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How To Stop Worrying And Start Living, According To Science

By the time you finish this article, you will have the scientific knowledge, backed by scientific research, on how to stop worrying, or at least to stop worrying about 85-97% of the things in your entire life.

Five hundred years ago, Michel de Montaigne said: “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.” Now there’s even a study that proves it. This study looked into how many of our made up stories never happen in the physical reality.

So How To Stop Worrying, According To Science?

A skeleton thinks how to stop worrying. Apparently it doesn’t work for him.

We worry way too often about each and every detail. Usually we worry about our diet, we worry about our health, we worry about making money, we worry about our physique, we worry if we are attractive or not, we worry about our partner, we worry about our parents and grandparents… we worry about each and every single thing we are unsure about.

Unlike the animals, we have the capacity to think about ourselves far into the future. Animals respond to life mostly on a moment-by-moment basis, but our ability to imagine the future allows us to behave in ways today that will have desired consequences later on. Now, don’t get me wrong, worrying is not all that bad. Self-awareness is essential for planning for the future, improving ourselves, and avoiding real danger in the future.

And yes, while thinking about the future is critical to our well-being, most of us think about the future far more than needed to manage our lives effectively. When we think too much about the future, we get distracted from our life in the present moment and what’s even worse, it fuels great deal of anxiety about things that will probably never happen tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, next week, year and even decades from the present moment.

While animals fear when they face real danger, they don’t worry about what might happen in the future, nor they read articles on how to stop worrying.

If all the things we worry about happen, and we are prepared for them, it would be an absolute blessing to worry. But on the other side, if all the things we worry about happen, that would be living in hell!

Most of the things we worry about never happen, and if they do, we can solve them a lot better than we thought we can. Worrying about future problems rarely gets us prepared when it’s time to take action in the physical reality.

Yet the question remains: if worrying doesn’t do much good, but more damage, why do we keep worrying? Why do we wrap around the anxiety blanket and keep on trying to predict the future? There’s a great theory predicting the answer of these questions.

“How To Stop Worrying” Didn’t Exist 10000 Years Ago

“How To Stop Worrying” Wasn’t A Topic Of Discussion 10000 Years Ago

Leonard Martin, social psychologist at the University of Georgia suggests a great theory tackling the answer to the questions above.

Martin speculates that self-generated worry about what might happen in the future became a problem in the last 10,000 years or so. Before then, our prehistoric ancestors were able to think about what might happen in the future, but their hunting-gathering lifestyle did not evoke a great deal of unnecessary rumination about the future.

For million of years, humans didn’t plan long-term to accumulate money, success, possessions, or simply self-improve themselves on personal and professional level. Our prehuman ancestors were focused on today, rather than weeks, months, or years ahead. Hunter-gatherers with little to no possessions at all didn’t plan for the future or long-term goals. They didn’t have a reason to think more than a day or two ahead.

But something happened that changed everything. When agricultural revolution or so-called Neolithic Revolution began 10.000 years ago, humans began to worry about the future. Unlike the hunter-gathers who mostly lived day-to-day lives, farmers must plan for planting, harvesting and storing the crops. Because so many things can ruin the crops, farmers began to think about the weather, pests, thieves, rodents and whatnot. Everything they can worry about just to protect their yield.

To make things worse, the new trend called “worrying” didn’t do much good to the farming community. No matter how well they planned or protected the crops from the predictable certainty, things like drought, infestation or even a stampede can destroy everything in a blink of an eye, leaving the farmers to starvation. No matter how many times they spent worrying and protecting the crops, everything could ramshackle like a house of card by things they couldn’t predict.

Many people say this transfer was crucial to humanity. For the first time we owned houses, supplies of food and livestock. Also, the agricultural era brought the division of labor and social roles. This in turn made us worry not only about our well-being, but the well-being of those who we depended upon.

If the theory by Leonard Martin is correct, the Neolithic Revolution brought a new set of psychological stresses because it switched from day-to-day living to worrying too much about things that could rarely be predicted.

Knowing This Is There A Way To Stop Worrying?!

Looking back 10000 years ago, we can hardly say things are getting better on the topic on how to stop worrying. Now we have a lot more things to worry about, especially since the introduction of The Information Age. We are being bombarded with so much information a day that it keeps us worried every minute of an hour. However, everything can be fixed if we have the right habits and tools, for which we’ll discuss at the end of this article.

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Montaigne’s quote that we mentioned in the beginning of this article made us laugh for five centuries, but worry is no joke.

The stressed caused by worrying generates serious health problems. The stress hormone that worrying throws into your brain is linked to heart disease, cancer, premature aging, family dysfunction, clinical depression, lowering your IQ, shrinking brain mass, and even making seniors more likely to develop dementia and Alzheimer’s.

Science tells us not to worry, and here’s the scientific research supporting my claim.

The study we mentioned in the beginning of this article, looked into how many of the things we worry about turn out to be true in real life.

In this study, subjects were asked to write down their worries over an extended period of time and then identify which of the things they wrote down did not actually happen.

It turns out that 85 percent of what subjects worried about never happened, and with the 15 percent that did happen, 79 percent of subjects discovered either:

a) could handle the difficulty better than expected, or
b) the difficulty taught them a lesson worth learning

This means that 97 percent of what you worry over is not much more than a fearful mind punishing you with exaggerations and misperceptions.

Now that you know this, STOP WORRYING! Easier said than done, right? How to stop worrying is better question.

Just by thinking to stop worrying is not going to help you much.

We have to implement habits and basically change ourselves ENTIRELY to stop worrying and start living better life filled with happiness and great moments.

Imagine the perfect YOU, the perfect self. Don’t save anything for later, just imagine everything you ever want to be and achieve.

Now here comes the catch: what I am about to say is mind-blowing!

To become the person you want to be, you have to change everything about yourself in this moment. Everything you “think” about has to be changed. Everything you “do” has to be changed. Long story short, you shouldn’t be the person that you are right now. If you were the person that you should’ve been, you would have all those things already, right?!

Change doesn’t happen overnight, just like there is no such a thing as overnight success. Change happens with mental and physical effort. You cannot wish for it and snap your finger. It doesn’t work that way.

Here are 3 practical tips you can implement right now and start changing your mentality from farmer to hunter-gatherer lifestyle.

1. Take a pen and piece of paper and start writing

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb

Ok, I have to admit. We are going to upgrade the hunter-gatherer lifestyle, since they didn’t have pen and paper, nor they planned for the future (stating the obvious).

Planning for the future is not the cause of worrying. Not knowing how the future unfolds is.

So here’s what we do. We take a pen and paper and start planning for the future.

I don’t personally know you, but I know that you, as all of us, have personal and professional goals that you want to attain.

There’s no precise guideline for this because what works for me might not work for you, but I will share my lookalike plan for the future on one of my goals.

YouTube Channel – I have 1M subscribers on YouTube by 202X year. I keep on publishing videos with enormous value without the need to get something in return.

My vision is making people’s lives better, and helping those who need help.

I publish at least 1 video a week and I will give my best in each and every video.

To be narrowed, I keep my channel strictly about self-improvement and I don’t steer clear of my vision at any cost.

I do research, assemble and write an article, and create that article in a YouTube video.

Here’s how one of my big goal looks like. Then I cut my big goal into smaller goals and do these things daily without skipping a single task.

