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Why You Can’t Stay Disciplined No Matter What You Try

Post author By Nick G.
Post date February 23, 2021

Why You Can't Stay Disciplined No Matter What You Try

Many people get triggered by motivation. You read that one quote that hits you right in the chest and you feel like you are going to rule the world. Two minutes later the motivation is gone like it was never there.

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Motivation is a great thing, but you can’t rely on those all of a sudden moments when you feel explosive energy for no reason whatsoever.

I’ve personally had terrible moments when I felt like the whole world is crushing down on me. The other day I was so happy and energized that I finished my YouTube video just to see that the recording on my phone was not set on. I had to re-do half of the video and when I finished it for the second time I noticed that someone called me in the middle of my second recording and canceled my recording time. In those moments, all the motivational and inspirational quotes won’t mean a thing to me. I had to re-do the video for the third time (on an airplane mode this time) and finally get it done.

When things are not going your way, motivation is like a can. You see it in the street, you kick it, and you forget about it in the next 2 seconds. So motivation is a great thing, but relying on motivation and hope you will go through the obstacles with ease is not a smart choice. And honestly, I think this is a major obstacle why most people can’t seem to complete a task to the end. They rely on motivation to be their partner in crime when in reality they seek for discipline.

Now discipline is the thing we all want, but can can’t seem to stick to it and this time we will dig, like really dig into discipline and explain why you can’t stay disciplined and how to fix it.

Discipline is the key to your success in everything

As I was explaining in the previous article, I was lacking perseverance when it came to relationship, work, or simply organizing a trip with my friends to another city.

I was really struggling to find it in me to push things to the end. Strangely enough, one of the things that really pushed me out of that comfort was taking stone cold shower. And while it looks like I was getting prepared for jail, what I really did was pushing myself to be more disciplined in the face of discomfort. Because what we lack is perseverance in the face of hardship. When you have to do the project and you have a deadline, you don’t search for inspirational quotes on google, or pray that motivation suddenly hits you. What you really do is sit on your computer and do the project. Motivation is that one friend that runs away and leaves you dry when things get uncomfortable.

But discipline is not something that can suddenly hit you, and you can’t find it on Goole, well maybe just the definition. But real discipline is more of an emotional battle. And what I really found strange was that discipline is way more connected with pain that most people realize.

If discipline is to obey rules or a code of behaviour, using punishment to correct disobedience, then what we really do is run away from pain or punishment. When you take our code of behaviour what we do is either chase some form of pleasure or run away from pain or fear.

This being said our discipline is our ability to follow our principles and punishing/rewarding ourselves if we don’t.

I’ve noticed that when I don’t do the tasks I have for the day, I usually get a little angry or frustrated because I know I am the one to blame for not using my time wisely. I use pain or frustration as my punishment for not being disciplined. And as strange as it sounds I just realized this!

There was a really good example when Tony Robbins took his kids accompanied by a police officer (a friend of his) to one of those creepy houses filled with homeless junkies. He showed his kid or kids (I don’t know if he was with one of his kids or both of them) what they are going to end like if they use drugs. They were so shocked by the scene they saw that they created an enormous fear of drugs. He knew exactly what he was doing and because of this, every time his kids see drugs they immediately recall the scene in that creepy house, even years after.

I was seeking ways to stay disciplined and found self-punishment to work really good for me and I think self-punishment is the key to many disciplined people.

However, these 2 factors really contribute to becoming disciplined person in the long run.

1. Awareness of SELF

We just started hosting on a radio show with my friend Danny on self-improvement, relationship, toxic people and everything related to creating the best self-aware version of ourselves. It’s called Life 2.0 but sadly it’s hosted in our language and not many people speak Macedonian.

The point is that whenever we speak, say, about toxic people we get comments like “wow I had no idea I was feeling so depressed because of my friends” or “I never knew that staying in toxic company can make me depressed”. Most people lack self-awareness. They really have no idea about them because they are focused on the external things. They waste their time reading about fashion or politics and they have no connection to politics, fashion, or the time when Tom Brady looked absolutely wasted during Bucs Super Bowl boat parade.

When I sat down to meditate I truly saw what kind of person I was. I had 0 insight about me before that. Like I was left on autopilot since the day I was born and I let everyone around me carve me into whatever they wanted.

When I sat down in those 10 minutes, I felt that I am really not the person I want to be. My mind was shifting between thoughts like crazy. I was like “wow I can’t believe he said that to me, and I always thought he was my friend, what if this week is Friday the 13th? Will they play that one movie they play every year with Jason? Every thought I had was completely unrelated with the next one. My mind was shifting gears, themes and thoughts like crazy. Was this really me when I wasn’t meditating? I was terrified of the feeling that I wasn’t the person I wanted to be. And I kept on meditating every single day, at least for 10 minutes. I was calming my thoughts and slowly started to get my thought pattern in order.

After months I was able to partially control my own thoughts. At least I was aware of the thoughts I have and slowly started to re-brand myself and become the person I want to become.

Self-awareness is crucial when it comes to discipline, because you start to have an idea what kind of person you are and where is your aim for the future. Without knowing yourself and being able to get behind the wheel of your brain, you simply can’t stay disciplined.

Whenever you get angry, nervous or anxious, just breathe and really try to navigate yourself. What comes in your mind, why do you think the way you think, what or who hurt you. In moments of anxiety and anger you will start to have shorter breaths which signals your brain to start that alarming phase of stress. Just by taking deep breaths and focusing on your breath instead of the crazy show in your mind, you will immediately feel calmer. After a minute you will take full control and neutralize those stressful emotions.

Self-awareness is a must if we want to push ourselves forward and to do that we need discipline. But discipline doesn’t go without…

2. Vision or AIM

Once you start to be self-aware of your state and what kind of person you truly are, you need to have AIM because if you don’t know where you are going, you will probably get there.

It’s like going to get the bag from your room and halfway there you forget why you where going to the room. You get back, sit on the couch and “THE BAG!” you were going to get the bag.

Discipline works perfect when you know why you are doing what you are doing. When you have a goal and plan, discipline becomes easier to attain. You can be disciplined without a vision, but what’s the point really? And discipline without vision will probably get cracked and eventually stop.

What helped me was sitting at home with a pen and paper. Really, just sit there and think: why do I do what I do? Like I prefer to hang out with friends more than sit at home and work. Why do I do that? OR I want to have a lot of money. Why do I want to? And suddenly after all these answers, which are really, again, awareness of self, will penetrate something that will shock you: most of the things you do are just because you are trying to be better in the eyes of someone else. For example, if you want to be rich, you truly chase that because your girlfriend dumped you and you want to show it to her face that you are better human being. Like you can even start to play the guitar and be famous, but the truth is that you play only because you want to be famous so more people can be around you because you are lonely person.

These were just examples. You can even play the guitar because you father played the guitar and he was your hero. That’s an amazing reason to start playing the guitar, but for most of the things we do (at least for me) I did them because I wanted to be better human being not because of myself, but because of other people around me, which I honestly didn’t even like in the first place.

Doing this exercise really opened my eyes to another dimension. I started to realize that my standards and priorities were all mixed up. I would rather go out and have some fun getting wasted every day, than sit at home and create a business that I truly love.

It kind of opened my eyes to the things I want to attain. It gave me a vision, an aim to chase and find ways to make it happen.

Honestly one of the reasons I started this channel is because I was truly facing hardship on my own. My mother passed away (divorced from my father) and I was left alone to make a person out of myself when I was 18 years old. And I truly had rough time struggling every single day. I was a spoiled kid, but when that happened my stepfather did something terrible (which was really the best thing looking back at it now) he told me, either you will create an incredible person out of yourself, or you are going to end up a chump like all the friends around you. And the he told me “no more money for you kid.” I felt like the whole world came crushing down on me. After trial and error, I can proudly say that I am far better person than I was and I still work every day to become better.

I will share my journey and hopefully help some of you guys that are really struggling. I will be here with you in those moments when everything looks like it’s going wrong and give you part of my digital energy to make you feel better and move on on your journey with discipline and vision.

I hope this article hit some of you guys right in the chest and you are now a few atoms better than you were before. All I am asking in return is for you to subscribe on my YouTube channel so together we can help the channel spread so more people get a helping hand when they need it most.

Also, make sure to watch this video of me taking a stone cold shower next!

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DON’T Turn Blind Eye To These 3 Things That Are Ruining Your Life

Post author By Nick G.
Post date February 13, 2021

DON'T Turn A Blind Eye To These 3 Things That Are Ruining Your Life

Life is wonderful! I was just scrolling on TikTok and I saw a video that made me appreciate this amazing life we have even more.

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The video was about a guy who was explaining about “a thing that someone said that will stick with him forever.” He was working customer service and he sparked a conversation with a client. The client asked him how’s life, and he replied: “you know with the days becoming shorter and the cold weather… not bad” The client said that he was a refugee from Syria and told him something that gave me goosebumps. He said: “any day I don’t worry getting bombed is a good day. You know, shorter days and cold weather is not that bad.”

Sometimes we stress over things that are not important AT ALL. Like not a second should be wasted thinking about them. But I blame us partially. With the blazing fast rise of technology and the fast life we created we put heavy weight on our shoulders.

If you ask me, the biggest problem is that majority of people are not mentally capable of controlling themselves, or let me say, refrain from the free and cheap pleasures.

For example let’s take this research: 44.9% of adults ages 20 to 39 said that they consumed fast food on a given day, compared with 37.7% of adults 40 to 59, and 24.1% of adults 60 and older. I think that more than 50% of teens consume fast food instead of REAL body & mind supporting food.

