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Kim Ung-yong, The Man With the Highest IQ Has a Powerful Message That Will Change The Way You Think

Kim Ung-yong, The Man With the Highest IQ Has a Powerful Message That Will Change The Way You Think
What's even more genius than the man himself is the thing that he shared with the world about the key to happiness. He told us what really matters...

Yep, geniuses are born these days too! I even think that today, more than ever, we have the highest number of geniuses being born every year, but it’s not wrong to say that today we have school systems that are dumbing us down and prevent us from flourishing, even as an ordinary human being with normal IQ.

One genius (since he wore diapers) broke the chains and raised above the systems. Kim Ung-Yong is a South Korean civil engineer that displayed astonishing level of intelligence shortly after his birth, March 8, 1962.

He was also listed in the Guinness Book of World Records as the man with the “Highest IQ.” What’s even more genius than the man himself is the thing that he shared with the world about the key to happiness. He told us what really matters…

WHO IS KIM UNG-YONG?

Kim Ung-Yong was born in Gangneung, Gangwon, South Korea. He started speaking when he was 6 months old and was able to read Korean, Japanese, English, German and many other languages by his second birthday. By the time he was four, his father claimed that his son Kim Ung-Yong had memorized about 2000 words in both English and German. He was writing poetry in Korean and Chinese, and wrote two short books of essays and poems (less than 20 pages).

At age four, he scored over 200 on an IQ test normally given to seven-year-olds.

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Kim Ung-Yong mastered algebra at a very early age.

Geniuses cannot go unseen. That’s exactly why NASA took Kim Ung-yong under their wings at the age of 8. In the beginning he was learning the rookie stuff, but in 1974 he began working alongside with the most brilliant minds. He spent almost a decade at NASA.

When you feel something isn’t right, it usually isn’t. This is what happened to Kim Ung-yong at NASA. He pushed himself to the limit year after year, and yet he felt emptier than ever. He felt void consumed by working the “robotic life” as he called it. “At that time, I led my life like a machine – I woke up, solved the daily assigned equation, ate, slept, and so forth. I really didn’t know what I was doing, and I was lonely and had no friends,” he says.

At the age of 16 in 1978 he went back to South Korea. People, no different than any majority around the globe, started calling him “a defective genius.” After receiving criticism from the public, he decided to continue his education at a local university.

As of 2007 he served as adjunct faculty at Chungbuk National University. In March 14, 2014, he became associate professor in Shinhan University, and became vice president of North Kyeong-gi Development Research Center.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO HAVE A HIGH IQ?

People often talk about very high IQ scores, often referred to as genius IQ scores, but what exactly do these numbers mean and how do they stack up?

A Breakdown of IQ Scores

The average score on an IQ test is 100. These labels are often given for IQ scores:

  • 1 to 24: Profound mental disability
  • 25 to 39: Severe mental disability
  • 40 to 54: Moderate mental disability
  • 55 to 69: Mild mental disability
  • 70 to 84: Borderline mental disability
  • 85 to 114: Average intelligence
  • 115 to 129: Above average or bright
  • 130 to 144: Moderately gifted
  • 145 to 159: Highly gifted
  • 160 to 179: Exceptionally gifted
  • 180 and up: Profoundly gifted

IQ tests use a standardized scale with 100 as the median score. On most tests, a score between 90 and 110, or the median plus or minus 10, indicates average intelligence. A score above 130 indicates exceptional intelligence and a score below 70 may indicate mental retardation.

Simply put, IQ tests are designed to measure your general ability to solve problems and understand concepts. This includes reasoning ability, problem-solving ability, ability to perceive relationships between things and ability to store and retrieve information. IQ tests measure this general intellectual ability in a number of different ways.

BEING SPECIAL IS NOT AS IMPORTANT AS LIVING AN ORDINARY LIFE

For Kim, having IQ was not always a gift. He missed many ordinary things in his childhood. Without human relationship, Kim says “that’s no life at all.”

“People always try to be somebody special by neglecting their ordinary happiness. But they should know happiness means ordinary things that we take for granted, such as nourishing friendships, sharing memorable moments with friends at school and so on…I couldn’t have these things even if I wanted to. This is why I know that what I’m saying is important,” Kim said.

Kim’s message is loud and clear: “Being special is not as important as living an ordinary life.”

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Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things

Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things
Whenever you are on the brick to giving up, just remember that mentally strong people would never do these 6 things, especially the 6th:

No, mentally strong people don’t have big biceps or pretty, sharp face. Mentally strong person can be 130 pounds man with a resilience of an ant. It can also be a 110 pound woman that is quieter than the anechoic chamber at Orfield Laboratories in Minneapolis.

With so much information out there, sometimes it looks unbearable. Worldwide pandemic is soaring while they’re bombarding us with “second wave” pandemic this winter. Parents are getting fired and families are starving. There is so much going on that we can’t even begin to think positive about something.

However, let me break it all to you. A single person has the power to change the entire world. The willingness and desire we have can pierce through mountains and make create new roads when they don’t exist. We can pave the jungles, beat the unbeatable and create things that don’t exist! Each and every one of these things were made by mentally strong people who refused to back down.