For many people it works by only having one big goal, for example I will build a massive YouTube Channel by 2022. For me it works by cutting the big goals into smaller ones, and executing the same every day.

Once you start writing ideas will start flowing. Most of us are afraid to imagine and simply upgrade our capabilities to get that thing in the physical reality.

Start writing, have a clear plan about your future, and get to the next step, which is REALLY important.

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2. Plan without action is just a wish

I don’t know if you noticed, but I never mentioned that “I will” do something in my plan. I wrote things down as I already do and own them. That way I don’t have space to wish. I give myself the pressure to do all that is necessary to have those things achieved.

After you create your plan on a piece of paper, you already have it in physical reality. It’s really important that you write your plan down, instead of typing it or remembering it, which is the worst type of planning.

When you write things out, you create spatial relations between each bit of information you’re recording. Handwriting activates parts of your brain involved in thinking and working memory, and allows you to store and manage information. The movement associated with the pen and your hand can help you encode and retain information long-term.

Since you have your plan ready, the next step is to start taking action. The difference between wishing and achieving something is your ability to execute your plan in real life.

There are many philosophies that will push you to take action, or things that will motivate you to get up on your a$s and start executing your plan. But here’s the trick: if you love what you do, if you have your plan written next to you, everything else is just an excuse. Taking action does not require you to solve math problems or unsolved mysteries. Taking action is a muscle, and you build it by pushing yourself to do more. Imagine wanting to bigger chest muscles. You will have to work out and push yourself to get those chest muscles pumped.

What we fail to realize is that we are not always going to feel happy about it. Just as I am writing this I was sick as f*ck. I have fever and I feel like throwing up any second, but you know what? No one gives a crap about that. I am going to write this article and finish it and if I need, I will end it by falling with my head on the keyboard. That’s how much I am dedicated to each bit of thing I do today.

You don’t have to go so harsh on yourself, but you do need to be harsh against your emotions. If you feel lazy or just not amused by your work, that’s just unacceptable. That’s the excuse you are making to avoid hardship.

It all boils down to the things you DO. Not the things you “think” you do, but the actual things you create in the physical reality.

Stop doing things because of others. Start beings selfish about yourself, especially when it comes to success. You are going to perish one day. As bad as it sounds, no one gets out alive anyway.

Is your current state your dream life, or you have a lot more to do to get there? If you don’t take action, your current state is going to get worse, because when we don’t improve we usually impair.

Final quote: “Take action! No one will do the work for you!”

3. Life is not a finish line. Life is a journey

Yes. I already said that things will end one day, so eventually life has to end, but that’s the mental oxymoron we are fighting. Why do we all have to think that everything has to have an end? Don’t keep on thinking that when you do “this” you will feel “that”. It just doesn’t work that way.

For example, most people think that when they have money they will be happy and solve all of their problems. I can tell you for a fact that if you work to make money just so you can be happy, then you are NEVER going to be happy when you(if you) make money.

This is because you tie your end goal (which is practically a finish line) to a thing that you hope will make you happy.

And then you keep asking yourself why you are worried. Of course you will be worried! You are chasing 75% cotton and 25% linen (that’s what the money is made of in the US) and hope they will make you happy! Where is the sense in that?

Yes, money can buy you freedom, pay your bills, and put food on your table. But money is not going to make you happy or fulfilled if you chase them for the sake of having them. You’ve got to have an endless vision, a journey behind your earnings. Otherwise they will burden you to the point where you are going to spend them just to be healthy again. You get my point?

Create goals from tiny, daily executions, that will allow you to climb to the medium and gigantic goals.

For example, by researching everyday, writing articles and filming YouTube videos I am going to build a YouTube Channel up to 1M subscribers in X years.

This sounds like a fairy tale now, but if I keep on doing it for X years, I will eventually get there.

However, if I don’t enjoy the journey, and if I do it only to get to 1M subscribers, although the chances are very low, I still might do it. But when I get there I will be more miserable than ever.

When you focus on the journey instead of the goal, you give yourself permission to be happy every second of the day. I am not saying you will be, because every grand goal requires you to go through tons of s*it, but you will hold the switch to end those undesirable emotions every second of the way.

So no, you life is not a sprint, your life is a marathon, and if you want to be happy and fulfilled most of the time, give yourself the permission to do so by going on a journey.

In these practical tips, we almost never mentioned how to stop worrying. I did that on purpose because by having a clear goal, followed by execution and going along a journey, you have nothing to worry about. You’ve had it all covered by yourself. You are no longer farming. You are gathering the fruits of your own creation.

How To Stop Worrying And Start Living, According To Science
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World’s Leading Psychiatrist Reveals The Top 22 Tips To Shift Your Life Upside Down

Throughout history, many individuals were able to change the entire course of development. People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time. Their ideas were revolutionary, influencing the entire world along with the leaders that controlled it.

One of the greats, is believed to be the Russian psychotherapist, psychologist and author Michail Litvak. Writing a total of 30 books on the topic of popular and practical psychology throughout the course of his career, totaling over 5 million books in circulation, along with a large number of scientific articles on important topics in the psychotherapy and psychology fields, Litvak has influenced experts around the globe.

One of his theories focused on relationships, conflict and conflict resolution was called ‘Psychological Aikido.’ This specific technique focused on providing its practitioners with a number of principles and rules to consider in every situation of human interaction, empowering them to better handle situations of conflict head-on should they arise.

People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time.
World’s Leading Psychiatrist Reveals The Top 22 Tips To Shift Your Life Upside Down

We’ve taken out the most important tips shift your life from this outstanding individual:

1. If all your actions are well planned, happiness will naturally follow.

2. Learn to live for yourself. Otherwise, you’ll always be trying to prove yourself to others, and you will be living for them.

3. You can never please every single person. And if you don’t stop trying, then you are preparing yourself for huge failure.

4. Both immature and mature people have knowledge. But for those who are immature, the application of this knowledge is not easy whereas the mature person utilizes it and converts it into action. This is the reason the former cannot do anything much, other than criticizing everyone else.

5. Nobody discards people. It is just that not everyone moves at the same pace and some move ahead sooner.

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6. If you want to daydream, fantasize about things which are realistic and goals which can be achieved. This way you will not lose your drive.

7. Instead of spending your time with a shallow person in the name of company, invest it in a book. It will be more entertaining as well.

8. Someone who can’t praise themselves will inevitably start criticizing others. And this is when they have nothing much to talk about.

9. The idea that there is a difference between male logic and female logic is illogical in itself. You are either wise or you’re not.

10. If people try to make you feel guilty or grateful for their help, it is better that you pay them off for their services and let them go.

11. Someone who is really happy within himself wouldn’t find it necessary that others should think really good about him or her too.

12. Your biggest enemy is not someone lurking in the shadows, waiting for you to slip up. Your biggest enemy is you and facing this enemy can be really tough.

13. If you really have an uncontrollable urge to dig into things, dig into the details of philosophy or science, not into each other’s back.

14. Do not pay attention to insults and criticisms. The day you finally achieve your goals, none of the rest would matter.

15. If you really crave something in life, don’t wait around and definitely don’t ask for permission to have it. Rather try to become the one who can control this thing.

16. Happiness is not something that you chase after. It will not be found hidden in the great outdoors’ nook and cranny. It comes from deep within you and can only be achieved when you learn contentment.

17. Talking to your friends is a good thing no doubt. But when you talk with those who are your enemies, you learn so many new things. Your own shortcomings are just a few of the things. It is rather better to listen to your enemies, than friends.