We all get it. Fast food is delicious, tasty and makes you drool whenever you smell it near you. But this is EXACTLY why the Pareto Principle works everywhere. A smart Italian economist Vilfred Pareto came to a conclusion that that 20 percent of your activities will account for 80 percent of your results. This is in terms of money, power and wealth. This is how societies naturally divide. Because if you line up 10 people and give them hard task and deadline, probably 1 or 2 people will only finish it. The ones that are stubborn, hard-working and will manage their time effectively to finish the task. Same goes for everything. If you put a chocolate in front of 10 overweight people, 9 of them will reach out immediately to take a bite, even if they KNOW they going to have severe health problems in the future.

We have a hard time controlling ourselves when there are so many cheap things that give us immediate pleasure.

It’s very easy to fall in the shackles of these pleasures: Instagram, TikTok, Netflix, ordering junk food… the list goes on for days. But our ability to refrain from those pleasures and put in real work, is the superhuman ability we all possess.

There are many things that grab our attention and waste our life with lightning speed, but these 3 things are the worst, especially the last one.

1. Social Media

I know, I know. You’ve heard it at least 10 times this week, but this is definitely one of the worst things we turn blind eye to.

If I tell you now that 10-20 years of your life will be cut, just because you want to binge-watch a TV show on Netflix that won’t propel a single cell growth in your body, would you keep on doing it? Let’s take another guess: if I tell you, that you are going to have cancer when you turn 50 and leave your family and kids just because you want to smoke 1 pack a day, would you keep on doing it? This is happening every single day and we turn a blind eye and light up another one. For gods sake it’s even written on THE PACK!!

Why do we keep on watching only one step ahead instead of 10? This same thing is happening with social media overuse.

Your life is going to end one day. Your dreams are slowly staring to get thinner as time is flying, but there you are scrolling and reading about the bag Kim Kardashian bought. What is that going to help you?

We must be VERY careful with the information we are fed. If you scroll and read now, you are going to be filled with so much fear caused by the worldwide situation that you are unable to do anything. Some of my “friends” even don’t want to drink a cup of coffee with me because they are terrified of the situation right now. We are being stuffed with fear on the social media and we consume it without a question. It’s like eating shit and calling it burger. NO, that stops today.

Focus on real word champs. The most grounding thing you can do is exercise. You cannot think about unnecessary things when your body is facing hardship. You are here and you do the work. Write to-do lists, take stone cold showers every single day. Just throw yourself off that comfort that is literally eating you alive.

I am not saying you should never open Instagram, YouTube or TikTok. I am saying you shouldn’t overuse it to the point where it’s your addiction, instead of your tool for good source of information and growth.

2. Junk Food Vs. REAL Food

As we said above, more than 50% of teens eat junk food. Every second teenager is bound to be unhealthy. And the worst part is that it’s made by their own choice.

Junk food increases the risk of obesity and chronic diseases like cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes and some cancers. You wanna know what’s the main cause of death today? Cardiovascular diseases, cancer, and diabetes. You don’t need to be a Ph.D. scientist to see the connection.

We literally make a choice every single day to slowly kill ourselves. Many don’t see it that way because they see the things only as they are today instead of 2-5-10 years upfront.

And the majority of people make choices only based on NOW and TODAY. They don’t invest in SP500 index fund, even if they can turn 30k into 1 million dollars in 40 years. They don’t want to bother and even think 40 years upfront, and believe it or not time is going by in a blink of an eye. I am 29 years old and it was like yesterday I was in high school.

Make choices that your future self will thank you for. If you eat that chocolate today, and that pizza tomorrow, you are going to end up feeling like s*it. And whoever says it’s “OK” to be obese, it’s NOT ok to be obese. Every day you made choices that gave you a health problem, and if the whole world created a marketing strategy to say that ‘It’s OK to be obese” just to sell you oversize products and weight loss pills, no. You are just another obese sheep in the herd to believe that.

Whenever you eat, just look at the meal and ask yourself: is this going to give me energy, make me feel better, and more energized, or it’s going to make me feel like s#it and give me health problems in the future? And there, you have the answer.

I am eating junk food from time to time, I am not a saint, and no one is. And don’t get me wrong. I am not saying you should never even think to eat another just food meal, but most of the days eat healthy nutritious food that gives you energy so you can feel and look better.

Don’t think one step ahead, think 10 steps ahead because already 80% of the people, as Pareto Principle suggests, think one step ahead, and they don’t have good results. So unless you want to have good results and belong to “the vital few” or the top 20% of the people, STOP eating empty nutritious foods that will give you a hard time living.

3. Physical Activity

Our life revolves around sitting. More than 60 percent of U.S. adults do not engage in the recommended amount of activity. Approximately 25 percent of U.S. adults are not active at all. This leaves us with 15% of the people that are active and semi active. In total 85% of the people have already given up on the thing that evolved us, physical activity.

Humans were extremely active in the past. They used to hunt for food, lift heavy things and everything physical they must do to survive. But with the swift rise of technology, we gradually started to cave in and do the job from the phones and computers. Especially with the worldwide situation right now, we are sitting now more than ever.

Right now I am behind a PC and write an article. After this I must schedule few posts on my Instagram, but after that I am going to do 1 hour of great cardio and have a stone cold shower.

It’s just an excuse to say “But my work is like that. I have to sit and work and I am tired after.” Exercise is about filling yourself with energy, not wasting it. When you exercise your body releases BDNF or Brain Derived Neurotrophic Factor. This BDNF has been referred to as a fertilizer for your brain. It is a substance that is found in your brain and helps to maintain the life of your brain cells, as well as grow new ones. You’ve probably heard all about ‘neuroplasticity’ and how we used to think our brains, once adult, were like a lump of concrete – unable to change and grow. Scientists now believe our brains are more like plastic – able to adapt, grow and change depending on what we do with them. BDNF is widely accepted as being a key player in this ‘plastic’ ability of the brain – its presence has been shown to make brain cells in petri dishes sprout new branches.

Low levels of BDNF have been associated with depression, anxiety, poor memory and brain degeneration as seen in conditions such as Alzheimer’s and dementia.

This is just ONE of the hundred factors that exercise makes your life great and protects you from most of the things that can have destructive effect on your health.

With exercise can lose weight, feel great, sleep better and be healthy. Sometimes I really wonder how a person can be inactive? I mean it gives you so many incredible things and majority of people would rather scroll on social media than exercise for an hour to feel great and get all these amazing benefits from it.

Final Notes

Champs, many of us know these things already, but 80% of the people watching this are going to close this tab and get a burger, or scroll on social media. I know it for a fact because that’s the 101 mindset of a consumer. Many of the people are consumers, they are not producers. That’s the difference between the 80% or the trivial many and the 20% or the vital few. Your actions will either take you to belong to the top 20% percent or the bottom 80%.

Again, don’t get me wrong. I have some days when I slack. I can eat a burger, chill & watch Netflix. We are not robots, we are humans, and I think it’s only normal to go left and right from the main path that will lead you to greatness. But if you go way too left, or way too right, that’s where you need to bump your head and say: hey, I am way off course. I need to get back on track and be on my way.” Without this navigation it’s very easy to waste our life with time devouring habits like social media.

I hope in a way I inspired you to at least stop & start doing some of the things we said and my video was not in vain. I would really appreciate if the vital few of you guys reading this, subscribe on my youtube channel to make sure you don’t miss another video. Because I have a lot of things that I want to say to you so you can transform into the best version you can ever be.

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Your Dreams Are Useless, Unless You Do These 5 Things

Post author By Nick G.
Post date January 10, 2021

Here are 5 things that will make your dreams come true. Without them you will be wandering lost and aimless for the rest of your life.

Hey champs, my name is Nick and today we are going to discuss about something that HAS to be said. It may not be the thing you want to hear, but once you finish this article, you’ll be like (damn I think he is right). So let’s begin with a simple thought.

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Do you often imagine driving the perfect car of your dreams, or living in that big house with an endless view of your own forrest?

In Simon Sinek’s book Start With Why which I’ve read a while back, he writes that studies show that over 80 percent of Americans do not have their dream job. He notes that this is due to the fact that organizations are not really inspiring their employees. But I think that the biggest reason behind it is that people in those organizations don’t want to be there in the first place.

And here’s another very interesting study. Only 27 percent of college grads have a job related to their major!

Most people spend years learning and specializing in something which goes down the drain when they face real life employment. Just by knowing these 2 things, it’s getting a bit obvious why people dreams are getting useless. They work something they don’t want, and on top of that, it’s not even the thing they’ve learned in college. And let’s face it: you are stuck with it for 8 hours, 5 days a week. Whether you like it or not, it will impact your life in all sorts of ways. First it will destroy your balance, stress your more often than not, affect your health and you can even bring that negative energy at home with your loved ones.

So yes, if you are stuck with a job you hate for 8 hours a day, you can destroy your life in all sorts of ways. But this is not the biggest problem. The biggest problem is that most people know what they should do to pursue their dreams, but never take that first step. And time is passing by in a blink of an eye. Before you know it, you are in debt to your neck and you must work, unless you want to be out on the street with your family.

Experience can teach you a lot. As a matter of fact, experience and failure are the two best cosmic teachers. Without getting frustrated because of our failed attempts, we can never discover the ways that work. It’s very rare to have only ONE happy and successful relationship for the rest of your life. You should probably screw up a few times before being in one that works. It’s impossible to be good at some sport without losing a match, just like it’s impossible to be successful without trying to find 1000 things that don’t work.