If Thomas Edison said f*ck it and threw the project for the light bulb in his first failed attempt, we would still light up candles in the night. He had over 1.000 failed attempts to invent the light bulb. Can you even imagine?! We don’t even have the patience to count to 1.000!

Whenever you are on the brick to giving up, just remember that mentally strong people would never do these 6 things:

Mentally Strong People Never Do These 6 Things
Whenever you are on the brick to giving up, just remember that mentally strong people would never do these 6 things. Photo by Noah Buscher on Unsplash

1. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVE

Yes, every sane person would say that things are not going well around the globe, especially after the pandemic at the beginning of this year. But if you are healthy and breathing, sitting on your phone or PC, you have a lot more than most people!

Things can be a lot worse then they are right now for you as individual and for the world in general. If you just Google the deadliest world events, you will be realize of how lucky you are right now.

As humans, we have the tendency to think negative and find what’s not right about our situation in this exact moment. That’s not necessarily bad because we are naturally pushing ourselves to take action and improve. But I’ve come with a solution that can make you think positive and push yourself to do better. I strongly suggest you to read this article after this one and answer the self-reflection questions I have posted there.

2. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T COMPARE WITH THINGS AND PEOPLE

You can really explain this with a single phrase: don’t do it, it’s a one way street.

Every time you compare yourself to others, you waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than your own. Comparisons often result in resentment towards others and ourselves. Comparisons deprive us of joy.

When you put your mind on other person, you deplete yourself of the energy that can help you improve yourself on personal and professional level.

Comparing is often materialistic and yes, while it’s better to cry in a Ferrari, materialistic things cannot make you happy. Period. Studies even confirm it.

The pursuit and purchase of physical possessions will never fully satisfy our desire for happiness. It may result in temporary joy for some people, but the happiness found in buying a new item rarely lasts longer than a few days. Researchers even have a phrase for this temporary fulfillment: retail therapy.

3. MENTALLY STRONG PEOPLE DON’T LISTEN TO EVERYONE

It’s been few months since my grandfather died, but I will always remember what he said one day. He rushed in my room, looked at my PC when I was struggling to write or fix something on my website and told me: nephew, you have to go out and find a job. You should stop playing these games all day. I laughed the crap out of me that day because I kind of realized that people around me, especially older relatives, will never appreciate what I do. Well, not until I brought 54.000$ at home one month (which I explain how in my VIP Hall Pass membership and my course).

I used to struggle for 2 years not knowing if I was going to make a buck or not. Friends were talking behind my back, my family was against each bit of what I did but I never, not once, gave up on my dream.

The reason why I am saying this is because I know that you can do whatever you want to do, as long as you have burning desire and resilience to do it.

People will always be against you, especially in the beginning. Do not let this ruin your process and make you wave your white flag.

4. THEY DON’T WASTE ENERGY ON THINGS THEY CAN’T CONTROL

Seriously, today the world is so volatile that you can barely control global things. If your business was physical, you’d be broke after what happened with the world this year.

Every regular Joe would bump his head in the wall, but not mentally strong people.

We really have 2 options available: either cry and find excuses why bad things only happen to us, or adapt to the situation and even improve a lot more than before.

When you really think about your life, you can be struck by very great and on the contrary, horrible things, but how you act upon those changes will determine the outcome of your life.

5. THEY DON’T GET STUCK IN THE PAST

I read something the other day that really changed my life and you really need to pay attention to this: your past is your teacher, and it will never go away until you learn the lesson.

How mind-blowing is that!! I really see it like an old person above my head repeating a sentence that I should engrave in my mind.

My mother passed away when I was 18 years old and that moment was really haunting me for a long time.

Fast forward years later, I finally realized that I am truly grateful to her for making me the person that I am today and that part of her will never die. It took me 10 years to finally realize that, and I feel so much relieved ever since. I only have gratefulness and appreciation for making me this stubborn dude that never wants to give up.

Don’t avoid your past, but look right through your painful memories and truly, from the bottom of your heart, try to learn the lesson that will help you out in the present and future.

I don’t want to remind you again, but if you are healthy and have a roof over your head, you are way ahead of most people in the entire world. Do not miss a single day appreciating that.

6. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID TO BREAK THE OLD PATTERN

I think this is the MOST important step of all, and I put it last because I want you to self-reflect on all 6 things after this.

Major changes require drastic measures. I know that there is a thing right now that you don’t like about your life. Just take a second and think about that. I am not going anywhere.

Okay, now that you know what’s the thing that doesn’t fit in your life, now brainstorm ideas that will help you change that thing. Let me help you out.

The people that you surround yourself with have A LOT to do with how your life will untangle. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are surrounded with negative and pessimistic people, do not expect you to be any different.

I would highly suggest you to change your environment. For me it worked by putting myself in quarantine 7 years ago (before it was cool) and separating from all the negativity around me. By avoiding most contact with people helped me realize who I was. Drastic changes were made and stunning outcomes were created.