18. Depression is bad, and frightful and hard. But it is also an opportunity to look deep within yourself. And find out what are the things that have been driving you forward or turning away.

19. If you are in a relationship, be it that of romantic inclination, or a business partnership, you should never break it off, unless you feel that your own growth has been suffocating and not able to take off when you were part of the said relationship.

20. When you try to talk to someone, don’t be afraid, they might actually think favorably of you.

21. If you are alone, especially if you face loneliness after love, it means you are mature and grown spiritually. Also, being alone sort of enhances our productivity.

22. Never be too selfish of your own happiness. When you share it with your friends it enhances your happiness by making them happy. When you share it with your rivals, they just have to deal with the idea that you are better than them.

People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time.
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5 Things Will Start To Happen When You Discover Your Hidden Power

When you discover your hidden power you’ll live the life of your dreams. You, me and everyone else around us has an inner power patiently waiting to be tackled. It’s not anti-gravity, or invisibility; it’s something that we possess in the mind.

Many people don’t believe they possess it, and that is why they never see it. We have warrior inside us that will fight to fulfill each and every one of our wishes. The power is called decisiveness, persistence and resolution.

We expect things to be easy, but they are not. No matter how bad you want something, there will be problems that must be tackled in order for you to grow. Why do you think most people are not successful, fulfilled and happy? Because they want things and feel certain emotions, but they never do the work. They just “wish” things were different but never take action in the physical world.

If you have what it takes, then these 5 things will start to happen when you discover your hidden power:

1. When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Learn To Face Your Fears, Even If They Terrify You

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” – Judy Blume

Fear can cripple your life. It has the power to immobilize your strength and paralyze you to the core.

When I say this, people immediately think that fear is the enemy. No, that’s not the case.

Fear will always exist and it is one of the most powerful guiding emotion you can possess. Thanks to fear, we have evolved to this beautiful creatures we are today.

When you discover your hidden power, you won’t use fear as an impairment. You will use it as a call to action!

We either run away from fear or chase pleasure. This is the basis of life. Let me give you an example:

Let me give you a simple example:

If you have extra pounds (let’s just assume that) you are getting short term pleasure from the extra calories you take through the day. To lose the extra pounds you will have to go through hardship and stressful cravings to get long term pleasure of your fit body, more energy, self-confidence and dexterity. Your emotions will tell you to grab that chocolate next to you because the more you do something, the more you strengthen the bond between the physical action and your brain. This is called neuroplasticity, and it’s actually brilliant. The more you do a simple task, the more it becomes ‘wired’ in your brain. So if you exercise every day you will get bound to it and it will get easier the more you do it. But this also means that if you eat chocolate every day, the more you will do it. The choice is yours.

You should understand your emotions. Not live by them.

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2. When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Become Grateful Even For The Little Things

When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Become Grateful Even For The Little Things
“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.” John F. Kennedy

No matter how many bad things happened in your life, I can guarantee you in this moment that you have SO many things to be grateful for.

I will give you a simple exercise, but you have to promise me, and most importantly, promise yourself that you will do it every morning. Promise yourself now that you will not skip a day without answering these questions every morning.

Are you ready? Here they are:

  1. Why am I happy in my life right now? What in my life makes me happy? How does that make me feel?
  2. Why am I excited in my life right now? What in my life makes me excited? How does that make me feel?
  3. For what am I most proud of in my life right now? What in my life makes me proud? How does that make me feel?
  4. What am I thankful for in my life right now? What in my life makes me thankful? How does that make me feel?
  5. In what do I enjoy most in my life right now? What in my life makes me joyful? How does that make me feel?
  6. What do I strive for in my life right now? What do I aspire to do in my life? How does that make me feel?
  7. Who do I love? Who loves me back? What about that person makes me be full of love? How does that make me feel?

Originally taken from Tony Robbins – Awaken The Giant Within these questions can truly help us make a drastic change for the better. If you constantly answer these questions every day, you will notice that you’ll start to feel happier, more fulfilled, excited, proud, thankful and loved.

3. When You Discover Your Hidden Power, You Realize That You Are Bigger Than Your Mind

When You Discover Your Hidden Power, You Realize That You Are Bigger Than Your Mind
Discover your hidden power to gain control over your emotions.

Oh, God bless we’ve been bestowed with this amazing tool called brain. However, let’s not forget that the little rascal up there is not always right.

As a matter of fact, he is always right, but how we interpret the signals is what makes the difference between how we feel and how we act upon that emotion.

Most of the “negative” emotions that we feel are calls to action. Let’s take an example: if you feel anxious about something, as trivial as the test you have on Wednesday, can be instantly changed if you learn the subject. You can easily lose the extra pounds that are making you insecure by exercising and healthy diet. You get my point?

Each of your emotions can be cured by some sort of physical action. The real problem is that we don’t do enough things in the 24 hours we have. We get easily shackled by the entertainment industry that is killing your potential. Unless you have return of investment of using social media on personal and professional level, I suggest you to stop using it immediately.

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4. You Believe In Yourself And Have Bigger Confidence

Discover your hidden power to boost your self-confidence and faith.

Part of discovering your inner power is being confident in your actions and having faith in yourself.

The more you do, the better you feel. Say you have a goal, and that goal is to lose 7 pounds this month. When you lose those pounds by diet and exercise, you’ll feel like you have more control over your life, right? The achievement of pursuing your goals and completing the same will give you massive boost of faith and confidence.

The same goes for business: if I have a goal to gain 300 more subscribers on my awesome platform this month, I will be even more confident in the things I do because we see results.

Bottom line is that confidence and faith comes from the things you do, not the things you think you do.

5. You Attract The Right Things

“The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself”

It’s amazing how things change when you define how you want to feel and where you want to be in the future.

If you follow the 4 steps above, you will notice that you attract things and people like a magnet.

The truth is that we are always magnets to things and people, but your magnet will not draw the good fruits if you do opposite of the things mentioned above. You will attract negativity, debt, bad people and life full of misery.

Your life is defined by the things you do. I see my actions as an antenna: the more I do good for others and chase my goals, the more people in that sphere I will attract. The right people, things and ‘good fruits’ will come to me, no matter how much time will it take.

If you want to discover your hidden inner power, do these things above and you will be amazed by your ability to achieve greatness!

You, me and everyone else around us has an inner power patiently waiting to be tackled. It's not anti-gravity, or invisibility; it's something that we possess in the mind.
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5 Awful Misconceptions About Money That Keep You From Getting Rich

Making money is not easy… duh. But what’s making it harder is the misconceptions we have about money.

Why does it seem that people who really want to make money never do? It has something to do with the misconception we have about money.

The biggest mistake I have ever made was that I was chasing money, and it seemed that I was chasing them away from me. When I finally realized that I should be focusing more on things like quality content, message and marketing, the money came pouring in.

Even after I made 800.000$, I was still unable to really “dig” money, and later on I discovered that I had awful misconception about money and the way I should treat them.

So here are 5 of the biggest misconceptions about money that is blocking you to be financially independent and stay there:

Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune -Jim Rohn

1. Money = Emotion (Wrong)

Let me put it in simpler terms. If you want to make money to feel happy, fulfilled or feel like a big shot, there is a high chance that you won’t make them and higher chance that you won’t sustain them. Oh, and yes. You will never feel those emotions once you make money.