So without further due, here are 5 things that will make your dreams come true. Without them you will be wandering lost and aimless for the rest of your life. Not to mention that without them you’ll never be able to fulfill your dream life.

Before we begin, if you guys enjoy articles like these, make sure to do me a quick favor and Subscribe on my YouTube Channel and let me motivate the s*it out of you!

Thank you for doing that and let’s begin.

1. Screw up over and over again

This is the test that life throws at you. It will test you and test you, until you figure out why you’ve been doing it wrong the whole time.

Most of us don’t realize how important it is to fail. We usually take it as a defeat and never try to make it work afterwards. This can also be taken as an example for everything in life. Some people get so burned in the first relationship that they never try to commit in another one again.

We take the loss and defeat as final and keep it with us in everyday life. And in the long run this results in the wrong job, financial dependency, wrong relationship and bad marriage. All of this just because we were too afraid to keep on screwing it up until we learn ways that work.

Don’t be afraid to screw up, champs. The biggest lessons are learned when you keep on screwing up until you learn why you keep on screwing up, and what can you do to make it work.

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2. Keep on trying until you become desperate

“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” – J. K. Rowling

When you touch the concrete with your chin, when you have no option to go above that, you realize that there is an immense power in all of us. Touching that rock bottom made us realize that, because in those moments of despair we find the real inner power that we have, and is available to us at all times.

That is the moment when your mind opens to the next dimension of your capabilities. You remove time out of the equation and you work with full steam to get to the thing you want. No matter if it’s about starting a company, working on your project, or being desperate because of your last relationship.

The only thing you need to make sure is to NOT give into despair. Stay with in, feel it, no matter how painful it is. As a defense mechanism your mind will throw positive thoughts and ways to go through that situation. Focus on them more than the negative ones that keep on recurring.

3. The things you need to do are the things you avoid

If I knew this LONG time ago, I would’ve skipped years of struggle. I always knew what I should do, or at least give my best to try, but I was always avoiding that hardship.

When I say “the things you need to avoid”, I don’t mean about driving drunk or things you clearly need to avoid. I mean that deep down you kind of feel what’s right for you. You simply can’t explain it, but you know that you need to do it. And you cloud that step with justification. “But I already have a safe job” or “I should avoid that conversation with her”. Deeply, you truly know what to do, but you dim that gut feeling until it goes away. And you keep on doing it all the time until you have no gut feeling left. You settle with what you have.

All I am saying is that you shouldn’t avoid that gut feeling, the magical weapon that is guiding you through life.

4. Doing easy things is cowardice. That’s why 80% of the money are in the 20% of the people

Also known as the Pareto Principle, this rule suggests that 20 percent of your activities will account for 80 percent of your results.

What Is The 80 20 Rule?

It was named after it’s founder, the Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, back in 1895. He noticed that people in society seemed to divide naturally into what he called the “vital few,” or the top 20 percent in terms of money and influence, and the “trivial many,” or the bottom 80 percent.

This connects with the previous points we just spoke about. If you avoid hardship and failure, you are going to be in the trivial many. This is due to the fact that most people avoid these things all over their life. And this is really interesting: we have a natural way of creating equilibrium between employees and employers. Eighty percent of the people don’t avoid hardship and don’t want to do uncomfortable. They will end up working for someone and have less influence and financial freedom. Most people will focus on doing 80% of the work which brings them 20% of the things. While the “vital few” will focus on doing 20% of the things, the uncomfortable, difficult and things their gut tells them to do.

Champs, I know you have what it takes to belong to the vital few. Just don’t avoid the 20% necessary things you need to do.

5. Success is not a choice. Success is your obligation

I stumble upon many people that say that “success” is not really important to them. And I am truly sick of hearing this all over again.

Success is not only having the skill to make money. It is the ability to get from point A to point B successfully.

This can be applied to anything. Relationships, work, hobbies, sports et cetera.

When you wrap around your head that success is your obligation, you won’t overthink too much. You don’t give yourself choices to wimp, wine, and justify. You take action to make it happen.

If you want to make ANYTHING work, sometimes you have to dive in the uncomfortable. And this is not your choice, it’s your obligation to do what’s uncomfortable. No matter the cost. The gap you leave between thinking and doing, in time becomes a crater. It grows more and more and becomes harder to jump over. Don’t let your inaction become a habit.

And again, this is not only about building your company. It’s about every sphere in your life: friendships, relationships, education or simply learning a new skill.

We all have a dream, champs, but many of us don’t do what’s uncomfortable to make it come to its fruition.

I’ve read in a book few years back, and this is really interesting, that the tiny animal that’s running in your home (this refers to the thing you avoid doing) grows to be a dragon that’ll press and choke you in a corner. The more you avoid important things, the more they choke and press you down. While this is not always the case, in translation this may refer to failed marriages, unemployment, being poor and homelessness.

Don’t let your own actions (or inactions) be the cause of your life of misery. There are things we just have no power over, like the weather, what people think, what people do, what people feel or say, just like we have no power over what happened in the past. What we have power is to take action in this moment, right now, and make our present and future be the best times of our lives. Fill your life with great moments, abundance and profoundness based on the things that you do daily.

Champs, thank you SO much for reading this entire article. You would truly help me spread this positive energy and help me help others in need by sharing this article and by Subscribing on my Youtube Channel.

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5 Bad Habits That Destroy Your Confidence

Post author By Nick G.
Post date January 5, 2021

Here are 5 things that silently destroy your confidence, make you mentally weaker and stop you from reaching the full potential of yourself.

Hey champs my name is Nick and today we are going to talk about the things that silently destroy your confidence, make you mentally weaker and stop you from reaching the full potential of yourself.

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Every human being, you me and the ones around us is made of characteristics, right? This is the thing that divides us and make us come together. For example: the close friends around you are a mix of what you are. When you sit down with them you talk about something you usually have a common interest.

For my circle of friends that was fitness, nutrition, exercise, hardcore motivation, success, movies and even aliens. We found ourselves discussing about these themes of conversation and share our opinion about it.

Everything you live through the day, like the meeting with your friends, your boyfriend, girlfriend, colleagues, or the job you are currently working, create your character. But not all people are the same, because not all people live the same life. That was kinda obvious.

Now, the real power we have is the power of choice. We have this amazing ability to choose to go and do whatever we like (of course this has to be in the borders of normal human behavior).

Sometimes I think that we have SO MUCH opportunities now, that it becomes a problem.

Just by Googling “how many job types are there in the world” I found that the first link says we have over 12.000 job descriptions. We have 12.000 options to choose from, so I would say that not being interested in something is just an excuse.

And we are facing choices every single day. Whether to wake up at 6AM, 9AM or 11:30AM. Should we eat 3 times a day or 5 times a day? Should we eat 100g of chocolate or avoid chocolate and eat an apple? These types of choices carve us in all that we are.

Some people will make poor choice for years that will result in being overweight, divorced, or simply not satisfied with all that they are. When you take the wide picture of our life, of everything that we are, it all boils down to the choices we make, whether those choices create better human beings out of us, or simply wasting our time.

Now, majority of people will always go with the easy options, which are the poor choices. And this is natural. They would rather watch Netflix for 5 hours straight than do something productive. Majority would rather eat that chocolate than drool over it, and take an apple instead. This natural equilibrium divides the successful and unsuccessful, the fit and fat, the poor and rich, just like the confident and uncertain people.

Now, today we will talk about the things we CAN do to raise our confidence. And yes, this will skyrocket your success, fitness and confidence to the next level.

1. Talking bad about other people

We’ve all done it. If I tell you I didn’t do it, that would be a lie. And if I tell you I won’t do it again, that would be a lie too. But this time, I notice when I do it. I observe it, and find something very irritating, but necessary to spike my confidence.

When you talk about other people, you are really just talking about yourself.

If you are telling someone about how your boss is being a jerk, in reality, you’re probably talking about your lack of patience and understanding.

If you’re gossiping to one friend about another friend, what you’re really doing is telling the one friend that he or she can’t trust you to do the same to them.

Whenever you speak ill about something or someone, it exposes your true self. And this can never be wrong, that’s the trick. Your weaknesses are very loud when you speak ill about others, and we both know that is very bad for your confidence.

I don’t think this behavior can be stopped. Sometimes unconsciously we will fall into a conversation and talk ill about someone/something. After all we are all human, but when we do, we can do few things about it. First we should observe the conversation and see why we speak bad about others. And when we do, we should discover the shortcomings behind the things we say. This is the only way to get the good out of gossip, and additionally, boost our confidence by applying necessary change to fix it.

2. Letting other people make decisions for you

Our life is based on the knowledge other people gave is. We are formed and created by the opinion of others. By our parents, friends, teachers, colleagues, bosses etc…

However, there comes a point in time when we take our life in our own hands and steer the wheel. I think this is the real puberty, not when we get the first facial hair. This is the time when girls become women, and boys become men. And some people never get over this phase because when they are fully formed and should go on their own, they don’t bat an eye to self-develop and continue educating themselves.

I agree that constructive criticism is important. We can learn from the mistakes other people see we do, that we are unable to see, but that’s all there is.

If you become a doctor because your family wants to, you are going to be a terrible doctor. This applies to anything other people want you to be.

You are you own singular person. No one can make the decisions you do. Even if you make a mistake, the best lessons I’ve learned are through making mistakes and failing. Make your own mistakes, take your failures as your own, and you will start to shift your life for the better in an instant. You will become more assertive because mistakes and failures are necessary, not optional. On the long run, this will make you more confident and resilient.

3. Maintaining toxic friendships and relationships

This has more to do with confidence than most people realize.

