We can either be our own best friends or our own worst enemies.
Not a single person on earth is the same and that’s the beauty of it.
I frequently ask myself series of questions about my business: “What’s the difference between her/his/their approach that’s making their business better than mine? How can I improve my business to help spread my knowledge with more people around the world?”
I also ask series of questions about my personal development and everything that I stumble upon. You may not realize it, but we keep on asking ourselves questions for each and everything that we encounter.
Your set of beliefs is creating the questions for you. For example if you are pessimist and negative person, you are going to ask yourselves wrong questions that will make you even more pessimistic and negative. The answers to those same questions made you pessimist and negative person in the first place.
Let’s take a simple example: If two people see the same successful person, one person can ask themselves “How did they got so lucky?”. This question will give them answer that won’t benefit them in any way on their personal growth, while the second person can ask “What kind of moves did they make to become successful?”. The second person can really benefit and grow on personal level if he dig even deeper about the true story behind the success of the X person.
This Simple Trick Will Instantly Improve Your Life
Our belief system is the key riddle that will change how we approach things in our life. The perception we have, the questions we ask and the answers we get is the result of our belief system.
Let’s take an extreme example: if a man says that all women are the same, we all know that’s far from the truth. Because of one bad person you can’t judge the whole humanity. This in turn will draw even more bad women around him because he will attract them by asking himself the wrong questions, or even worse, he will never date another woman.
And I’ve seen this way more often then I should. People judge everyone else, sometimes even the entire countries, based on experience of one or two people from that country.
These stereotypes we create for ourselves can truly damage our way of thinking and problem solving by asking ourselves the wrong questions and getting wrong answers.
How Can We Implement The Simple Trick Will Instantly Improve Our Life
No matter what type of belief system you have right now, I can guarantee you that you can improve it by applying this simple trick.
The way you are right now (pessimist or optimist) is the set of questions you were asking in the past. In order to change that, we have to change our questions. First let me ask you few questions. Read them, stop, and think about them for a minute:
- What are some of the most precious moments in my life?
- Can I recall them right now and grasp the feeling I was having back then?
- What is the best thing about my life right now?
Did they instantly make you feel good? If you truly did them the way you should, they would instantly make you happier.
The thing is that the questions we ask have the power to immediately change the way we feel. If I ask you what’s the worst thing that happened to you we both know that the question won’t make you feel good, right?
In the beginning, you may have to force yourself to ask yourself positive questions because if you are pessimist, you are not going to come up with questions that will make you better on personal and professional level.
The trick I use is that I always try to get the positive benefit out of a situation.
My granddad passed away recently during a surgery, and while I instantly asked myself “Why is life so unfair?”, I had to make a different approach. I asked myself “Which were some of the best moments we had together?” and “What was he so grateful for?” because from these questions I can feel good about his life, instead of getting depressed by the whole situation.
We can master ourselves and we have that power. The only thing that’s blocking you from mastering yourself is your belief that you can’t. We all know we shouldn’t watch Netflix all day, or eat unhealthy most of the time, or waste our time on social media, and yet most of the people still do it. Maybe it’s time to bite your tongue and ask yourself different questions: “How can this benefit me in 1-3-5 years from now?”. The answer is clear to most of us, but we need to ask the right questions.