Chasing something physical cannot make you happy or fulfilled. Even if you get them by chasing those emotions, you will feel even more depressed when you realize that you are not a tiny bit happier now that you have them.

We have to realize that anything physical — be it a Rolex or a Bentley — is not going to give us positive emotion on long-term. It’s actually based on science.

At the heart of it all, stuff makes us feel good, and we all love feeling good. Many human behaviors are rewarded with pleasurable feelings (caused by the chemical dopamine). Buying stuff can release those same pleasure chemicals, and for many of us, our natural addiction to feeling good can hence be easily satisfied by buying something.

2. More Money = Less Worries (Wrong)

As a matter of fact, the people with less worries are the bumps you see on the street. They worry about the basic human needs: food, water and shelter. If you want to have less worries, I suggest you to throw all your money away and join them.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I don’t say that if you make money you’ll have 1000x things to worry about and you’ll be overloaded with stress and problems. I am just saying that if your aim is to make money to have less problems, you’ve taken the wrong turn already.

Educating ourselves about finances and the way we should handle them, will make our life easier, but having more money to have less worries is wrong. Here’s why is that: when financially poor people worry about a lot of things in times of hardship, they start to imagine that finances will make it all go away in a blink of an eye, which in fact doesn’t come from a state of abundance, but a state of worry and scarcity.

3. Money = Security (Wrong)

While this can be partially true, money won’t make you secure. Let me explain why is that.

When a person thinks about security, they think about predictability. Humans have the need to know what’s going to happen next. We just can’t stand not knowing about the outcome of our actions.

When we flirt with a man or a woman in a bar, we want to know what they are going to say back, right? “Are we getting declined or accepted as company?” We hate the lack of predicament in the everyday life.

Thinking that money will decrease the predicament is wrong, especially if your security means predicament (which I am 99.9% that it does). Success comes with a price, and one of the cost is taking risks, sometimes higher than the ones we can take. This in turn will decrease the “security” we imagine to get from money. So no. Money is not security in terms of predicament.

4. Money = Debt Free (Wrong)

Having a company comes with a lot of costs. From office space to employees, to gear, digital servers to taxes to a bazillion other things, company will put you in more financial debt and stress if you lack knowledge to sustain and grow it.

And here’s one brilliant example: what’s the difference between someone who makes $50.000 a year with a $100.000 mortgage and someone who makes $500.000 a year with a $1.000.000 million mortgage? Answer: nothing. Unless they have money set aside for emergencies, they’re both a paycheck away from disaster, especially the one with higher mortgage.

Debt often rises with income. What keeps you out of debt isn’t a high income or net worth. It’s not borrowing money.

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5. Money = Love (Wrong)

The only thing that money will bring is a gold digger that will take your money away.

By aiming to find love with money, you attract people who love money more than love, because that’s your reflection on relationship, love and money. We attract the things we are.

Yes, sometimes having more cash in your pocket can take you to a fancier dinner, but that has nothing to do with love. You can have the loveliest date on a picnic in nature that will probably cost you less than a glass of wine in a fancy restaurant.

Bottom Line – Money = Freedom (CORRECT)

To me, money is freedom. Yes, we can still say that money will make you “shackled” to something that is opposite of freedom, but let me explain.

When you work something out of passion and have a clear vision about the future of it, you reap an extraordinary power to make that thing work. You will educate yourself, practice it, and learn it until you master it. If you can find that job of your dreams, then you’ll truly feel what I am saying (I hope that you already did).

When you set you company and put the chess pieces in place by applying the knowledge, your company will give you the real freedom that we all search in all forms and emotions.

If you truly look at each and every one of the misconceptions we mentioned above, you will find Freedom piece in each and every one.

Don’t chase money. Chase your personal development to create a company that will truly set you free.

So here are 5 of the biggest misconception about money that is blocking you to be financially independent and stay there:
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5 Warning Signs The Social Media Destroys Your Life

When I sit in a coffee shop with my friends, it’s almost impossible to see everyone around me chatting and having a lovely cup of coffee. Nowadays people stare at the screen All. The. Time.

I can easily say that 90% of the people who go out to socialize (especially in the younger generation) spend the time on their phones instead of socializing in person.

What’s interesting is that there’s nothing really “social” in social network. If you use it the way it’s not meant to be used, it has the potential to steal your time and destroy your life.

I am almost 29 years old, and I am happy to say that I didn’t grow up in a time where social media was omnipresent. Although when I was 13 years old social media platforms increased with rapid speed.

But hey! All is not bad. You can actually use the social media to benefit you.

The way the algorithm works is that you get shown what you’re most interested in. If you click funny cats and dogs you will see funny cats and dogs all day. The same goes for self-improvement. If you click on videos that are truly inspirational, you will be shown ads and videos about self-improvement. If you use that to your benefit, it’s a win-win situation. However, people don’t usually do that.

To explain a bit more, here are the 5 alarming signs that the social media destroys your life: (and how to fix it)

5 Warning Signs The Social Media Destroys Your Life

1. Insecurity is booming

If you follow travel pages and hauntingly beautiful Russian girls on Instagram, when you scroll your feed you’ll realize that your life sucks. All you see is flawless selfies, exotic photos of Maldives, Thailand and Seychelles. And there you are with your phone sitting at home looking at stunning places you haven’t visited. This is the illusion that the social media gives you. It’s a competition: you life sucks, mine doesn’t. I am more beautiful than you. I have more money than you.

The illusion of not having the choice to be that good, make that much money and travel all those places is making you highly insecure and demotivated. Someone is “living your dream” and you don’t.

Then you falsely believe that everything is based on luck, beauty, or money, which will lead you to be desperate and depressed.

2. Major distraction

I don’t know what’s worse: wasting our own precious time that we can never get back, or looking at the lives of other people?

If you don’t create “social” environment on your social media account that will help you grow on personal and professional level, why the hell are you using it? If you truly want to socialize you have 510.1 million km² outside of your home.

The way we see at social media today is like an “easy” fix. If you are bored you just take the phone and open Instagram. Not interested in the conversation you are having with your buddy? Just open TikTok and keep on scrolling.

Again, don’t get me wrong. Social media is brilliant if you use it as you should (we will talk about that in the last part of this article) but if you use it as a form of escapism, or simply to run away from the imperfections of your own life, then you are already in the trap.

3. Debilitating addiction

If you can’t go a few hours, or a day without it, you are addicted.

Due to the effect that it has on the brain, social media is physical and psychological addition. According to a study by Harvard University, self-disclosure on social networking sites lights up the same part of the brain that also ignites when taking an addictive substance.

When someone experiences something rewarding, or uses an addictive substance, neurons in the primary dopamine-producing areas in the brain are activated, causing dopamine levels to rise. Therefore, the brain receives a “reward” and associates the drug or activity with positive reinforcement.

When you get a notification, such as a like, comment or mention, the brain receives a rush of dopamine and sends it along reward pathways, causing you to feel pleasure.

Social media provides an endless amount of immediate rewards in the form of attention from others for relatively minimal effort. Therefore, the brain rewires itself through this positive reinforcement, making people desire likes, retweets, and emoticon reactions. (Source)

Overusing social media, especially if you have no profit from it, will become a debilitating addiction that will steal your time and life.

4. Social Anxiety

For someone who is prone to social anxiety, overusing social media can and will make it worse.