FINAL WORDS:

No matter your circumstance or situation, the way you react on things defines you as an individual. Remember: not the things that happen to you, but how you act upon the things that happen to you.

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Toxic Positivity: Why Being Positive All The Time Can Break And Destroy You

Psychologists Reveal Apply This 2-hour Rule and Your Life Will Change 180°
I am a firm believer in positive psychology and all the perks from it, but sometimes being positive can ruin and destroy your mood.

In this moment I can think of a very devastating and shocking situation that changed the entire course of my life: the death of my mother.

I remember the frustration, sadness and emptiness I felt when I heard the dreadful news. She had cancer in the 4th stage and it was expected, but when you are 18 years old you just cannot accept that. You feel like the world is unfair to just people.

When she passed away, I got a lot of messages from people sending thoughts and prayers, but very few just didn’t seem like they were in place. One particular message really got me pissed. It was “keep it positive, things will be better.” I was pissed almost instantly. There is no way someone thinks that I will be positive after what happened. Do they even realize what just happened?! I didn’t feel better. I felt worse. This is what I call toxic positivity.

Here are some examples of toxic positivity:

  • Feeling bad, guilty, or shameful for how you feel.
  • Putting on a “mask” to the world when you feel completely different inside.
  • Ignoring, hiding, downplaying, or dismissing your emotions or real feelings.
  • Pretending everything is okay when it’s not.
  • Minimizing others’ emotions.
  • Shaming people for having negative emotions.
  • Invalidating someone’s experience by not acknowledging the real issue/pain/frustration.

I am a firm believer in positive psychology and all the perks and benefits from it, but sometimes being positive is not the answer. As a matter of fact, it can ruin and destroy your mood more than it already is.

I can credit positive psychology for taking me in this place that I am right now, or looking at the things a lot better than they were before they even happened.

However, positivity is not going to cure it all.

Optimism is not helpful when it makes people feel guilt, shame, or invalidated in a way.

Positivity is not positive when it invalidates, denies, or minimizes authentic human emotions.

Stoicism is not brave or courageous when it forces you to stuff down your real, true emotions and be inauthentic with what you really feel.

Perspective is not supportive when it marginalizes your experience.

This pandemic is making a huge changes to human experience over the world. We need to separate, limit and divide the connection between us. I really feel like the source of humanity is being taken away and I am not blaming anyone for this. We are doing this to protect ourselves.

Not to mention that millions of people were left without jobs, many families cannot feed their newborns. I cannot say “how” this situation occurred and who f*cked up the entire world, but things are not positive right now. Positivity will not find the cure or stop the worldwide pandemic. Here’s what’s going to stop it.

Your emotions are call to action

My perspective was changed in an instant! How would you handle your emotion if you knew that they are your calls to action?! If you are depressed, it means that you should take a course of action and feel better. If you are bored you’re probably lying in bed and watching Netflix for 5 hours, and you need to stand up and do something to feel better.

However, saying it so lightly cannot really make a change, right? Depressed people cannot find the motivation to stand up and do something. They get way too deep in the nothingness until their life simply makes no sense. So here’s an example that always helps me:

When I feel like I’m getting frustrated, obstructed or simply bored, I move! Yes, I simply move. I walk for 15 minutes, I do jumping jacks for 2 minutes or just run in place. This may seem like a strange thing to do, but I get out of those undesirable emotions immediately! Even if I don’t want to, I still do it, no matter how unmotivated I feel in that moment. I know that after only few minutes I’ll feel better.

Humans are creatures of movement. Just look at our history: hunters, gatherers, warriors, and soldiers. We have evolved to move and the rise of technology is slowly taking that away from us. Now, technology is inevitable, and people will be even more sedentary in the next few years, but no one can take our desire to move and exercise.

The reason why I am saying all of this is because taking action is the cure. Being positive is a great thing in most situations, don’t get me wrong. But being positive all the time is bullsh*t. As a matter of fact, I made a video about this topic:

Bottom Line:

Champs, be truly happy that we have this freedom right now. Thousands of years ago, every day was a struggle to survive. What we have now cannot be paid with a thousand castles long time ago. The comfort and freedom is way too much. Don’t take that for granted and don’t avoid moving your body – the only temple that you have.

Most of all, listen to your emotions and take action. Don’t be blindly positive because it can truly cause harm in the wrong state of mind.

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Psychologists Reveal: Apply This 2-hour Rule and Your Life Will Change 180°

Psychologists Reveal: Apply This 2-hour Rule and Your Life Will Change 180°
Psychologists Reveal: Apply This 2-hour Rule and Your Life Will Change 180°

Throughout history, many individuals made a big difference in this world.

  • Mother Teresa – Charity worker who devoted life to serving the poor and destitute.
  • Charles Darwin – Credited with theory of evolution and natural selection.
  • Galileo Galilei – Scientist who made discoveries about the galaxy and stuck to his principles.
  • Albert Einstein – Scientist and peace advocate.
  • Dalai Lama – Spiritual leader of the Tibetans, helped popularise principles of Buddhism.