Here comes my favorite quote: “you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” We must not take this lightly because if you surround yourself with the wrong people, they have the power to shatter your life and make you miserable. Confidence will be 100 miles away from you.

For a certain period, it’s okay to be alone. When you break the old pattern and distance yourself from toxic people it’s okay to be alone until the right people gravitate around you, and they will.

When I was 15 years old, I used to hang out with 16 people, every single day. My mother used to tell me: son, when you grow up IF you are lucky you’re going to have 2 close friends. At that time, I didn’t really understood that, but now I really DO. And this is because people change and they have different interests, hobbies, families and things they don’t really share in common with the same 16 people when they were young.

People and things change, and that is completely OK. The trick is not to be dragged by the people who don’t aspire to be better themselves, and try to pull you down with them. Don’t let your memories attach you to someone who’ll waste your time and drain the energy out of you.

Watch After: 5 Types Of Friends You Should Avoid Like The Plague

4. Living in the past

In simple terms, evolution wired our brains to remember bad things more to alert us when real danger comes in the future to keep us alive. Additionally, our brain focused on the negative so that we could clearly see the danger to fix it.

So, the past is not JUST the past, but it’s actual memory stored in the brain. It’s not as simple as “the past is the past just let it go.” It’s not something you let go of. It’s physical attachment stored in your brain as vital part of you. Your past has created you up to this point.

Just as vital, the past can be very toxic. It is where all the traumas, bad and also good events happened. The bad memories can really impact our future and present because our brain can re-activate them and make us physically feel them thus affecting our mood for the worse.

The way we overcome the past is by learning the crucial lesson out of it. For example: if you got in a car accident while you were driving drunk, the lesson is that you should NEVER drive under the influence of alcohol again.

This goes the same with small minor past mistakes we do. If I try to do a successful marketing campaign on Facebook, I will certainly make mistakes that will result in unsuccessful campaign. In time, I will learn from the past mistakes and make campaign successful. And when you think about it, I WANT to have those mistakes stored, because they will help me make a successful campaign.

It also works to instantly replace your bad memory with a positive one. For example if a bad memory recurs when your mother yelled at you in front of your friends, you have all the power to shift that thought with a positive one. You can think of the crazy summer night you had with your friends. This will give you dopamine and change your initial thought with a positive one.

Long story short, USE your bad memories and past mistakes to be better version of yourself. No one becomes an expert in anything based only on positive experiences.

5. And the last one: talking negatively to yourself

I just spoke about the R.A.S on my latest TikTok video. This stands for Reticular Activating System and it’s part of your brain responsible for the things you notice. Let me give you an example: if you buy a new car, you will start to notice that car everywhere. The car was there before that, but now you see it because you are genuinely interested in that car. The A.R.S is responsible for that.

If you focus on the worst of things, like what happened to you in the past, or why you are not happy because you did this and that, you will feed your R.A.S with more similar situations for you to focus on, whether they happened or they are about to happen.

If you speak negatively of yourself, you will have negative experiences now and in the future, because subconsciously you focus on the situations that can make it worse.

It’s not a flip of a finger to make everything run smooth and positive for you. You have to change your entire daily routine, the things you do and think through the day. Do you exercise regularly? Do you eat healthy? Do you take cold showers? Do you meditate? Do you have a journal? Do you write your plans on a schedule?

Real confidence comes with experience. You can be confident without experience, but sooner or later you have to take that cape off you and see that you still have a ton of things to learn. It’s better to know that you don’t know, than to act like you know and prove yourself and everybody wrong halfway through.

It takes courage to be confident because we have to face adversities that majority of people will never do. Most men want to chase girls but have never ever talked to a random woman in a bar. We all want success but never bat an eye to take the first step, because to build your success you need confidence in making the right steps, and to do that you need courage to make the wrong ones and learn from them.

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How To Stop Being Tired All The Time

Post author By Nick G.
Post date November 29, 2020

Hey champs, my name is Nick and today we are going to talk about how to increase your energy (something that might look like science fiction to you now) but it’s not that complicated after all.

If you are feeling tired ALL THE TIME, this video AND smashing that like button is definitely for you! And if you really don’t want to feel tired, make sure to smash that Subscribe button too, because I have a lot of good news in the next videos for you.

First of all what is the difference between you and Jeff Bezos, or what is the difference between you and Elon Musk? We all have 24 hours and, we can all earn 180 billion dollars, and we can all move to Mars, right? Well, not really. The difference between you and them is that you are constantly tired and you can’t invent those rocket ships and generate billions of dollars in income.

These days there is a MASSIVE confusion between having energy and preserving energy. We watch Netflix all day and we spend massive amount of time on social media. When it’s time to stand up and complete an important task, bam…. we have no energy.

How come we are low on energy when we spend our whole morning AND evening doing nothing but laying in bed and basically preserving every atom of energy? And on top of that, we wake up each morning feeling like we’ve been hit by a truck.

Many things come into play when it comes to general fatigue and tiredness and this does not involve chronic fatigue syndrome and SEID which affects million of people in the US alone.

This involves general tiredness which mostly people feel by not having healthier habits and clear vision for their life.

There are many habits that MUST be changed before we get that booming energy which we are going to discuss later, but first let’s explain why you are feeling tired ALL. THE. FREAKING. TIME.

As people, we have a hard time understanding paradox, right? Like beginning of an end, or knowing that we know nothing. Same goes for energy: we have more energy, by doing more things! Let me explain.

If you have a clear vision of what you want to be in the future all you need to do is take action. But that is easier said than done, and thanks to science, we now know the harsh road.

If you haven’t heard about neuroplasticity, you’ve been missing out a lot.

The more you do something, the more you strengthen the bond between the physical action and your brain. This is called neuroplasticity, and it’s actually brilliant. The more you do something, the more it becomes ‘wired’ in your brain. So, let’s say, if you exercise every day you will get bound to it and it will get easier the more you do it. But this also means that if watch Netflix every day, the more you will do it. The choice is yours.

However, we didn’t say what this has to do with having more energy, but first let’s go back to evolution.

Long time ago our lifestyle involved of us moving almost constantly. We had to hunt for food, gather and do all the chores necessary in order to survive. All we should do now involves us picking up the phone, calling our favorite pizza company and getting the food on our doorstep in no time. No wonder why we are so lazy now…

Evolution has made human to move, almost necessary. We can only Google the detrimental health effects of leading a sedentary lifestyle and everything becomes clear as day. Ok, let me do you a favor by explaining just some of them:

Weight gain. Weight brings it’s own nasty problems, so a sedentary lifestyle has obvious health risks like obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart disease. The more weight you gain the harder your heart has to work. Your heart is a muscle, and the less it works, the weaker it becomes.
Loss of Flexibility. Blood doesn’t flow as freely through tight, bound muscles. Inflammation and pain rear their ugly heads as flexibility is lost. The more sitting you do, the more your hip flexors and low back become particularly tight. Your abs and glutes also become weaker.
Lower Metabolism. A sedentary lifestyle means fewer calories burned. A lot of your body’s ability to break down fat simply shuts down.
Osteoporosis. Here’s a not-so-obvious health risk. Your body and muscles are made to move. Your bones are made to bear the weight of movement to stay strong. A sedentary lifestyle or too sitting and inactivity can lead to osteoporosis.
Increased Chances of Dementia, Depression, and Anxiety. The mind is more linked to the lack of moving than most realize, especially in the elderly. But you don’t have to become elderly before you feel the negative harmful effects of a sedentary lifestyle on the mind.

Just by reading these scientific facts, it’s not hard to realize that we were made to MOVE, right? Our bodies work in perfect sync when we move, rather than when we lie down in bed and watch Netflix.

Even with the Neolithic Revolution or so-called the Agricultural Revolution, we still had to do a lot of physical work in order to grow the crops, protect them and stash them.

What happened that changed everything was the invention of the microchip, or to be more precise, the consequence of the microchip, which was the Digital Age. Of course, everything was done for all the right reasons, like not having to send out letters that would arrive in 2 weeks. But as a consequence of everything becoming so easy, we are taking many necessary things for granted, like exercise, food, or being spiritually fulfilled.

We made it pretty clear that we have to move for the body to function properly, and this in turn will give us MORE energy instead of making us tired.

When was the last time you felt that breeze of energy in the morning? That burst of alertness and agility? I can almost guess that it was some upcoming presentation, performance or you being happy like a little kid to do something you are really passionate about.

When we love the work, the relationship, the hobbies and all the tasks in our daily routine, we will have more energy, than doing something we hate. It’s only logical. Loving what we do gives us inspiration to turn that TV off, get our buttocks up, and take some form of physical action, like you pushing that Like button and Subscribing on my YouTube Channel.

By doing more, we have more energy… we covered that. But there are 2 more things we must do if we want to really delete that general tiredness that is slowly taking our time away, the only resource we cannot get back.

The second thing is nutrition

Your body is your temple. If you don’t take care of it, you are going to face tremendous health problems.

Sometimes I wonder how on Earth our bodies can process all those burgers and pizzas… not to mention all the booze. But when someone gets ill because of their own choices, everything becomes clear.

So what is really healthy nutrition?

Healthy diet is not about severe restriction and limitations, or depriving yourself of all the tasty things in the world. It’s about feeling truly alive, energized and great in every aspect.

And the thing is, it’s not very complicated. If you are one of those people who had WAYY to many opinions about what you should and shouldn’t eat, you are not alone, believe me. Some food “gurus” will tell you to eat something, while others will tell you the complete opposite.