We use social media to connect with others (at least that was the “idea”) but the whole concept of “connecting” with others just doesn’t fit. It doesn’t have real interactions with people.

As much as we believe that we are always connected with each and every person in our life (nowadays even your grandparents have social media) we fail to realize that the more we use it the more we distance from people. Because the truth is that we are “already” connected on social media, right? Even though that’s far from the truth.

The fact is that if you’re spending an excessive amount of time on social media and feelings of sadness, dissatisfaction, frustration, or loneliness are impacting your life, it may be time to re-examine your online habits and find a healthier balance.

Instead, why don’t we connect outside on a bench with a cup of coffee and have real interactions with people that don’t stare at the screens?

5. Productivity killer

It’s no strange why Bill Gates and Warren Buffett accredit focus to be the most important thing about their success.

Just as I was writing this, I forgot to put away my phone and my Facebook messenger buzzed next to me. I completely lost my focus and forgot what I was trying to write.

The unrestricted usage of social media is having a negative impact on workplace productivity, as employees spend more than 32% of their time on social media every day for personal work, says a study.

We don’t just scroll, like or comment things. We waste the precious time we have on this Earth. I always say this, but we fail to realize that our time is limited. One day it’s all going to end. If you don’t use the time you have to be productive and create something meaningful in your life, you are going to waste it scrolling and imagining things you could’ve had.

How to use social media to your benefit

The algorithm works according to your needs. If you follow people or websites that doesn’t help you grow or be better, it’s your choice that you did that.

Here’s what I propose that you do right now: unfollow every page, company, or public figure that don’t offer you real value that will improve your life. When I did that, I felt like I am leftover from the rest of the world. I am not following new style trends, fashion shows, home decorations or Russian models. But here’s why that’s great: I followed every self-improvement coach and author that give me real value. I also followed influencers that share new things about marketing, dropshipping and things that help me grow my business.

The point is to create a circle that will benefit you most. Don’t consume every “sweet” thing that is posted on social media. Be selective about the things and knowledge that comes in your life. If you suck everything you see or being told about, you will roam aimlessly in fear controlled by the social media and the news.

Create your niche, nurture it, and upgrade yourself every day. That’s how you benefit from social media.

Here are the 5 alarming signs that the social media destroys your life: (and how to fix it)
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Everyone Wants To Be Happy But No One Asks These 7 Questions

As I was running this morning, I created the perfect scenario in my head: what if everyone was happy? What if everyone was happy by taking action to achieve their personal and financial goals? What if everyone was financially independent and didn’t have the burden of debt and foreclosure?

While that’s an impossible scenario it got me thinking: what do people do to be happy most of their time? How different do they perceive things?

It’s no mistake that our feelings are based on the things we do, but how would you sparkle a desired in someone to take action and chase their dreams?

In my videos, I always speak about the importance of taking action, but I rarely speak about the crucial precedents of taking action in the physical reality.

Some people may have it more natural than others, but this doesn’t mean that we can’t wire ourselves to take action and feel amazing most of the time.

Three people facing the same problem can react completely different. One can be extremely pissed, the second can be a little nervous, and the third can find solution while being enthusiastic in the process. The question is: why can one person react so much different than the others, while having the same exact problem?

“If you want the answer—ask the question.”

The answer lies in the questions

The internal questions we ask ourselves have enormous power and influence over our lives. Let’s take an example: if two people want to lose weight and one succeeds to do so, huge part of it is due to the internal questions they ask themselves. If you ask yourselves “What type of food would make me full?” or “What is the sweetest food I can eat that will make me lose weight?” then you are going to be asserted to eat food with even more sugar and carbs, but if you ask yourselves “What type of food would provide me with the nutrients that I truly need?” or “What type of healthy food should I eat to have more energy?” will assert you to eat healthier food that will result in losing the extra weight.

The same goes for the three people that were facing the same exact problem. They were all feeling different about it based on the question they asked themselves. The extremely pissed dude was probably asking himself “Why am I so unlucky?”. The guy that was little nervous probably asked himself “Why did this happen to me?”, while the third person asked himself “How can I solve this problem while being enthusiastic in the process?”. You will instantly see who can solve the problem, based on these questions.

If we know all this, why don’t we fix the internal questions that we ask ourselves every day?

Yesterday I wrote about the simple trick will instantly make your life 1000x better, but I didn’t cover the questions we should be asking every morning.

The morning is the most important part of the day. It’s part of the day that we wire ourselves to do better or worse. Many of the people (and unfortunately this may include you) ask themselves: what’s new on social media? and then they grab the phones and scroll for 30 minutes straight. The answer to this question is not going to help you on personal or professional level.

Every morning, there’s a simple scheme of questions we should be asking ourselves. These questions will make you happier, thankful and grateful human being every day. This way you can wire yourself to ask better questions that will ease your problem solving formula and enjoy the process. If you have a hard time finding answers, add “can I” in the questions. For example if the questions is “for what am I happy right now?” rephrase it “for what can I be happy right now?”. This should be used only if you can’t find an answer.

Everyone Wants To Be Happy But No One Asks These 7 Questions

  1. Why am I happy in my life right now? What in my life makes me happy? How does that make me feel?
  2. Why am I excited in my life right now? What in my life makes me excited? How does that make me feel?
  3. For what am I most proud of in my life right now? What in my life makes me proud? How does that make me feel?
  4. What am I thankful for in my life right now? What in my life makes me thankful? How does that make me feel?
  5. In what do I enjoy most in my life right now? What in my life makes me joyful? How does that make me feel?
  6. What do I strive for in my life right now? What do I aspire to do in my life? How does that make me feel?
  7. Who do I love? Who loves me back? What about that person makes me be full of love? How does that make me feel?

Originally taken from Tony Robbins – Awaken The Giant Within these questions can truly help us make a drastic change for the better. If you constantly answer these questions every day, you will notice that you’ll start to feel happier, more fulfilled, excited, proud, thankful and loved.

Do not take thees questions for granted. Answer them every morning until they become your daily ritual.

“If you want the answer—ask the question.”
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This Simple Trick Will Instantly Make Your Life 1000x Better

We can either be our own best friends or our own worst enemies.

Not a single person on earth is the same and that’s the beauty of it.

I frequently ask myself series of questions about my business: “What’s the difference between her/his/their approach that’s making their business better than mine? How can I improve my business to help spread my knowledge with more people around the world?”

I also ask series of questions about my personal development and everything that I stumble upon. You may not realize it, but we keep on asking ourselves questions for each and everything that we encounter.

Your set of beliefs is creating the questions for you. For example if you are pessimist and negative person, you are going to ask yourselves wrong questions that will make you even more pessimistic and negative. The answers to those same questions made you pessimist and negative person in the first place.

Let’s take a simple example: If two people see the same successful person, one person can ask themselves “How did they got so lucky?”. This question will give them answer that won’t benefit them in any way on their personal growth, while the second person can ask “What kind of moves did they make to become successful?”. The second person can really benefit and grow on personal level if he dig even deeper about the true story behind the success of the X person.

This Simple Trick Will Instantly Improve Your Life

Our belief system is the key riddle that will change how we approach things in our life. The perception we have, the questions we ask and the answers we get is the result of our belief system.

Let’s take an extreme example: if a man says that all women are the same, we all know that’s far from the truth. Because of one bad person you can’t judge the whole humanity. This in turn will draw even more bad women around him because he will attract them by asking himself the wrong questions, or even worse, he will never date another woman.