The list can go for miles, but let’s focus on what these people had in common to make that worldwide difference? Why are they different than us?

According to psychologists “Reflective Thinking” is one of the pillars of self-improvement, and that’s exactly what these people in the list above had in them that makes a distinction from the rest.

Psychologists Reveal: Apply This 2-hour Rule and Your Life Will Change 180°
Psychologists Reveal: Apply This 2-hour Rule and Your Life Will Change 180° Image source: MaxPixel

WHAT IS REFLECTIVE THINKING?

When things don’t turn out as we expected, or as we famously say “when the sh*t hits the fan” what’s the course of action that we take? The truth is that most people will easily find thousands of excuses instead of looking for solutions.

The secret of reflective thinking is looking the solution in you instead of looking it outside of you – in external factors.

I know that many will say that self-focus can be narcissistic and destructive force for us, but that’s not the case. As a matter of fact, psychological research shows that it is a critical component of positive change in life. A variety of theories on self-regulation emphasize that change requires two things: a goal, and an awareness of where ‘one’ currently is in order to assess the discrepancy between the two.

The conclusion is that if you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up nowhere.

Reflective thinking offers solution through your eyes and perception.

THE 2-HOUR RULE

According to some experts, the 2 hour rule might be the solution to every problem.

Two hours might seem like a long span of time, but if you separate 2 hours a week, more or less you’ll have only 15-20 minutes a day.

So here’s how you perform it: when you get back home from work, remove all distractions. When I say all, I mean everything, including phones, tablets and noises. For this awesome exercise, you’ll need a pen and a paper.

Here are a few questions Zat Rana reflect on:

  • Am I excited to be doing what I’m doing or am I in aimless motion?
  • Are the trade-offs between work and my relationships well-balanced?
  • How can I speed up the process from where I am to where I want to go?
  • What big opportunities am I not pursuing that I potentially could?
  • What’s a small thing that will produce a disproportionate impact?
  • What could probably go wrong in the next 6 months of my life?

Zat Rana states on Business Insider:

“I can quite honestly say that this is the highest return activity in my life. It forces me to balance the short-term with the long-term. I catch problem before they become problems, and I’ve stumbled onto efficiencies and ideas that I wouldn’t have come across otherwise.

Interestingly enough, much of the value doesn’t come out of the routine questions, but from the time I have left after I run out of things to think about. It’s when I let my mind wander.

I’m not one for easy one-size-fits-all solutions, but this is an idea that I think can serve a lot of people well. We all think, of course, but not all of us do so deliberately and without distractions and guilt.

There is immense value in leaving time for that.”

BOTTOM LINE

If you are honest, how many trivial things did you do today, yesterday, and the week before that? If an average person spends 2 hours and 22 minutes a day on social networking, taking out 15-20 minutes a day to solve the biggest problems in your life is not much of an ask, right?!

Trust me. If you try this, solutions will flow like never before. Also, make sure that you write everything in the notebook (or paper) because once you have your thoughts in writing, magical things can happen! Just try this and see for yourself!

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World’s Leading Psychiatrist Reveals The Top 22 Tips To Shift Your Life Upside Down

People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time.
World’s Leading Psychiatrist Reveals The Top 22 Tips To Shift Your Life Upside Down

Throughout history, many individuals were able to change the entire course of development. People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time. Their ideas were revolutionary, influencing the entire world along with the leaders that controlled it.

One of the greats, is believed to be the Russian psychotherapist, psychologist and author Michail Litvak. Writing a total of 30 books on the topic of popular and practical psychology throughout the course of his career, totaling over 5 million books in circulation, along with a large number of scientific articles on important topics in the psychotherapy and psychology fields, Litvak has influenced experts around the globe.

One of his theories focused on relationships, conflict and conflict resolution was called ‘Psychological Aikido.’ This specific technique focused on providing its practitioners with a number of principles and rules to consider in every situation of human interaction, empowering them to better handle situations of conflict head-on should they arise.

People were influenced, countries were changed and even the world as we know it, thanks to some of the greatest minds of our time.
World’s Leading Psychiatrist Reveals The Top 22 Tips To Shift Your Life Upside Down

We’ve taken out the most important tips shift your life from this outstanding individual:

1. If all your actions are well planned, happiness will naturally follow.

2. Learn to live for yourself. Otherwise, you’ll always be trying to prove yourself to others, and you will be living for them.

3. You can never please every single person. And if you don’t stop trying, then you are preparing yourself for huge failure.

4. Both immature and mature people have knowledge. But for those who are immature, the application of this knowledge is not easy whereas the mature person utilizes it and converts it into action. This is the reason the former cannot do anything much, other than criticizing everyone else.

5. Nobody discards people. It is just that not everyone moves at the same pace and some move ahead sooner.

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6. If you want to daydream, fantasize about things which are realistic and goals which can be achieved. This way you will not lose your drive.

7. Instead of spending your time with a shallow person in the name of company, invest it in a book. It will be more entertaining as well.