The truth is that healthy diet consist of real food, instead of the processed junk food we are used to eat every day. Eating food that is as close as possible to the way nature made it can make a huge difference to the way you think, look, and feel. And you don’t have to deprive yourself of that junk food forever and ever…. you just have to pay attention to your overall diet. That’s why we invented cheat meals!

By using these simple tips, you can cut through the confusion and learn how to create—and stick to—a tasty, varied, and nutritious diet that is as good for your mind as it is for your body.

While some extreme diets may suggest otherwise, we all need a balance of protein, fat, carbohydrates, fiber, vitamins, and minerals in our diets to sustain a healthy body. You don’t need to eliminate certain categories of food from your diet, but rather select the healthiest options from each category.

The last one is: Stay Physically Active

For some people this is the worst type of conversation. They run away from exercise like the plague. But exercise is really, REALLY vital to our well-being. Plus who doesn’t want that stunning summer body?

Exercise benefits every part of the body, including the mind. Exercising causes the body to make chemicals so-called endorphins that can help a person feel good. Exercise also help people sleep better, and yes, putting that phone down at night also helps you sleep better. Exercise can also help some people who have mild depression and low self-esteem. Plus, exercise can give people a real sense of accomplishment and pride at having achieved a goal — like beating an old time for a 5 mile run.
Exercise helps people lose weight and lower the risk of some diseases. Exercising regularly lowers a person’s risk of developing some diseases, including obesity, type 2 diabetes, and high blood pressure. Also, if you want that stunning hot body turning heads every summer, exercise will help you do that too.

Now that we know the benefits, WHAT DO WE DO?? Join the gym, go for a run…. what? I personally used to exercise in the gym and then I started kick-boxing… so that seems to be working pretty well for me for the last 14 years. Also, calisthenics, running and hiking seem to be working out pretty well too.

When it comes to health, I would suggest you to go for a run or join the local gym and start from there. I truly hope you can find yourself in some sport because it will prolong your life, give you more energy and simply make you look stunning hot.

Final words

Just because we didn’t mention drinking water, getting enough sunlight and sleep we should avoid them. I just think the ones we mentioned are far more easily forgotten than the rest, and we should be reminded of them every once in a while.

Being tired most of the time is really blocking you from achieving many wonderful things in your life. With a little shift of perspective and mental effort, we can all change our lives, live better, and help this world be a better place.

I read a very interesting quote the other day in a book about nutrition and health. It explained that the lifespan expands all the time, but that doesn’t mean that people live more quality lives now. We can prolong our lives with pills and medications, but it’s really about the quality in the years. I am not saying we should all die young and happy. I am saying that by doing these things we wouldn’t need the pills and medications to live long and happy life.

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Make Passive Income Online – 5 Truth Shattering Facts You Won’t Like

Post author By Nick G.
Post date November 21, 2020

Make Passive Income Online - 5 Truth Shattering Facts You Won't Like

If you want to know how to make passive income online, you found the right place to start.

Many of these online gurus use the phrases “laptop lifestyle” and “make passive income online”. They make it sound like a fairytale: you just work for few hours a week and voila! You have thousands of dollars daily and you watch Netflix for the rest of your life.

If everyone talks about it, and it seems very easy and straightforward, why aren’t we all doing it? First, the online gurus will charge you up to 2.997$ to “teach” you how to do it. And second, you probably won’t do it. The only thing you’ll do is spend 3k, have half-truths about making money online and you will hate every mentor and online guru out there. The truth is that not all mentors are bad, but one bad experience can make you hate them all.

There are many people out there that make hell of a money JUST BY selling courses online on “making money online”. If they could teach us how to market a course online, maybe that would be a better place to start.

Where Do We Start Then?!

So, now that you hate almost everyone trying to teach you out there, I am authentic. BUY MY COURSE!! Imagine me doing all of this just to sell you a course. Although I do have a course, but I am not selling it 3000$ and don’t push people to buy it. And the truth is that if you scroll through my videos on YouTube you will find awesome information for FREE.

If you’ve read my FREE e-book that I am gifting to you champs, you know that I had an intense time in my rough beginnings. I had to start from 0 with no money for food and climb the ladder step by step.

Unlike all the “gurus” out there, I’ve managed to make thousands of dollars daily without prior investment! I was so dedicated to succeed that I was searching for a loopholes or so-called golden chickens month after month until I finally found one.

When I made my first Google check I re-invested almost 80% of all my earnings. Years later I was able to create cashflow of 20-30k and even 54.000$ dollars a month.

As sweet as it sounds, making money online is entirely different from the way you imagine it when you are not making money online.

In the next 5 truth shattering facts I will expose to you the real view on things when you actually make money online.

Before we hop on the first and the most shocking fact, your support means so much to me. You guys would do me immense favor by sharing this article and subscribing on my YouTube channel.

Thank you for doing that and brace yourself for what you’re about to hear next!

If you want to know how to make passive income online, you found the right place to start.

1. Passive income doesn’t exist

I probably should’ve of kept this last for the sake of you reading this entire article, but I got even more shocking truth saved for the last one.

Next time you hear the phrase “passive income online” just remind yourself of this: passive income doesn’t exist! Probably that is why they don’t teach us about in school.

There is no such a thing as passive income. As much as we would like to hear fairytales about laptop lifestyle and drinking margaritas on the beach while making thousands of dollars without any work, that is simply not true.

Passive income online gets so much attention because marketers created the perfect phrase to catch bigger fish with small worms. They found a way to market a phrase and sell a story to get customers by giving little to no money in advertisement.

Even the same gurus that sell you that story put up hell of a work to create the course, market it and sell it.

But everything is not so harsh and dark. Don’t get me wrong, I love having “passive income online”. But I didn’t create passive income by believing in fairytales and following no-work scheme. I put up years in getting knowledge and investing all my time to create a passive income. I was making 1-2$ a day for 2 years before making that 54.000$ month. This brings me to the 2nd truth.

2. It takes years of work to build a passive income online

What is often sold as a disguise by the name “passive income online” actually means years of dedicated hard work without guarantee that you’ll make a single cent.

It personally took me 2 years before I saw the big money coming in. And in those 2 years I was walking 6 miles a day just to eat a decent meal at my grandmothers, because I couldn’t afford one myself.

I had to find a way to earn without ANY investment. If I had money to invest, I would’ve probably got there way sooner. But the point is that it took me 2 years to build an income I still work 8-10 hours a day to sustain.

Before you cash in a course about passive income, or simply diving into the unknown, know that it will take you years to build a passive income online before you get that sweet fruit, but nobody guarantees that after you spend years and money in trial and error, you will make return of investment. So yes, this is something you probably didn’t want to hear.

3. It is about increasing your value of time

Think about selling in physical store. You see a person walking in, you say hi, and you ask if they need any help. Probably they will because let’s imagine you sell washing machines. They want to know the benefits, the cost, the spending and if you are going to give some extra discount. If all goes well, you will sell the washing machine and get 300$. This probably took around 35 minutes.

If you work 8 hours in that store and sell 1 washing machine every hour, you will sell 8 washing machines total.

The math says that your limit is 8 washing machines, or 2400$ in revenue (not profit, revenue).

Your ceiling, your roof is 2400$ on the best of days. You are limited by this number. You can juggle in front of the store, you can do backflip to entertain people, but you will still remain with 2400$ in revenue at the end of the day.

With passive income, you increase the value of your time. For example every time I wake up (depending on which business and campaign) I have few hundred dollars in profit as soon as I open my eyes. This means that I make money when I sleep. You can’t really do that with selling washing machines at physical location.

The good thing online is that you don’t pay rent, you don’t really need many employees to run an online business, and every customer is attracted by an online advertisement. And the brilliant thing is that scaling a good selling ad will quadruple the cashflow which results in increased value of time.

Now, don’t get me wrong. You can do the same in physical stores as a business owner. But when things go south like they did this year, your physical business will flop in a blink of an eye. While I think it’s important to have a physical location, I thinks it’s even more important to have a great system setup that sells online too.

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4. The school doesn’t teach passive income

The thing “passive income online” and making money when you sleep is very hard to grasp. That is because the school system doesn’t teach us that it’s possible. If you’ve been told that the sky is blue for 22 years and all of a sudden one day you see it orange, you will probably have a hard time believing it, right? You may even visit a psychiatrist about it!

And it makes sense because the whole system feeds of people who spend money like crazy. If you don’t buy unnecessary things like all those nose strapped eating curtains, a lot of businesses would simply perish. Not to mention all those beauty products and fat-loss pills.

Being a CEO is a great thing, but if we are all CEO’s the economy will collapse. Who’s going to do the work in the lower level of the pyramid? I guess we still need to wait for robots a couple of more years.

In most schools the system is outdated and it will teach you only about linear income. This is also known as a normal job. The best case scenario, it will prepare you to have the tools necessary to find a job like CV, but it won’t teach you about waking up with few hundred dollars in your pocket.

You will have to go through thick and thin to learn the skills, master them and apply them in physical reality.

5. You have no idea what’s in front of you and you will probably quit

I’ve been seriously thinking and asking myself this question all over again: If I knew what was in front of me and all the things I had to overcome, would I do it all over again? I really can’t tell a straightforward answer right away….

I’ve been hacked TWICE, I’ve had my Facebook Page of 5.5M followers deleted without ANY prior warning. I had 212 thousand followers Instagram Page deleted in a blink of an eye… this is just the tip of the iceberg and believe me IT WAS AN ICEBERG.