And I’ve seen this way more often then I should. People judge everyone else, sometimes even the entire countries, based on experience of one or two people from that country.

These stereotypes we create for ourselves can truly damage our way of thinking and problem solving by asking ourselves the wrong questions and getting wrong answers.

How Can We Implement The Simple Trick Will Instantly Improve Our Life

No matter what type of belief system you have right now, I can guarantee you that you can improve it by applying this simple trick.

The way you are right now (pessimist or optimist) is the set of questions you were asking in the past. In order to change that, we have to change our questions. First let me ask you few questions. Read them, stop, and think about them for a minute:

  1. What are some of the most precious moments in my life?
  2. Can I recall them right now and grasp the feeling I was having back then?
  3. What is the best thing about my life right now?

Did they instantly make you feel good? If you truly did them the way you should, they would instantly make you happier.

The thing is that the questions we ask have the power to immediately change the way we feel. If I ask you what’s the worst thing that happened to you we both know that the question won’t make you feel good, right?

In the beginning, you may have to force yourself to ask yourself positive questions because if you are pessimist, you are not going to come up with questions that will make you better on personal and professional level.

The trick I use is that I always try to get the positive benefit out of a situation.

My granddad passed away recently during a surgery, and while I instantly asked myself “Why is life so unfair?”, I had to make a different approach. I asked myself “Which were some of the best moments we had together?” and “What was he so grateful for?” because from these questions I can feel good about his life, instead of getting depressed by the whole situation.

We can master ourselves and we have that power. The only thing that’s blocking you from mastering yourself is your belief that you can’t. We all know we shouldn’t watch Netflix all day, or eat unhealthy most of the time, or waste our time on social media, and yet most of the people still do it. Maybe it’s time to bite your tongue and ask yourself different questions: “How can this benefit me in 1-3-5 years from now?”. The answer is clear to most of us, but we need to ask the right questions.

This Simple Trick Will Instantly Make Your Life 1000x Better
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5 Things You Must Do To Uncover The Endless Potential That Is Slowly Dying In You

We are all limitless. Just like the pill Bradley Cooper swallows in the movie “Limitless”, we have endless potential resting inside us. But here comes the problem: we are so attached to laziness and comfort that we fail to realize that we need to do a lot crucial steps to take that potential inside out. That’s why we are easily consumed by the entertainment industry. If we want a hot meal on our lap we will order Dominos and it will be on the doorstep in less than 30 minutes. Easy-peasy.

Now more than ever, we have the biggest freedom of choice.

I’ve said this in one of my videos and I will say it again: I don’t really care that you use your freedom to play video games all day. I don’t care if you scroll on your smartphone through each and every social network, watching fun cats and dogs. I don’t care if you watch Netflix all day and just chill with few cans of beer and Doritos. What really grinds my gears is when you complain that you don’t have the job of your dreams, when you are not achieving your goals, that your life is not exciting, or that your life is not going according to your plan and as a result you are starting to be depressed.

I firmly believe, and I am a living proof that we have the utmost power to change our situation, no matter how hard it gets. We have the utmost power to get out of poverty and make millions. We have the utmost power lo leave a toxic relationship and shift our life 180 degrees for the better. We have the utmost power to stop being depressed in a blink of an eye. By doing the things I mentioned above, you will get depressed because depression is lacking the meaning of life. If you do nothing for a longer period of time, being depressed is inevitable. Also, giving your whole life to another person may result in depression if the other person leaves you.

There are many more ways you can be affected by depression, but I can almost guarantee you that if you have a clear goal which will consist of improving yourself and the people around you, you will never have a problem with depression again.

Our lack of direction, laziness and unfinished tasks is the foundation of permanent failure.

Everything can be changed in a blink of an eye, and that starts with your decision to get that resting potential out of you and paint the whole world with it.

5 Things You Must Do To Uncover The Endless Potential That Is Slowly Dying In You

Here are 5 things you must do to uncover the endless potential that is slowly dying in you:

1. Fix your thoughts

At first, this may seem like the most crappy thing to say to a person. However, this is the first and most powerful stepping stone in setting the pillars to shift your life.

When I first started mindfulness meditation, I was trying to calm myself. Little did I know that mediation and calmness were 2 different worlds (although after a while you will get calmer as a result of what I am about to say).

When I sat in those 15 minutes every morning, I was completely shocked to observe my thoughts. I came to a realization that I was obsessing myself with people and things that I haven’t see for months or even years! Here’s exactly what I thought about: “what did she mean when she said I won’t come with you? Okay why he didn’t wave me back yesterday? Maybe he was nervous because I didn’t greet him the other day. Okay I have to buy almond milk and taste it”. This was the thought pattern I had when I first started meditation. How on earth are you going to achieve greatness if you think irrelevant thoughts every 7 seconds? That’s just not possible. And I can almost guarantee that this is the thought pattern of 99% of the people in this world.

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become your character.
And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

Try whatever habit suits your needs. Mindfulness meditation and few other strange habits helped me build my foundation of my thought pattern first so I could manifest them in physical reality.

Just please (I am begging you here) look at your own thoughts more than you look at others. This is the only path to discover your true self and make a drastic change within you.

2. Find your direction

Many of us roam aimlessly like nomads. I have personally asked everyone around me and only 3 out of 100 people have a sense of where they want to be in the next 5-10 years.

Most people live day by day. They don’t invest in themselves, nor in their financial freedom. Everything they know and live by is a mix-up of “he said she said” from those around them.

It’s really strange to me why people act like they are going to live forever? The most brutal and inspirational thing I’ve heard was “you are going to die and you don’t know when.” When I first heard this years ago, I couldn’t lie down and rest. I was forcing myself to do a lot more every day because the brutal truth is that we are all going to die one day. It is our obligation to leave positive mark on this world and leave it a bit better than before.

To find how we are going to do that takes a lot of trial and error. You are never born with a direction. You must jump from one job to another and never settle by any means necessary. When you find your purpose, the job you were “created” to work, your whole self will know it immediately.

When I first found out about the limitless potential online, and how many things you can connect and share your vision with the world, I was blown away!

So by any means necessary, never settle until you find the one job that will truly unlock your endless potential in you.

3. Take massive levels of action

We are very fluffy when it comes to action. Do 30 minutes of focused work and you are tired and distracted.

The brain is also a muscle like your biceps. The more you do it, the better you perform it. If you put yourself in the shoes of Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk for a week, I can guarantee you 2 things: heart attack and stroke. We are not on that level to put up with all that stress, obligation and action.

Motion determines emotion. If you want to destroy overthinking or even depression, the best cure is to do.

Humans were made to move. There are so many detrimental health effects of not moving, but today’s technology is moving so swiftly that we mostly lead sedentary lifestyle due to work. Overtime this can completely destroy our health and wellbeing.

By taking action, massive levels of action we are slowly digging our endless potential and we let it shine with the world. We must focus more on the external things in order to make our internal things better. This means that we must take action and put our skill out in the world in order to improve ourselves on personal and professional level. If you want to lose weight you are not going to lose by “thinking” about it. You are losing weight by eating less calories than you spend. If you want to improve your fitness level you exercise. You don’t think about exercising. Every change you want to make requires you to do stuff instead of thinking about doing.

When we focus too much internally we become consumed with ourselves. This can become really damaging because we are social creatures. When we focus externally we let our light shine with those around us by giving, sharing and helping others.