8. Someone who can’t praise themselves will inevitably start criticizing others. And this is when they have nothing much to talk about.

9. The idea that there is a difference between male logic and female logic is illogical in itself. You are either wise or you’re not.

10. If people try to make you feel guilty or grateful for their help, it is better that you pay them off for their services and let them go.

11. Someone who is really happy within himself wouldn’t find it necessary that others should think really good about him or her too.

12. Your biggest enemy is not someone lurking in the shadows, waiting for you to slip up. Your biggest enemy is you and facing this enemy can be really tough.

13. If you really have an uncontrollable urge to dig into things, dig into the details of philosophy or science, not into each other’s back.

14. Do not pay attention to insults and criticisms. The day you finally achieve your goals, none of the rest would matter.

15. If you really crave something in life, don’t wait around and definitely don’t ask for permission to have it. Rather try to become the one who can control this thing.

16. Happiness is not something that you chase after. It will not be found hidden in the great outdoors’ nook and cranny. It comes from deep within you and can only be achieved when you learn contentment.

17. Talking to your friends is a good thing no doubt. But when you talk with those who are your enemies, you learn so many new things. Your own shortcomings are just a few of the things. It is rather better to listen to your enemies, than friends.

18. Depression is bad, and frightful and hard. But it is also an opportunity to look deep within yourself. And find out what are the things that have been driving you forward or turning away.

19. If you are in a relationship, be it that of romantic inclination, or a business partnership, you should never break it off, unless you feel that your own growth has been suffocating and not able to take off when you were part of the said relationship.

20. When you try to talk to someone, don’t be afraid, they might actually think favorably of you.

21. If you are alone, especially if you face loneliness after love, it means you are mature and grown spiritually. Also, being alone sort of enhances our productivity.

22. Never be too selfish of your own happiness. When you share it with your friends it enhances your happiness by making them happy. When you share it with your rivals, they just have to deal with the idea that you are better than them.

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Psychologists Reveal How To Remain Calm During Any Argument Or Conflict

Psychologists Reveal How To Remain Calm During Any Argument Or Conflict
Learning how to remain calm during any argument can be easily said than done, but practice makes it perfect. Here's how to remain calm:

Learning how to remain calm during any argument can be easily said than done, but practice makes it perfect.

Emotional intelligence can help you handle your emotions while the lack of emotional intelligence can make you easily irritated, eruptive and unable to be calm during heated arguments.

Let’s face it: we cannot avoid conflict. Whether it’s one with our wife, husbands, kids, friends or coworkers, conflict cannot be avoided. However, being calm during conflict or argument can be controlled. How we react to those situations will determine the emotional state we’ll be in.

At the exact moment when you notice that you’re being part of an argument, here are steps that you can take to stay calm and be in control of the situation:

How To Remain Calm During Any Argument Or Conflict:

1. Remain Calm During Any Argument By Taking Deep Breaths

How To Remain Calm During Any Argument Or Conflict:

Shallow breathing is the body’s response to stress. To break this pattern, take a deep breath and take full control over the body. This will signal your brain that you are “not” in an argument which will give you full control over the situation. Your judgement is not clouded by stress, anger and short temper.

Inhale for 5 seconds and exhale for 7 seconds. This will keep you in control from saying things you may regret for the rest of your life.

2. Be Mindful About Your Body

How To Remain Calm During Any Argument Or Conflict:

Muscle stiffness is often triggered by stress. Stress can adversely affect your body’s nervous system — including your nerves — and how they function. Your nervous system may respond to stress by putting additional pressure on the blood vessels, which results in reduced blood flow to the muscles.

By focusing on your body, relaxing your shoulders and hands, you signal the brain that you have full control over the situation. In turn, this will make you calmer and make better judgement over the situation.

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3. Remain Calm During Any Argument By Actively Listening

Many conflicts or arguments arise because one person wasn’t heard or listened to before. This being said it’s impossible to diffuse an argument without listening.

Start to listen actively so you can make better judgement about the factual reason behind the argument or conflict.

4. Ask Open-ended Questions

How To Remain Calm During Any Argument Or Conflict:

A simple question can solve the entire conflict. Open-ended questions are invaluable. First, because that you actively listen, and second it means that you show interest that you’re trying to solve the argument.

The easiest way to avoid asking “yes or no” questions is not to use the words “do, don’t, did and didn’t” when asking a question. Instead, use the words “what, why, when and how.” The right questions can solve the argument in an instant.

5. Keep Your Voice Down

How To Remain Calm During Any Argument Or Conflict:

The moment you start an argument is the moment you raise your voice. On the flip side, this means that if you lower your voice down, you can easily avoid getting in the middle of a heated conflict or argument.

The point is to press down the anger of the other person. You can’t do this by raising your voice. However, you can instantly diffuse the initial anger by bringing both of your voices to a lower tone.

6. Agree To Disagree

Truth be told, some arguments cannot be solved with mutual benefit. You can avoid getting deep in the conflict by avoiding the whole conversation.