I am not saying all of this to tell you to quit, or don’t even start. The reason why I am telling you all this because I know it’s easier to tell you a story about a princess who lived with her prince happily ever after, but I think it’s far more important to know that the princess was once a girl who lost her mother when she was 10 and lost her father after that. After her father dies, she is forced into servitude in her own home and is tormented by her evil stepmother and two stepsisters. Yes, it’s about Cinderella.

The bad times is what it’s really all about, because when you are happy everything is cool and fine, until you hit that bump on the road, and you think you are the loneliest person on the planet. You keep asking yourself: why is this happening only to me? Why am I the unluckiest person on the planet? The truth is that millions of people already made it, and they’ve been through far FAR worse than you to get there.

I think what really keeps us going is our character. If you won’t settle for anything less than success, you will make it no matter what. And I think we bring this character in every day life with us. In the gym, in relationship, in work, in friendship and in life in general.

If you want to create life of your dreams you have to sweat till you become pale and dehydrated. If you wanna build that perfect relationship you have to go through arguments because they are necessary to build that perfect relationship. You don’t need to ASPIRE to have them, but you have to solve them.

Same goes for making passive income online. If you want to imagine yourself drinking margarita on the beach with a sunset, with 1M$ in your bank, you have to sweat years for that. And after you finish that cocktails and enjoy your night, you have to get back to sweating again. If you don’t enjoy the whole process, the ups and downs the good and bad, you probably won’t enjoy the sunset and the margarita.

If I had to find a way to make thousands of dollars daily with 0 investment in ads, you can make it too.

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How To Stop Worrying And Start Living, According To Science

Post author By Nick G.
Post date September 24, 2020

By the time you finish this article, you will have the scientific knowledge, backed by scientific research on how to stop worrying.

By the time you finish this article, you will have the scientific knowledge, backed by scientific research, on how to stop worrying, or at least to stop worrying about 85-97% of the things in your entire life.

Five hundred years ago, Michel de Montaigne said: “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.” Now there’s even a study that proves it. This study looked into how many of our made up stories never happen in the physical reality.

So How To Stop Worrying, According To Science?

A skeleton thinks how to stop worrying. Apparently it doesn’t work for him.

We worry way too often about each and every detail. Usually we worry about our diet, we worry about our health, we worry about making money, we worry about our physique, we worry if we are attractive or not, we worry about our partner, we worry about our parents and grandparents… we worry about each and every single thing we are unsure about.

Unlike the animals, we have the capacity to think about ourselves far into the future. Animals respond to life mostly on a moment-by-moment basis, but our ability to imagine the future allows us to behave in ways today that will have desired consequences later on. Now, don’t get me wrong, worrying is not all that bad. Self-awareness is essential for planning for the future, improving ourselves, and avoiding real danger in the future.

And yes, while thinking about the future is critical to our well-being, most of us think about the future far more than needed to manage our lives effectively. When we think too much about the future, we get distracted from our life in the present moment and what’s even worse, it fuels great deal of anxiety about things that will probably never happen tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, next week, year and even decades from the present moment.

While animals fear when they face real danger, they don’t worry about what might happen in the future, nor they read articles on how to stop worrying.

If all the things we worry about happen, and we are prepared for them, it would be an absolute blessing to worry. But on the other side, if all the things we worry about happen, that would be living in hell!

Most of the things we worry about never happen, and if they do, we can solve them a lot better than we thought we can. Worrying about future problems rarely gets us prepared when it’s time to take action in the physical reality.

Yet the question remains: if worrying doesn’t do much good, but more damage, why do we keep worrying? Why do we wrap around the anxiety blanket and keep on trying to predict the future? There’s a great theory predicting the answer of these questions.

“How To Stop Worrying” Didn’t Exist 10000 Years Ago

“How To Stop Worrying” Wasn’t A Topic Of Discussion 10000 Years Ago

Leonard Martin, social psychologist at the University of Georgia suggests a great theory tackling the answer to the questions above.

Martin speculates that self-generated worry about what might happen in the future became a problem in the last 10,000 years or so. Before then, our prehistoric ancestors were able to think about what might happen in the future, but their hunting-gathering lifestyle did not evoke a great deal of unnecessary rumination about the future.

For million of years, humans didn’t plan long-term to accumulate money, success, possessions, or simply self-improve themselves on personal and professional level. Our prehuman ancestors were focused on today, rather than weeks, months, or years ahead. Hunter-gatherers with little to no possessions at all didn’t plan for the future or long-term goals. They didn’t have a reason to think more than a day or two ahead.

But something happened that changed everything. When agricultural revolution or so-called Neolithic Revolution began 10.000 years ago, humans began to worry about the future. Unlike the hunter-gathers who mostly lived day-to-day lives, farmers must plan for planting, harvesting and storing the crops. Because so many things can ruin the crops, farmers began to think about the weather, pests, thieves, rodents and whatnot. Everything they can worry about just to protect their yield.

To make things worse, the new trend called “worrying” didn’t do much good to the farming community. No matter how well they planned or protected the crops from the predictable certainty, things like drought, infestation or even a stampede can destroy everything in a blink of an eye, leaving the farmers to starvation. No matter how many times they spent worrying and protecting the crops, everything could ramshackle like a house of card by things they couldn’t predict.

Many people say this transfer was crucial to humanity. For the first time we owned houses, supplies of food and livestock. Also, the agricultural era brought the division of labor and social roles. This in turn made us worry not only about our well-being, but the well-being of those who we depended upon.

If the theory by Leonard Martin is correct, the Neolithic Revolution brought a new set of psychological stresses because it switched from day-to-day living to worrying too much about things that could rarely be predicted.

Knowing This Is There A Way To Stop Worrying?!

Looking back 10000 years ago, we can hardly say things are getting better on the topic on how to stop worrying. Now we have a lot more things to worry about, especially since the introduction of The Information Age. We are being bombarded with so much information a day that it keeps us worried every minute of an hour. However, everything can be fixed if we have the right habits and tools, for which we’ll discuss at the end of this article.

Read After: 5 Things You Must Do To Uncover The Endless Potential That Is Slowly Dying In You

Montaigne’s quote that we mentioned in the beginning of this article made us laugh for five centuries, but worry is no joke.

The stressed caused by worrying generates serious health problems. The stress hormone that worrying throws into your brain is linked to heart disease, cancer, premature aging, family dysfunction, clinical depression, lowering your IQ, shrinking brain mass, and even making seniors more likely to develop dementia and Alzheimer’s.

Science tells us not to worry, and here’s the scientific research supporting my claim.

The study we mentioned in the beginning of this article, looked into how many of the things we worry about turn out to be true in real life.

In this study, subjects were asked to write down their worries over an extended period of time and then identify which of the things they wrote down did not actually happen.

It turns out that 85 percent of what subjects worried about never happened, and with the 15 percent that did happen, 79 percent of subjects discovered either:

a) could handle the difficulty better than expected, or
b) the difficulty taught them a lesson worth learning

This means that 97 percent of what you worry over is not much more than a fearful mind punishing you with exaggerations and misperceptions.

Now that you know this, STOP WORRYING! Easier said than done, right? How to stop worrying is better question.

Just by thinking to stop worrying is not going to help you much.

We have to implement habits and basically change ourselves ENTIRELY to stop worrying and start living better life filled with happiness and great moments.

Imagine the perfect YOU, the perfect self. Don’t save anything for later, just imagine everything you ever want to be and achieve.

Now here comes the catch: what I am about to say is mind-blowing!

To become the person you want to be, you have to change everything about yourself in this moment. Everything you “think” about has to be changed. Everything you “do” has to be changed. Long story short, you shouldn’t be the person that you are right now. If you were the person that you should’ve been, you would have all those things already, right?!

Change doesn’t happen overnight, just like there is no such a thing as overnight success. Change happens with mental and physical effort. You cannot wish for it and snap your finger. It doesn’t work that way.

Here are 3 practical tips you can implement right now and start changing your mentality from farmer to hunter-gatherer lifestyle.

1. Take a pen and piece of paper and start writing

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb

Ok, I have to admit. We are going to upgrade the hunter-gatherer lifestyle, since they didn’t have pen and paper, nor they planned for the future (stating the obvious).

Planning for the future is not the cause of worrying. Not knowing how the future unfolds is.

So here’s what we do. We take a pen and paper and start planning for the future.

I don’t personally know you, but I know that you, as all of us, have personal and professional goals that you want to attain.

There’s no precise guideline for this because what works for me might not work for you, but I will share my lookalike plan for the future on one of my goals.

YouTube Channel – I have 1M subscribers on YouTube by 202X year. I keep on publishing videos with enormous value without the need to get something in return.

My vision is making people’s lives better, and helping those who need help.

I publish at least 1 video a week and I will give my best in each and every video.

To be narrowed, I keep my channel strictly about self-improvement and I don’t steer clear of my vision at any cost.

I do research, assemble and write an article, and create that article in a YouTube video.

Here’s how one of my big goal looks like. Then I cut my big goal into smaller goals and do these things daily without skipping a single task.

For many people it works by only having one big goal, for example I will build a massive YouTube Channel by 2022. For me it works by cutting the big goals into smaller ones, and executing the same every day.

Once you start writing ideas will start flowing. Most of us are afraid to imagine and simply upgrade our capabilities to get that thing in the physical reality.

Start writing, have a clear plan about your future, and get to the next step, which is REALLY important.

2. Plan without action is just a wish

I don’t know if you noticed, but I never mentioned that “I will” do something in my plan. I wrote things down as I already do and own them. That way I don’t have space to wish. I give myself the pressure to do all that is necessary to have those things achieved.

After you create your plan on a piece of paper, you already have it in physical reality. It’s really important that you write your plan down, instead of typing it or remembering it, which is the worst type of planning.