I highly suggest you to read 10X by uncle G. It will reveal to you the crucial importance of taking 10x more action. It is simply a brilliant book for anyone who want to do a lot more with the short time we are given on this Earth.

4. Don’t go by your emotions, understand them

On the road to your personal and professional fulfillment, you will be stressed, afraid, frustrated, anxious and what not. You are not going to be positive 24/7, or excited all the time.

There will be obstacles on the way that will frustrate the sh*t out of you, but it will require your persistence in order to overcome them. We can only continue and persist under difficult circumstances only if we tie our actions to a grand goal, or a vision.

Long time ago I heard a very successful dude say: your vision should be something that you cannot complete so it will push you to do a lot more than you goal.

For example: if you are in the weight loss industry your vision should be to make everyone fit. That is just impossible. But your goal should be something that you can achieve, for example: 1000 people fit thanks to your mentorship program.

Your road to success will be filled with many many negative emotions that will try to pull you down. Frustrations and stress are the most common that will eventually kill your short term motivation. In order to understand your emotions you will have to understand only one thing: you either run away from fear, or try to get quick pleasure. Let me give you a simple example:

If you have extra pounds (let’s just assume that) you are getting short term pleasure from the extra calories you take through the day. To lose the extra pounds you will have to go through hardship and stressful cravings to get long term pleasure of your fit body and more energy. Your emotions will tell you to grab that chocolate next to you because the more you do something, the more you strengthen the bond between the physical action and your brain. This is called neuroplasticity, and it’s actually brilliant. The more you do a simple task, the more it becomes ‘wired’ in your brain. So if you exercise every day you will get bound to it and it will get easier the more you do it. But this also means that if you eat chocolate every day, the more you will do it. The choice is yours.

You should understand your emotions. Not live by them.

5. Master your skill and update it

The last step is to master the skill. Whatever it is that you want to be in your life, you have to master it and update it consistently.

Especially if you are working online. In my case, Facebook algorithm has changed so many times that I couldn’t go a day without learning something new, or else I won’t keep up with the changes and be able to profit from it.

This goes for anything. Whether you’re in professional sports, marketing, or managing a website, you have to master it and update it every day.

We have to be better all the time. That’s how we grow. It’s okay to go one step back as long as you do three steps forward.

I personally made this mistake and it cost me a LOT. I created a business that was generating me enormous amount of money (one month I made 54.000$ which I speak more about in my course) and I was working 1 hour a day without upgrading the business and adding new branches to it. Then all of a sudden the algorithm changed and my business model completely collapsed like a house of cards. Then I had to find another way to do it and I did, but I potentially lost million bucks in two years because I thought I made it till the end line (which was one the biggest mistake I have made).

If you do something and follow these steps above, you are going to make it. I can guarantee you that. But the story doesn’t stop there. You have to improve it every day and grow it. Nurture it. If your energy is not into it, it will die eventually. No matter if it’s business, skill, or even a language.

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15 Morning Habits of Successful and Highly Organized People

For people who over-work themselves, mornings are generally the time of the devil. We never want to get out of bed at society-approved hours. However, having a sloppy morning affects the activity levels for the rest of the day. It is important that we start our day with a strong foot forward, in order to balance out the tidings of the hours to come.

Here are 15 tips on how to improve and increase the productivity level for the day, starting in the morning.

1. GET OUT OF BED EARLY

Now, I know this sounds like I just asked you to eat broccoli or something. Truth is, there is a reason why this is a popular norm. Making your body clock come back to normal and lead to a very refreshing day, waking up earlier than usual can definitely increase the productivity level for your day, even though you may think otherwise.

2. KEEP AWAY FROM YOUR PHONE

It has been scientifically proven that social media is making us more depressed. The first thing you see in the morning should not involve a barrage of hate messages on Twitter or your Facebook news feed.

3. BE GRATEFUL

Stop and appreciate what you have. Take a moment each morning, to take time off the race, and appreciate how far you have gotten.

4. DO ONE THING THAT MAKES YOU SMILE

It could be petting your dog, or reading a few pages from a new book. My go-to activity in the morning is waking up before everybody else, and standing at the balcony with a warm cup of coffee nestled between my palms.

5. ASK YOURSELF IMPORTANT QUESTIONS

What is on your self-love agenda today? How could you make your to-do list seem fun? How much time are you going to allot for your mental health?

6. CREATE A ROUTINE

It is not just enough to have a rough idea of what you’re going to do on that day. Unless you plan out the timings of the task, you are only setting an extremely unrealistic goal for yourself to achieve.

7. STRATEGIZE YOUR GOALS

What is your next step in life? I, for one, like to live my life by a diagram. I need everything chalked into Venn diagrams, and pie charts. Sometimes, that’s problematic, but mostly, extremely rewarding.

8. SET GOALS THAT ARE REALISTIC

Unless you do that, you are setting yourself up to a lifetime of failed ventures. Nobody loves feeling unnecessarily inadequate, right? If you set realistic dreams, you have a higher chance of achieving them.

9. MEDITATION IS KEY

There is a brilliant app called HeadSpace that guides you through meditative exercises. You can go from 5 minutes to 5 hours, or anywhere in between. It is easy to do, and highly effective in detoxifying your mental state.

10. CLEAN

Living in a chaotic space might seem convenient, but it is never advisable for a healthy lifestyle. In trying to de-clutter your household, you will find it to be a calming exercise, leading to the de-cluttering of your mind.

11. EXERCISE

Most people think working out serves the sole purpose of losing weight. That could not be further from the truth. A healthy body positively affects our mind, making it a healthier unit.

12. GET DONE WITH THE TASKS YOU’VE BEEN PUTTING OFF

The only thing worse than deadlines, is the day they all pile up into a gigantic mountain. Rid yourself of the tasks you have been putting off for days. It will give you much less to worry about.

13. HUG THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE AND CARE FOR

Consent is necessary. I’d like to mention that from the go. Hugging people you love will make you feel much happier, and an exchange of positive energy will take place.

14. FREE UP SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF

You need to always have some me-time planned for you, each day. Just like your office and household tasks, your being needs your attention too. Spending time with yourself is imperative for a happy life.

15. GET SOME HEAD-START ON THE NIGHT BEFORE

Before you go to bed, arrange for all the things you will need in the morning. It not only saves time, but your future self with thank you immensely. Believe me, I have done that. Treat yourself the same way you’d treat your best friend.

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Stunning Review Of 17 Differences Between Successful And Unsuccessful People

It’s the determined mindset that rules the world of the successful people, but how can we attain the so-called “determined mindset”?

Determined mindset is structured from habits that are always harder to reach. Should I finish my task, or should I go out first? A lot of people decide to do the former, rather than the first.

It’s always, ALWAYS a struggle to reach the point of stability and self-confidence where it never occurs to us that we may fail in life. That point, my friends, is the top of the mountain, or the “determined mindset.”

To reach that point (at least verbally) we will expand the topic in 17 differences between successful and unsuccessful people.

1. CRITICIZE VS. COMPLIMENT

Criticizing is easily done, but it’s hard to give even a slight compliment. We often compliment the “weak ties” or not-so-close relatives, but we forget to complement our close ones.

Not only in friends and family, but in our workplace we have to embrace our colleagues too. You wouldn’t believe how many people want to be around you when you sincerely tell them that “they did a good job”, or “their dress is glamorous.” Try it. You will be amazed.

2. SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT VS. SENSE OF GRATITUDE

There are two sacks in our soul. One is ego and one is gratitude. The ego is really not a bad thing if we don’t feed it with each and everything. If you see that the ego is the “worth” of the person you will grasp that it’s really important thing. However, the ego is not for feeding, although it’s always hungry.

The other sac, where the gratitude is located, we need to feed it every day with each and everything we are thankful for. The man who lost his shoes was walking depressed barefoot until he saw a guy with no legs.

Appreciate what you have, always.

3. TAKE ALL THEIR CREDIT OF THEIR VICTORIES VS. GIVE OTHER PEOPLE CREDIT FOR THEIR VICTORIES

You see, one man cannot make a miracle. Whatever it is, however it may turn out, there will always be a group of people (or a chain reaction of people) that made enormous change. Even if we manage to do enormous thing by ourselves, we were triggered by our closed relatives (parents, friends, acquaintances, family etc ..). Even it could be a trigger by our last girlfriend that left us!

Successful people share their victories and give other people credit for their victories.

4. WATCH TV EVERYDAY VS. READ EVERY DAY

Reading itself expands our visualization, enriches our vocabulary and forms a way of virtually visualizing situations and images that no movie can. Not to mention that the news are always telling us things we don’t want to hear.

Don’t get me wrong. Watching TV is not forbidden, but reading shouldn’t be switched for TV. Successful people just don’t have time to do both.

5. TALK ABOUT PEOPLE VS. TALK ABOUT IDEAS

Talking about other people is the lowest level of conversation. It goes from the bottom (talking about people) to the middle (talking about events) and finally the top (talking about ideas.)

Strive to talk about ideas or at least events. Never discuss about people. That’s so low that you will be splashing in the pond instead of lurking in the ocean. Imagine that.

6. EXUDE ANGER VS. EXUDE JOY

To get to success, we cannot be exuding anger. It will never lead to a success.

Success is positive emotion and since positivity is a way of joy, we need to force that as an aura. We have to enjoy what we do to climb the mountain of success. No one on earth is successful by climbing the mountain angry. They just don’t attract each other.

Be joyful and wanted in your environment. You will be one step closer to your personal success.

7. HORDE INFORMATION AND DATA VS. SHARE INFORMATION AND DATA

When someone says “I shared” the information, it has to be analyzed before you get to the next level. We are able to say the same thing with different tone and body language and it will end up having completely different meaning.

For example “Give me the salt” with a smile and gratitude can be different if we say it with elevated voice and shaded eyes. Successful people share information and data precisely as they want to be understood.

8. FEAR CHANGE VS. EMBRACE CHANGE

It’s really dividable on people who are elastic to change and people who fear to make any step further. It’s like giving people a choice: either make the leap of faith (fear of the unknown) or stay comfy with your life you are living now. The choice we need to make is ours and ours only.

We all know the choice successful people make. That’s not quantum physics.

9. FLY BY THEIR SEAT OF THEIR PANTS VS. KEEP A “TO-DO/PROJECT” LISTS

The meaning fly by their seat of their pants means to “decide a course of action as you go along, using your own initiative and perceptions rather than a pre-determined plan or mechanical aids.”

The part where we use our initiative and perceptions to determine our course of actions is kind of better, but if keep that way without to-do lists and projects, we won’t make it far. That’s the style of a gambler. Not a style of successful person.

By some scientific research, we have 60.000 thoughts per day and 95% are from the previous day! That thing can’t be managed without to-do lists and taking notes.

10. HOLD A GRUDGE VS. FORGIVE OTHERS

Forgiving others saves enormous amount of time while holding grudges will take that precious time away.

People are not aware that one day they will be gone and how did they spend their time? Holding grudges? When we sincerely find the answer to these questions we will be forgiving everybody for everything.

Remember, forgive, but never forget.

11. BLAME OTHERS FOR THEIR FAILURES VS. ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR FAILURES

Even though sometimes it’s really not our fault, we cannot blame people for their mistakes and failures, especially if we are head of that department (or the whole firm.) We are unity; we work as a team and fail as a team. If that person keeps doing mistakes you can always pick your own squad.

Successful people see things as a whole, not as a unit.

12. “SAY” THEY KEEP A JOURNAL VS. KEEP A JOURNAL

Journal is the most sacred thing a man can possess.

Not because you write down your secrets and not-so-ordinary thoughts, but because that’s the only time you express your emotions in the real world. They are now on a paper (or on your WordPress.) Journal is a must!

Talk to yourself in actions, rather than wandering and staying in your head.

13. SECRETLY HOPE OTHERS FAIL VS. WANT OTHERS TO SUCCEED

Even our close relatives (just make a little test) want to see us fail. It’s because of the challenge that lives in all of us since prehistoric times. Everybody wants to see you do good, but not better than them.

Of course this can be changed, but they don’t bother to see it like that.

People who don’t work hard will never lay success in their hands and people who work hard know how it feels like to work your way to success.

So the only people who want to see you fail are the ones who never try to do anything with their life and rather stay in the comfort zone forever.

Honestly, people who do better than us should be our personal motivation and a spark of inspiration. See them that way. You will heal yourself from your dirty secret.

14. DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT TO BE VS. KEEP A “TO-BE” LISTS

One honest simple question can be entangling most of the world’s population. “WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE?”

People fear that they might become successful and never seem to start to think “what they want to be.” It’s really one simple question that is unknown to most.

On this question, I will suggest one exercise. Take a piece of paper, write the question down in the middle of the paper and connect arrows with everything you would like to be. Force yourself to think on it, deeply, even for 30 minutes, and finally start writing. It’s the first question you need to answer that will change your life, believe me.

After knowing what you would like to be (if you don’t know) you will know where you should be headed.

15. NEVER SET GOALS VS. SET GOALS AND DEVELOP LIFE PLANS

Successful people have goals. It’s no secret.

They write it on a paper (what they would like to achieve in 3, 6, 9, 12 months.) It’s bewildering how a thing can become reality if we put it on a piece of paper and read it every day twice (as soon as we wake up and before we go to sleep.) The idea is to surround ourselves with the personal goals.

Start your day with your personal prayer and end it with it. I will guarantee that your mind will unconsciously strive towards that thing.

16. THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL VS. CONTINUOUSLY LEARN

No one knows it all. If one” knows it all” the person will go nuts, and no one want’s to go nuts.

Instead, we need to face a direction, say, fitness trainer and continuously improve in that direction with work and practice.

Matthew McConaughey and Denzel Washington were not that entertaining the first time they acted in a movie. Thomas Edison didn’t invent the light-bulb from the first try.

Life is continuous learning.

17. OPERATE FROM A TRANSACTIONAL PERSPECTIVE VS. OPERATE FROM A TRANSFORMATIONAL PERSPECTIVE

People who will never respect you and see you only as a free pass in the future will always count you as “I owe you one” and “You owe me one.” No, forget that! Move away from those people, and if you find yourself in that possition change ASAP!

Successful people don’t count help on a paper. They help to see themselves growing, not to calculate and to put their pressure on their friends and business.

Moreover, everything is said here. You can find most of your surrounding described up here. If you want to change them, pass them this writing. I am sure they will thank you later.

It’s the determined mindset that rules the world of the successful people, but how can we attain the so-called “determined mindset”?