One of the law of interpersonal conflict is that it takes two participants. Disengaging from an argument is appropriate under one of two circumstances:

  1. the person becomes increasingly hostile, or
  2. the conversation, despite your best efforts, is not going anywhere

Unless you are in full control over your mind and body sometimes you will get angry in a conflict or argument. We are emotional beings, and we have triggers that can irritate us. However, by actively practicing these tips to stay calm during an argument, we can easily avoid things that we may regret for the rest of our lives.

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5 Things Will Start To Happen When You Discover Your Hidden Power

You, me and everyone else around us has an inner power patiently waiting to be tackled. It's not anti-gravity, or invisibility; it's something that we possess in the mind.
5 Things Will Start To Happen When You Discover Your Hidden Power

When you discover your hidden power you’ll live the life of your dreams. You, me and everyone else around us has an inner power patiently waiting to be tackled. It’s not anti-gravity, or invisibility; it’s something that we possess in the mind.

Many people don’t believe they possess it, and that is why they never see it. We have warrior inside us that will fight to fulfill each and every one of our wishes. The power is called decisiveness, persistence and resolution.

We expect things to be easy, but they are not. No matter how bad you want something, there will be problems that must be tackled in order for you to grow. Why do you think most people are not successful, fulfilled and happy? Because they want things and feel certain emotions, but they never do the work. They just “wish” things were different but never take action in the physical world.

If you have what it takes, then these 5 things will start to happen when you discover your hidden power:

1. When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Learn To Face Your Fears, Even If They Terrify You

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” – Judy Blume

Fear can cripple your life. It has the power to immobilize your strength and paralyze you to the core.

When I say this, people immediately think that fear is the enemy. No, that’s not the case.

Fear will always exist and it is one of the most powerful guiding emotion you can possess. Thanks to fear, we have evolved to this beautiful creatures we are today.

When you discover your hidden power, you won’t use fear as an impairment. You will use it as a call to action!

We either run away from fear or chase pleasure. This is the basis of life. Let me give you an example:

Let me give you a simple example:

If you have extra pounds (let’s just assume that) you are getting short term pleasure from the extra calories you take through the day. To lose the extra pounds you will have to go through hardship and stressful cravings to get long term pleasure of your fit body, more energy, self-confidence and dexterity. Your emotions will tell you to grab that chocolate next to you because the more you do something, the more you strengthen the bond between the physical action and your brain. This is called neuroplasticity, and it’s actually brilliant. The more you do a simple task, the more it becomes ‘wired’ in your brain. So if you exercise every day you will get bound to it and it will get easier the more you do it. But this also means that if you eat chocolate every day, the more you will do it. The choice is yours.

You should understand your emotions. Not live by them.

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2. When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Become Grateful Even For The Little Things

When You Discover Your Hidden Power You Become Grateful Even For The Little Things
“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.” John F. Kennedy

No matter how many bad things happened in your life, I can guarantee you in this moment that you have SO many things to be grateful for.

I will give you a simple exercise, but you have to promise me, and most importantly, promise yourself that you will do it every morning. Promise yourself now that you will not skip a day without answering these questions every morning.

Are you ready? Here they are:

  1. Why am I happy in my life right now? What in my life makes me happy? How does that make me feel?
  2. Why am I excited in my life right now? What in my life makes me excited? How does that make me feel?
  3. For what am I most proud of in my life right now? What in my life makes me proud? How does that make me feel?
  4. What am I thankful for in my life right now? What in my life makes me thankful? How does that make me feel?
  5. In what do I enjoy most in my life right now? What in my life makes me joyful? How does that make me feel?
  6. What do I strive for in my life right now? What do I aspire to do in my life? How does that make me feel?
  7. Who do I love? Who loves me back? What about that person makes me be full of love? How does that make me feel?

Originally taken from Tony Robbins – Awaken The Giant Within these questions can truly help us make a drastic change for the better. If you constantly answer these questions every day, you will notice that you’ll start to feel happier, more fulfilled, excited, proud, thankful and loved.

3. When You Discover Your Hidden Power, You Realize That You Are Bigger Than Your Mind

When You Discover Your Hidden Power, You Realize That You Are Bigger Than Your Mind
Discover your hidden power to gain control over your emotions.

Oh, God bless we’ve been bestowed with this amazing tool called brain. However, let’s not forget that the little rascal up there is not always right.

As a matter of fact, he is always right, but how we interpret the signals is what makes the difference between how we feel and how we act upon that emotion.

Most of the “negative” emotions that we feel are calls to action. Let’s take an example: if you feel anxious about something, as trivial as the test you have on Wednesday, can be instantly changed if you learn the subject. You can easily lose the extra pounds that are making you insecure by exercising and healthy diet. You get my point?

Each of your emotions can be cured by some sort of physical action. The real problem is that we don’t do enough things in the 24 hours we have. We get easily shackled by the entertainment industry that is killing your potential. Unless you have return of investment of using social media on personal and professional level, I suggest you to stop using it immediately.

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4. You Believe In Yourself And Have Bigger Confidence

Discover your hidden power to boost your self-confidence and faith.

