When we see all those successful stories in the media, it looks like people just get lucky. No work, or given effort, just pure luck on a whim. They wake up one day and they see a suitcase full of money… and 10 more in the garage.
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Success is a relevant term thou. Many people don’t see success as having millions of dollars in the bank, or having 3000 square meters house on a hill. Some people see success as a result of a happy family, or being able to travel whenever they want. So success is a relevant term, but the success we will discuss today is the thing that can be applied in everything.
If things don’t come easy to you, but they appear as they do to others, you’ve been missing a crucial point. First, there is no such a thing as overnight success. Even (and this is probably impossible scenario) if you become overnight success and you get 100 million dollar check right now, what’s going to happen is that you’ll probably be broke in the next couple of years.
This is what happens when people win the powerball, which is the highest amount won on the lottery. Many people end up depressed, or highly disappointed from their loved ones because they all want is to take piece of the money pie. Most of them spend like crazy which ruins their life, others end up on drug addiction and even dead.
It’s no strange why they say that the devil is hidden behind everything you’ve ever wanted. If you want 1 billion dollars right now and a house on the hills, they could be the #1 reason to your life of misery and self-destructive behavior.
Then, should we stop wanting better things for us?
No, we should never stop wanting better for us and those around us. But we shouldn’t rush things, because as I’ve said before, we should enjoy the journey. Not the end goal.
If you want something, and you get it without sweating one drop for it, you will NEVER appreciate that thing. This same things happens to parents who spoil their kids. They buy them everything they want and they grow up to be spoiled brats. They won’t appreciate the value of money, and they certainly won’t appreciate the value of hard work and persistence.
For me personally, nothing came easy. Most of the things I’ve started working 2-3 years back, now start to grow the fruits. Before, it was just countless hours of work put in into something that might be a successful story one day.
If things don’t come easy for you, DON’T GIVE UP. Believe me, I was one of those people who used to see at the screen and droll over people who were claimed by the media to be “overnight” success. I thought the world was against me, and against everything I ever do. The first two years I made only 2 bucks a day, and I was working 8-10 hours non-stop (including Sundays). Until one day I woke up to see thousand dollars on my dashboard…. I couldn’t believe my eyes. IT WAS ALL WORTH IT. I had goosebumps all over my body and I felt like everyone in the world should know about it… little did I know that not many people want to see you doing better than them, but let’s leave that for another video.
There are 3 major factors that I’ve personally felt to be very important when you feel like the world is giving to everyone but you.
1. Be grateful that things don’t come easy for you
This is probably something you thought you won’t hear, but before you have anything to say against it, hear me out.
When you are stubborn as a goat, and you won’t stop for anything less than success, you will make it. DELETE time out of the equation, because some people get it sooner than you, and I don’t say that it’s fair or not. I am saying that your journey on the way to your goal will teach you a LOT more than the goal itself.
It may be strange for me to say this, but the time I was struggling most, when I almost had no option but to work and succeed, I was the most fulfilled person on the planet. I was in the present, right here, all the time and I was feeling like one day I was going to conquer the world. And I was making 2 bucks a day, imagine that.
I don’t mean to brag when I say this. I just want you to put yourself in my shoes and try to feel what I’ve been through. The real power lies in your ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and truly feel what it’s like to be someone else, with all the negative and positive aspects. Then you realize that we are all human, and that everything is possible. What seems like the best thing to have, comes with great responsibility and not like the blessing you’ve expected it to be. Just like that house on the hills. It comes with 20 people that have to work for you, maintain your house, and eat up your bank account every day. This could eat you alive to have this burden on you if you are not prepared for it.
So whenever you think you deserve something more than the rest, you may be right, but if you still don’t have it, there are probably two reasons why. The first one is that you took the wrong u-turn, and you need to get back and continue on the right track. And the second is that you still didn’t build your mindset to put in the right action in physical reality to get that thing.
2. Success is not the goal. Success is your ability to get to the goal
Walt Disney, Martha Stewart, Larry King… these are all people who had money, lost them all, and rose back to wealth again.
Success is not the goal folks, it’s the ability to get get from point A to point B.
Let’s skip money for a second. Success is not all about money. Success can be a happy relationships, family or even being able to travel the world.
What do you think about, when you imagine yourself having a great relationship with your girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse or wife? What’s the picture that shows in front of you when you close your eyes?
For me it’s beach, Maldives, a sunset and the two of us enjoying in silence with a Bob Marley song playing in the background. But this can be different for each one of us. The point is that whatever comes to your mind, this is your goal. Now imagine yourself on that place with a complete stranger. Will that be the same? Can you enjoy the same without your loved one? I don’t think so.
All your beautiful moments before that, all that disagreements you had before, created that picture for you. You had to overcome all those things together as a couple for you to have that picture. That’s why the place you imagine with the complete stranger didn’t really fit in your fantasy.
We can go for days explaining this, but the point is very clear for each and every example. I would’ve given you example about “traveling the world” but with this current situation it would be painful to talk about traveling…
3. The third and last is: you need to be another person if things don’t come to you at all
As you go on the way to build your company, claim the ladder of success in the company you are employed or simply have the best relationship in your life, you have to re-evaluate yourself all the time.
This means that you should be almost completely different person years from now. If you do the same things all over again, and you have no results at all, you are still not the person that you are suppose to become. Because if you were the person that you’re supposed to be, you would have all those things already, right?
You need to change the way you think and the way you get from point A to point B. When Facebook presented all those video headings, where you put video instead of a picture on your posts, I tripled my earnings, just by implementing a simple shift in Facebook for Developers. This in turn gave me a lot more visits on my website which resulted in x3 more revenue, and that’s when I made my first 54.000$ month.
Before I started making money I was practicing reflection. I would look in the mirror every morning for few minutes, and ask myself: are you the guy that you aspire to be? Or you still have to change something to be the guy aspire to be? Every time you add something to it, you get closer to the successful story, whatever successful story is to you.
Champs, it’s very easy to build sandcastles in the sky and life of illusions, but the truth is things don’t come easy, especially if those things are truly worth to have.
You have to work on it constantly. Happiness lies in the daily things you do. If you work towards something you love, you will be happy and great at it. We can easily deceive ourselves that we want a lot of cash, big houses, yachts, but at the end of the day, a lot of people truly don’t want those things. Some just want to be free and travel, or have a place to call home. Everyone experiences success differently.
Just don’t get caught up in the wrong definition of your success, because you will spend your whole life building something you don’t want to have… AT ALL.
At the end of the day, do you go to bed satisfied with the person that you’ve been? Or you think you did something wrong that you can learn not to do in the future? We have to reflect on ourselves all the time. Why do we spend so much time thinking what’s wrong with the people around us, and never look in the mirror and ask ourselves what’s wrong with us? What can we do to improve ourselves? We need more of that if we want to be better and better all the time and build the life of our dreams.
Champs, thank you so much for reading this article. I wouldn’t be able to do what I want to do without you… I looked in the mirror this morning and asked myself: what can I do today to inspire people to do better in their lives? This was the article I came up with and I hope it did inspire you in a way to create the best version of yourselves.
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