like a warning, a signal that cautions us to be careful.

Now here comes the bad news: the marketeers and politicians know this and they use it to control you. When was the last time you saw something positive on the News? Why don’t they say about someone who recently had a successful business, or an act of bravery of a man that saved a little kid from a burning building? You will never hear this on the News because this doesn’t favor anyone but you.

Be honest: what would you click more “5 Ways Your Life Could Be In Real Danger” or “5 Ways To Improve Your Life”? You are drawn to click something that could cause you potential harm so you will be cautions to protect yourself from it.

The marketeers, even myself, use this to grab your attention. I could write the same article in the first heading and in the second. I could start by explaining that your life will be really stressful that may lead to health detrimental effect if you don’t do these 5 things that will actually improve your life. I can help you with both headings, but I can get more people to view the article with the fearmongering heading. But what actually happens is that marketeers know that by writing “shocking” heading and even more fearmongering news inside the article will really make it viral. That’s why fearful news tend to be more viral and global. Just look at what’s happening with the current pandemic. It is really dangerous situation, but if you follow the protective guidelines, what more can you do? All those fearmongering news won’t help you more than the protective measures. It may sound selfish and “irresponsible” but I am 100% sure you are not going to feel better and even safer if you surround yourself with all that is bad in the world.

I told you all this so next time you scroll the feed you can stand for yourself. Don’t be a sheep to the marketeers or politicians. Have your own opinion based on your gut feeling.

Here's Why You Tend To Click More Fearmongering News Than This Article