When you write things out, you create spatial relations between each bit of information you’re recording. Handwriting activates parts of your brain involved in thinking and working memory, and allows you to store and manage information. The movement associated with the pen and your hand can help you encode and retain information long-term.

Since you have your plan ready, the next step is to start taking action. The difference between wishing and achieving something is your ability to execute your plan in real life.

There are many philosophies that will push you to take action, or things that will motivate you to get up on your a$s and start executing your plan. But here’s the trick: if you love what you do, if you have your plan written next to you, everything else is just an excuse. Taking action does not require you to solve math problems or unsolved mysteries. Taking action is a muscle, and you build it by pushing yourself to do more. Imagine wanting to bigger chest muscles. You will have to work out and push yourself to get those chest muscles pumped.

What we fail to realize is that we are not always going to feel happy about it. Just as I am writing this I was sick as f*ck. I have fever and I feel like throwing up any second, but you know what? No one gives a crap about that. I am going to write this article and finish it and if I need, I will end it by falling with my head on the keyboard. That’s how much I am dedicated to each bit of thing I do today.

You don’t have to go so harsh on yourself, but you do need to be harsh against your emotions. If you feel lazy or just not amused by your work, that’s just unacceptable. That’s the excuse you are making to avoid hardship.

It all boils down to the things you DO. Not the things you “think” you do, but the actual things you create in the physical reality.

Stop doing things because of others. Start beings selfish about yourself, especially when it comes to success. You are going to perish one day. As bad as it sounds, no one gets out alive anyway.

Is your current state your dream life, or you have a lot more to do to get there? If you don’t take action, your current state is going to get worse, because when we don’t improve we usually impair.

Final quote: “Take action! No one will do the work for you!”

3. Life is not a finish line. Life is a journey

Yes. I already said that things will end one day, so eventually life has to end, but that’s the mental oxymoron we are fighting. Why do we all have to think that everything has to have an end? Don’t keep on thinking that when you do “this” you will feel “that”. It just doesn’t work that way.

For example, most people think that when they have money they will be happy and solve all of their problems. I can tell you for a fact that if you work to make money just so you can be happy, then you are NEVER going to be happy when you(if you) make money.

This is because you tie your end goal (which is practically a finish line) to a thing that you hope will make you happy.

And then you keep asking yourself why you are worried. Of course you will be worried! You are chasing 75% cotton and 25% linen (that’s what the money is made of in the US) and hope they will make you happy! Where is the sense in that?

Yes, money can buy you freedom, pay your bills, and put food on your table. But money is not going to make you happy or fulfilled if you chase them for the sake of having them. You’ve got to have an endless vision, a journey behind your earnings. Otherwise they will burden you to the point where you are going to spend them just to be healthy again. You get my point?

Create goals from tiny, daily executions, that will allow you to climb to the medium and gigantic goals.

For example, by researching everyday, writing articles and filming YouTube videos I am going to build a YouTube Channel up to 1M subscribers in X years.

This sounds like a fairy tale now, but if I keep on doing it for X years, I will eventually get there.

However, if I don’t enjoy the journey, and if I do it only to get to 1M subscribers, although the chances are very low, I still might do it. But when I get there I will be more miserable than ever.

When you focus on the journey instead of the goal, you give yourself permission to be happy every second of the day. I am not saying you will be, because every grand goal requires you to go through tons of s*it, but you will hold the switch to end those undesirable emotions every second of the way.

So no, you life is not a sprint, your life is a marathon, and if you want to be happy and fulfilled most of the time, give yourself the permission to do so by going on a journey.

In these practical tips, we almost never mentioned how to stop worrying. I did that on purpose because by having a clear goal, followed by execution and going along a journey, you have nothing to worry about. You’ve had it all covered by yourself. You are no longer farming. You are gathering the fruits of your own creation.

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Action Emotional Health

9 Things You Should Delete From Your Life Immediately

Post author By Nick G.
Post date August 17, 2020

9 Things You Should Delete From Your Life Immediately

Some things take WAY too much of your energy and here are 9 things you should delete from your life immediately!

Long life is a short ride. Things happen so fast that we barely have the influence to change them. How we react to the changes, and the proactive choices that we make determines our future.

Many of us fall in emotional or physical traps. These traps prevent us from improving ourselves on personal and professional level. For example, if you focus on things that you don’t have, how will that turn out for you? Not so good, right?

However, there is a fix for these things, and it starts within ourselves.

Here are 9 things you should delete out of your life immediately:

1. DELETE FROM YOUR LIFE: WHAT YOU DON’T HAVE

Let’s expand what we just mentioned above.

Too many people focus on what they don’t have, right? I can even get myself caught in this trap too.

Bigger house, yacht, boats, exclusive vacations, more money… the list can go for days.

By focusing on things you don’t have you create a vortex for your energy. It is of vital importance to focus your energy on things you CAN do. No matter how small steps you take, each step will get you closer to the goal, even closer to the things you still don’t have.

Be grateful, truly grateful for what you have right now because what you have is SCIENCE FICTION for some people that don’t even have access to clean water.

2. DELETE FROM YOUR LIFE: FEAR OF FAILURE

Welcome failure, champs! Failure is the best teacher that will tutor you through life.

Too many people don’t do things because they are afraid to fail, and there can’t be growth without failure. Just like there can’t be happiness without sadness and joy without sorrow.

As a matter of fact, many people mistake fear with danger. The difference is pretty simple: if a lion charges at you, you have a real danger to be afraid. Many people confuse that it’s “dangerous” to go up on stage and speak, or ask some people for advice. Fear is just a made-up emotion we use to cave in and justify why we can’t do something.

3. DELETE FROM YOUR LIFE: SAFETY AND COMFORT

These things don’t exist. Period.

Yes, the feeling is warm and cozy when you wrap around a warm blanket at home. You can order whatever you want and you’ll get it on your doorstep in no time.

What we fail to realize is that one day we are going to die. If you are okay with dying without making big, positive impact to the world, your family and those around you, then risk-taking and excitement is not for you.

Must-Read: Nurse Revealed The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying

4. DELETE FROM YOUR LIFE: TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Are you afraid of being alone? Let me break it to you: it’s x10 better to be alone then waste your time in toxic relationships.

This doesn’t include romantic relationships only. It includes friends, relatives and co-workers.

You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you spend your time with 5 sh*tty friends, you will be the 6th.

Surround yourself with people that will support you. They don’t have to “adore” you and “compliment” you while they throw tons of s*it behind your back. Simply, they need to make you feel better when you leave their presence, not worse.

5. BEING AWARDED FOR EVERY TINY THING YOU DO

Don’t expect someone to tap your shoulder every time you do something. I was personally lonelier than a nomad! Seven years back, I started working online, completely alone! No one believed in me, people talked behind my back and my family was telling me to get a “real” job. If I waited for a tap on the shoulder, I would end up working 9-5 job that I hate.

Don’t let the support that you don’t receive make you forfeit from your dreams.

6. SHALLOW JUDGEMENTS

Everywhere I go people talk about other people. And what’s even worse is that those same people that gosip and FAR from perfect themselves. And when I say far I mean continents far!

Small minded people talk about other people, average minds discuss about events, and big minded people talk about ideas.

Don’t do it because everyone else does it. Change the conversation, start a positive narrative. Most people wouldn’t accept you because you don’t fill their empty mouth that feeds with shallow judgement. It’s okay to be alone for a while, until the right people gravitate in your life, and believe me… they will!

7. THE EXCUSES YOU HAVE BEEN FEEDING YOURSELF

People have a hard time accepting this, and you might be one of them too: you are the only one that should be blamed for your failures. Your childhood and your past do not define your future.

It is entirely true to say that we are carved by the events in our past, but it’s also true to say that your identity is ever changing! You have the wheel to steer your life in whatever direction you want.

If you focus on finding excuses instead of solutions, I will tell this straight to your face: you are going to end up as a failure and a miserable person.

Remember – when you point your finger at someone, there are 3 fingers pointing back at you.

8. THE END RESULT

I was stuck in this trap for a long time…

My previous mindset was that I thought that if I earned a number “say 12.000$ a month” that I made it! I can lie on the beach with an icy cold margarita next to me for the rest of my life. That was one of the biggest mistakes (and best teacher) that taught me that it’s very wrong to think in terms of end result.

Instead, we should acknowledge that what we do is never-ending! For people who chase comfort and safety this might be a little too much to handle, but I can assure you that if you see your life as a journey instead of an end goal, you will have an amazing shift of perspective for the better.

You won’t chase something that would end, but you would enjoy the course of events as they go.

9. PAST REGRETS

I read something the other day that really changed my life and you really need to pay attention to this: your past is your teacher, and it will never go away until you learn the lesson.

How mind-blowing is that!! I imagine this like an old person looking down at me repeats a sentence that I should engrave in my mind.

My mother passed away when I was 18 years old and that moment was really haunting me for a long time.

Fast forward years later, I finally realized that I am truly grateful to her for making me the person that I am today and that part of her will never die. It took me 10 years to finally realize that, and I feel so much relieved ever since. I only have gratefulness and appreciation for making me this stubborn dude that never wants to give up.

Don’t avoid your past, but look right through your painful memories and truly, from the bottom of your heart, try to learn the lesson that will help you out in the present and future.

I don’t want to remind you again, but if you are healthy and have a roof over your head, you are way ahead of most people in the entire world. Do not miss a single day appreciating that.

