Hey champs, my name is Nick and today we are going to discuss about something that HAS to be said. It may not be the thing you want to hear, but once you finish this article, you’ll be like (damn I think he is right). So let’s begin with a simple thought.
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Do you often imagine driving the perfect car of your dreams, or living in that big house with an endless view of your own forrest?
In Simon Sinek’s book Start With Why which I’ve read a while back, he writes that studies show that over 80 percent of Americans do not have their dream job. He notes that this is due to the fact that organizations are not really inspiring their employees. But I think that the biggest reason behind it is that people in those organizations don’t want to be there in the first place.
And here’s another very interesting study. Only 27 percent of college grads have a job related to their major!
Most people spend years learning and specializing in something which goes down the drain when they face real life employment. Just by knowing these 2 things, it’s getting a bit obvious why people dreams are getting useless. They work something they don’t want, and on top of that, it’s not even the thing they’ve learned in college. And let’s face it: you are stuck with it for 8 hours, 5 days a week. Whether you like it or not, it will impact your life in all sorts of ways. First it will destroy your balance, stress your more often than not, affect your health and you can even bring that negative energy at home with your loved ones.
So yes, if you are stuck with a job you hate for 8 hours a day, you can destroy your life in all sorts of ways. But this is not the biggest problem. The biggest problem is that most people know what they should do to pursue their dreams, but never take that first step. And time is passing by in a blink of an eye. Before you know it, you are in debt to your neck and you must work, unless you want to be out on the street with your family.
Experience can teach you a lot. As a matter of fact, experience and failure are the two best cosmic teachers. Without getting frustrated because of our failed attempts, we can never discover the ways that work. It’s very rare to have only ONE happy and successful relationship for the rest of your life. You should probably screw up a few times before being in one that works. It’s impossible to be good at some sport without losing a match, just like it’s impossible to be successful without trying to find 1000 things that don’t work.
So without further due, here are 5 things that will make your dreams come true. Without them you will be wandering lost and aimless for the rest of your life. Not to mention that without them you’ll never be able to fulfill your dream life.
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1. Screw up over and over again
This is the test that life throws at you. It will test you and test you, until you figure out why you’ve been doing it wrong the whole time.
Most of us don’t realize how important it is to fail. We usually take it as a defeat and never try to make it work afterwards. This can also be taken as an example for everything in life. Some people get so burned in the first relationship that they never try to commit in another one again.
We take the loss and defeat as final and keep it with us in everyday life. And in the long run this results in the wrong job, financial dependency, wrong relationship and bad marriage. All of this just because we were too afraid to keep on screwing it up until we learn ways that work.
Don’t be afraid to screw up, champs. The biggest lessons are learned when you keep on screwing up until you learn why you keep on screwing up, and what can you do to make it work.
2. Keep on trying until you become desperate
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” – J. K. Rowling
When you touch the concrete with your chin, when you have no option to go above that, you realize that there is an immense power in all of us. Touching that rock bottom made us realize that, because in those moments of despair we find the real inner power that we have, and is available to us at all times.
That is the moment when your mind opens to the next dimension of your capabilities. You remove time out of the equation and you work with full steam to get to the thing you want. No matter if it’s about starting a company, working on your project, or being desperate because of your last relationship.
The only thing you need to make sure is to NOT give into despair. Stay with in, feel it, no matter how painful it is. As a defense mechanism your mind will throw positive thoughts and ways to go through that situation. Focus on them more than the negative ones that keep on recurring.
3. The things you need to do are the things you avoid
If I knew this LONG time ago, I would’ve skipped years of struggle. I always knew what I should do, or at least give my best to try, but I was always avoiding that hardship.
When I say “the things you need to avoid”, I don’t mean about driving drunk or things you clearly need to avoid. I mean that deep down you kind of feel what’s right for you. You simply can’t explain it, but you know that you need to do it. And you cloud that step with justification. “But I already have a safe job” or “I should avoid that conversation with her”. Deeply, you truly know what to do, but you dim that gut feeling until it goes away. And you keep on doing it all the time until you have no gut feeling left. You settle with what you have.
All I am saying is that you shouldn’t avoid that gut feeling, the magical weapon that is guiding you through life.
4. Doing easy things is cowardice. That’s why 80% of the money are in the 20% of the people
Also known as the Pareto Principle, this rule suggests that 20 percent of your activities will account for 80 percent of your results.
What Is The 80 20 Rule?
It was named after it’s founder, the Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, back in 1895. He noticed that people in society seemed to divide naturally into what he called the “vital few,” or the top 20 percent in terms of money and influence, and the “trivial many,” or the bottom 80 percent.
This connects with the previous points we just spoke about. If you avoid hardship and failure, you are going to be in the trivial many. This is due to the fact that most people avoid these things all over their life. And this is really interesting: we have a natural way of creating equilibrium between employees and employers. Eighty percent of the people don’t avoid hardship and don’t want to do uncomfortable. They will end up working for someone and have less influence and financial freedom. Most people will focus on doing 80% of the work which brings them 20% of the things. While the “vital few” will focus on doing 20% of the things, the uncomfortable, difficult and things their gut tells them to do.
Champs, I know you have what it takes to belong to the vital few. Just don’t avoid the 20% necessary things you need to do.
5. Success is not a choice. Success is your obligation
I stumble upon many people that say that “success” is not really important to them. And I am truly sick of hearing this all over again.
Success is not only having the skill to make money. It is the ability to get from point A to point B successfully.
This can be applied to anything. Relationships, work, hobbies, sports et cetera.
When you wrap around your head that success is your obligation, you won’t overthink too much. You don’t give yourself choices to wimp, wine, and justify. You take action to make it happen.
If you want to make ANYTHING work, sometimes you have to dive in the uncomfortable. And this is not your choice, it’s your obligation to do what’s uncomfortable. No matter the cost. The gap you leave between thinking and doing, in time becomes a crater. It grows more and more and becomes harder to jump over. Don’t let your inaction become a habit.
And again, this is not only about building your company. It’s about every sphere in your life: friendships, relationships, education or simply learning a new skill.
We all have a dream, champs, but many of us don’t do what’s uncomfortable to make it come to its fruition.
I’ve read in a book few years back, and this is really interesting, that the tiny animal that’s running in your home (this refers to the thing you avoid doing) grows to be a dragon that’ll press and choke you in a corner. The more you avoid important things, the more they choke and press you down. While this is not always the case, in translation this may refer to failed marriages, unemployment, being poor and homelessness.
Don’t let your own actions (or inactions) be the cause of your life of misery. There are things we just have no power over, like the weather, what people think, what people do, what people feel or say, just like we have no power over what happened in the past. What we have power is to take action in this moment, right now, and make our present and future be the best times of our lives. Fill your life with great moments, abundance and profoundness based on the things that you do daily.
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