Read After: Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things

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Action Emotional Health

Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things

Post author By Nick G.
Post date August 13, 2020

Whenever you are on the brick to giving up, just remember that mentally strong people would never do these 6 things, especially the 6th:

No, mentally strong people don’t have big biceps or pretty, sharp face. Mentally strong person can be 130 pounds man with a resilience of an ant. It can also be a 110 pound woman that is quieter than the anechoic chamber at Orfield Laboratories in Minneapolis.

With so much information out there, sometimes it looks unbearable. Worldwide pandemic is soaring while they’re bombarding us with “second wave” pandemic this winter. Parents are getting fired and families are starving. There is so much going on that we can’t even begin to think positive about something.

However, let me break it all to you. A single person has the power to change the entire world. The willingness and desire we have can pierce through mountains and make create new roads when they don’t exist. We can pave the jungles, beat the unbeatable and create things that don’t exist! Each and every one of these things were made by mentally strong people who refused to back down.

If Thomas Edison said f*ck it and threw the project for the light bulb in his first failed attempt, we would still light up candles in the night. He had over 1.000 failed attempts to invent the light bulb. Can you even imagine?! We don’t even have the patience to count to 1.000!

Whenever you are on the brick to giving up, just remember that mentally strong people would never do these 6 things:

Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things — Whenever you are on the brick to giving up, just remember that mentally strong people would never do these 6 things. Photo by Noah Buscher on Unsplash

1. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVE

Yes, every sane person would say that things are not going well around the globe, especially after the pandemic at the beginning of this year. But if you are healthy and breathing, sitting on your phone or PC, you have a lot more than most people!

Things can be a lot worse then they are right now for you as individual and for the world in general. If you just Google the deadliest world events, you will be realize of how lucky you are right now.

As humans, we have the tendency to think negative and find what’s not right about our situation in this exact moment. That’s not necessarily bad because we are naturally pushing ourselves to take action and improve. But I’ve come with a solution that can make you think positive and push yourself to do better. I strongly suggest you to read this article after this one and answer the self-reflection questions I have posted there.

2. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T COMPARE WITH THINGS AND PEOPLE

You can really explain this with a single phrase: don’t do it, it’s a one way street.

Every time you compare yourself to others, you waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than your own. Comparisons often result in resentment towards others and ourselves. Comparisons deprive us of joy.

When you put your mind on other person, you deplete yourself of the energy that can help you improve yourself on personal and professional level.

Comparing is often materialistic and yes, while it’s better to cry in a Ferrari, materialistic things cannot make you happy. Period. Studies even confirm it.

The pursuit and purchase of physical possessions will never fully satisfy our desire for happiness. It may result in temporary joy for some people, but the happiness found in buying a new item rarely lasts longer than a few days. Researchers even have a phrase for this temporary fulfillment: retail therapy.

3. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T LISTEN TO EVERYONE

It’s been few months since my grandfather died, but I will always remember what he said one day. He rushed in my room, looked at my PC when I was struggling to write or fix something on my website and told me: nephew, you have to go out and find a job. You should stop playing these games all day. I laughed the crap out of me that day because I kind of realized that people around me, especially older relatives, will never appreciate what I do. Well, not until I brought 54.000$ at home one month (which I explain how in my VIP Hall Pass membership and my course).

I used to struggle for 2 years not knowing if I was going to make a buck or not. Friends were talking behind my back, my family was against each bit of what I did but I never, not once, gave up on my dream.

The reason why I am saying this is because I know that you can do whatever you want to do, as long as you have burning desire and resilience to do it.

People will always be against you, especially in the beginning. Do not let this ruin your process and make you wave your white flag.

4. THEY DON’T WASTE ENERGY ON THINGS THEY CAN’T CONTROL

Seriously, today the world is so volatile that you can barely control global things. If your business was physical, you’d be broke after what happened with the world this year.

Every regular Joe would bump his head in the wall, but not mentally strong people.

We really have 2 options available: either cry and find excuses why bad things only happen to us, or adapt to the situation and even improve a lot more than before.

When you really think about your life, you can be struck by very great and on the contrary, horrible things, but how you act upon those changes will determine the outcome of your life.

5. THEY DON’T GET STUCK IN THE PAST

I read something the other day that really changed my life and you really need to pay attention to this: your past is your teacher, and it will never go away until you learn the lesson.

How mind-blowing is that!! I really see it like an old person above my head repeating a sentence that I should engrave in my mind.

My mother passed away when I was 18 years old and that moment was really haunting me for a long time.

Don’t avoid your past, but look right through your painful memories and truly, from the bottom of your heart, try to learn the lesson that will help you out in the present and future.

I don’t want to remind you again, but if you are healthy and have a roof over your head, you are way ahead of most people in the entire world. Do not miss a single day appreciating that.

6. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID TO BREAK THE OLD PATTERN

I think this is the MOST important step of all, and I put it last because I want you to self-reflect on all 6 things after this.

Major changes require drastic measures. I know that there is a thing right now that you don’t like about your life. Just take a second and think about that. I am not going anywhere.

Okay, now that you know what’s the thing that doesn’t fit in your life, now brainstorm ideas that will help you change that thing. Let me help you out.

The people that you surround yourself with have A LOT to do with how your life will untangle. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are surrounded with negative and pessimistic people, do not expect you to be any different.

I would highly suggest you to change your environment. For me it worked by putting myself in quarantine 7 years ago (before it was cool) and separating from all the negativity around me. By avoiding most contact with people helped me realize who I was. Drastic changes were made and stunning outcomes were created.

FINAL WORDS:

No matter your circumstance or situation, the way you react on things defines you as an individual. Remember: not the things that happen to you, but how you act upon the things that happen to you.

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Action Emotional Health

Toxic Positivity: Why Being Positive All The Time Can Break And Destroy You

Post author By Nick G.
Post date August 11, 2020

I am a firm believer in positive psychology and all the perks from it, but sometimes being positive can ruin and destroy your mood.

In this moment I can think of a very devastating and shocking situation that changed the entire course of my life: the death of my mother.

I remember the frustration, sadness and emptiness I felt when I heard the dreadful news. She had cancer in the 4th stage and it was expected, but when you are 18 years old you just cannot accept that. You feel like the world is unfair to just people.

When she passed away, I got a lot of messages from people sending thoughts and prayers, but very few just didn’t seem like they were in place. One particular message really got me pissed. It was “keep it positive, things will be better.” I was pissed almost instantly. There is no way someone thinks that I will be positive after what happened. Do they even realize what just happened?! I didn’t feel better. I felt worse. This is what I call toxic positivity.

Here are some examples of toxic positivity:

Feeling bad, guilty, or shameful for how you feel.
Putting on a “mask” to the world when you feel completely different inside.
Ignoring, hiding, downplaying, or dismissing your emotions or real feelings.
Pretending everything is okay when it’s not.
Minimizing others’ emotions.
Shaming people for having negative emotions.
Invalidating someone’s experience by not acknowledging the real issue/pain/frustration.

I am a firm believer in positive psychology and all the perks and benefits from it, but sometimes being positive is not the answer. As a matter of fact, it can ruin and destroy your mood more than it already is.

I can credit positive psychology for taking me in this place that I am right now, or looking at the things a lot better than they were before they even happened.

However, positivity is not going to cure it all.

Optimism is not helpful when it makes people feel guilt, shame, or invalidated in a way.

Positivity is not positive when it invalidates, denies, or minimizes authentic human emotions.

Stoicism is not brave or courageous when it forces you to stuff down your real, true emotions and be inauthentic with what you really feel.

Perspective is not supportive when it marginalizes your experience.

This pandemic is making a huge changes to human experience over the world. We need to separate, limit and divide the connection between us. I really feel like the source of humanity is being taken away and I am not blaming anyone for this. We are doing this to protect ourselves.

Not to mention that millions of people were left without jobs, many families cannot feed their newborns. I cannot say “how” this situation occurred and who f*cked up the entire world, but things are not positive right now. Positivity will not find the cure or stop the worldwide pandemic. Here’s what’s going to stop it.

Your emotions are call to action

My perspective was changed in an instant! How would you handle your emotion if you knew that they are your calls to action?! If you are depressed, it means that you should take a course of action and feel better. If you are bored you’re probably lying in bed and watching Netflix for 5 hours, and you need to stand up and do something to feel better.

However, saying it so lightly cannot really make a change, right? Depressed people cannot find the motivation to stand up and do something. They get way too deep in the nothingness until their life simply makes no sense. So here’s an example that always helps me:

When I feel like I’m getting frustrated, obstructed or simply bored, I move! Yes, I simply move. I walk for 15 minutes, I do jumping jacks for 2 minutes or just run in place. This may seem like a strange thing to do, but I get out of those undesirable emotions immediately! Even if I don’t want to, I still do it, no matter how unmotivated I feel in that moment. I know that after only few minutes I’ll feel better.

Humans are creatures of movement. Just look at our history: hunters, gatherers, warriors, and soldiers. We have evolved to move and the rise of technology is slowly taking that away from us. Now, technology is inevitable, and people will be even more sedentary in the next few years, but no one can take our desire to move and exercise.

The reason why I am saying all of this is because taking action is the cure. Being positive is a great thing in most situations, don’t get me wrong. But being positive all the time is bullsh*t. As a matter of fact, I made a video about this topic:

Bottom Line:

Champs, be truly happy that we have this freedom right now. Thousands of years ago, every day was a struggle to survive. What we have now cannot be paid with a thousand castles long time ago. The comfort and freedom is way too much. Don’t take that for granted and don’t avoid moving your body – the only temple that you have.

Most of all, listen to your emotions and take action. Don’t be blindly positive because it can truly cause harm in the wrong state of mind.

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