Part of discovering your inner power is being confident in your actions and having faith in yourself.

The more you do, the better you feel. Say you have a goal, and that goal is to lose 7 pounds this month. When you lose those pounds by diet and exercise, you’ll feel like you have more control over your life, right? The achievement of pursuing your goals and completing the same will give you massive boost of faith and confidence.

The same goes for business: if I have a goal to gain 300 more subscribers on my awesome platform this month, I will be even more confident in the things I do because we see results.

Bottom line is that confidence and faith comes from the things you do, not the things you think you do.

5. You Attract The Right Things

“The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself”

It’s amazing how things change when you define how you want to feel and where you want to be in the future.

If you follow the 4 steps above, you will notice that you attract things and people like a magnet.

The truth is that we are always magnets to things and people, but your magnet will not draw the good fruits if you do opposite of the things mentioned above. You will attract negativity, debt, bad people and life full of misery.

Your life is defined by the things you do. I see my actions as an antenna: the more I do good for others and chase my goals, the more people in that sphere I will attract. The right people, things and ‘good fruits’ will come to me, no matter how much time will it take.

If you want to discover your hidden inner power, do these things above and you will be amazed by your ability to achieve greatness!

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The Top 37 Things You Will Regret When You’re Old

The top 37 things you’ll regret when you’re old:
The Top 37 Things You Will Regret When You’re Old

THE TOP 37 THINGS YOU’LL REGRET WHEN YOU’RE OLD…

1. Staying in touch with your friends

This is one of the top 5 regrets of the dying (revealed by a nurse). People on their deathbed told the nurse that they wish they stayed in touch with their friends. It’s still not late for you to connect!

2. Staying in toxic relationship

Relationship has a way to grow on you, no matter how good or bad it is. Don’t let it consume you up to the point that your quality of life is compromised, or completely destroyed.

3. Not traveling when you had the chance

The recent events of the global situation was a wake-up call for this one. Traveling when you get older becomes harder, especially when you are 2+2 or 2+1. You are also gonna need more finances with your family.

4. Not learning another language

I wish I’d known earlier that every new language is a treasure. If I only paid attention to those Spanish classes…

5. Missing the concert of your dream artist

I had a chance to go to M.J.’s concert when I was younger, but I didn’t and he passed away. Do not let it happen to you.

6. Failing to be in shape

When you realize that your body is one with your mind, and that you can actually feel happier, fulfilled and more confident when you exercise, you will shed a new light on fitness activity. Not to mention your health will drastically improve.

7. Working something you hate

Like a bad relationship, we have the skill to adapt to any condition as long as it helps us avoid fear like being broke, hungry or homeless. You have the power to make that change and make it work. Quit before it grows on you.

8. Caring what other people think of you

In 20-25 years from now, you will massively regret the things you didn’t do because of the trivial opinions of others.

9. Oral hygiene

Oh, this one! Believe me, you don’t need anything written about it. Just take it for granted and do it.

10. Staying in touch with your grandparents

Also, take this for granted. When people get older, especially ones with many health problems, the clock is ticking short. Stay in touch with them, call them and talk to them at least few minutes a day.

11. Being scared to take risks

Calculated risks, of course. No gambling or unnecessary speeding.

12. Not realizing how beautiful you were

Hey, it’s life! As we get older we tend to get wrinkles, age spots and skin tags. Look yourself in the mirror because you won’t see that beauty in 30 years from now.

13. Not using sunscreen

Sunscreen can protect your youth and health from the excessive use of sun bathing.

14. Not learning through the youth

If you fall in love with learning, there is not a single chance that you will fail to realize your goals and vision.

15. Afraid to say “I love you.”

As you get older, you will realize that your insecurity of not being loved back is not that important. What’s important is that you express your emotions, especially the good ones like love.

16. Not listening to your parents’

When you become a parent, you will see that you teach your kids only what you think will help and protect them.

17. Helping other people build their dream instead of building yours

Don’t get me wrong. Supporting others is beautiful, but not at the cost of failing to pursue your dream.

18. Working way too much

This falls in the category of the top 5 regrets, also revealed by that same nurse. When you work too much the balance in your life gets disrupted which will affect your quality of life like spending time with your family.

19. Not being grateful enough

When you realize that your clock is truly ticking away your life it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

20. Spending your youth self-absorbed

The most important thing is not you. It’s the moments that YOU share with others that will make you a wonderful person to be around.

21. Not moving on fast enough

When you move slow, your life doesn’t. So get that turbo and make most out of your life right the hell now!

22. Holding grudges, especially with those you love

It’s the mental barrier that you don’t want to have. Just toss it away and don’t let it consume you.

23. Not standing up for yourself

The mental pain after is more damaging than the actual moment you chicken on someone. Don’t let that disgusting feeling be your daily routine.

24. Not volunteering enough (or ever)

The awesome feeling you get when you volunteer and not get anything in return is why you’ll still have faith in humanity when you get older.

25. Not learning how to cook

There is so much more to this than a plate of chicken. If you are not capable of cooking an awesome lemon shrimp pasta then you are not aging as you should.

26. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment

Life now is hectic. So many things affect the present moment (like social networks) that we never even see it.

27. Failing to finish what you start

I can easily say that this is one of the top 3 reasons between failure and success.

28. Never mastering one awesome party trick

How awesome is the feeling you get when the trick you perform is making people believe in magic again?

29. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations

Again, this one can destroy your life completely and will be one of the biggest regret when you get older.

30. Not playing with your kids enough

This may sound strange but the moment when your kids or nephews want to play with you will be instantly changed to “I want to stay in my room alone.”

31. Never taking a big risk in love

It can be terrifying to dive in a relationship. But if he/she is the right person for you have the courage to take down your shield and be vulnerable to them.

32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network

This seems like a total crap when you are younger, but as you get older this is one of the most important thing in business.

33. Worrying too much

About 85 percent of the things people worry about never happen.

34. Getting caught up in needless drama

Unless you plan to be an actor, you don’t need it.. at all.

35. Not spending enough time with loved ones

Love and connection should be nurtured, especially if you want it to persist when you get older.

36. Never performing in front of others

Many elderly people wish they knew (just once) what it felt like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

37. Not keeping up with technology

Not knowing tech today can be considered as a disability. Keep up with that as it progresses.

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Your Life Will Change 180° If You Let Go Of These 20 Mental Barriers

Let go of these 20 mental barriers and your life will change almost instantly:
Your Life Will Change 180° If You Let Go Of These 20 Mental Barriers

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in my life is that we are our own worst enemies. The mental borders we place on ourselves are defining our present and future.

Knowing that you can do anything in your life, why would you choose anything else than something great and wonderful? It’s not as easy as it sounds.

The fact is that today we live very comfortable life. With almost any job you can afford a food on the table, a place to live in and pay your bills.

I am not saying that working something to survive is not okay. I just don’t think that we should stall our personal and professional growth by sticking around the comfort zone and covering in warm blanket.

The fact is that we have limited time on this earth, something that many people fail to realize. If you know you can be gone tomorrow, what would you do today? We should be asking ourselves this question every morning.

Let go of these 20 mental barriers and your life will change almost instantly:

 1. Let go of attachments: Attachment is one of the roots of all suffering. Do not take pride in your possessions which are of temporary nature. We must be grateful for the things we already have because we are more than enough as we are right now.

2. Let go of guilt: Feeling deep sense of guilt in our mind will distract positivity. What could guilt possibly solve? If you name a thing I will agree with you and pull back my words… yeah, that’s what I thought.

3. Let go of self-criticism: A constant fear of self-criticism turns one to a situation of disempowerment. It is very interesting that people who say: “I am not good with names” will never be good with names. If you feed yourself with things you are not good at, there is no chance you are going to improve in them.

4. Let go of prejudices: A prejudiced mind is another serious mental barrier that promotes ill feelings, resentment, turns risky and becomes a serious road block for a good, healthy relationship. If you have preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience, then you are living in an illusion. As a matter of fact, what you say about people, doesn’t really say much about them, but it says a lot about you.

5. Let go of Negative thinking: Negativity creates a dark aura that does not permit optimism to seep in. Your thoughts portray themselves in the physical reality. Would you put cr*p on your food and eat it? Then why would you do that to your brain?

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6. Let go of compulsive thinking: Many people have no control over their thoughts. They let small, made up stories create an entire chain of uncontrolled thoughts preoccupy their life. And the thing is that these made-up stories don’t end up happily ever after. They end up in dismay that is taking a tool on our mental health which later on shows itself in the physical reality.

7. Seeking other’s approval: No matter how good you do, some people will always have something negative to say. People will never fully accept what you do, let alone approve you. Let of of it because it will never make you truly happy with yourself.

8. Let go of grudges: Holding grudges can make you angry, even if it’s below the surface. It has the power to control your life and paralyze your self-control. Instead, ask yourself: Why did this situation make me feel angry? Why they didn’t meet with my expectations? Was it something that I did that made them act like they did? These questions will reveal a lot about you which you can use to improve yourself.

9. Let go of limiting beliefs: Our beliefs are the basic pillars in our consciousness. If you believe that you cannot make $1.000.000 dollars in the next 2 years, guess what? You will never make it. And what’s interesting is that even if you believe that you can, you still might not earn that amount, but you will be a lot closer to that $1 mil if you do, right?

10. Let go of postponing things for tomorrow: Sometimes we are terrible at taking action right now, but great at postponing things for tomorrow, the 1st of the month, or next Monday. This connects with the thing we mentioned above: we are mortal human beings. All we have is right now. No one guarantees you tomorrow. I will ask you again: what would you do if this was the last day in your life?

11. Let go of anxious thoughts: We cannot fully remove these thoughts. The thing we can do is to take away their power when they are weak.

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12. Let go of a heartbreak: We have this biased belief that a lot of time has to pass for us to overcome something painful. I know it might sound harsh, but you are 1 second away from feeling great after a heartbreak. Why does things have to unroll in years when they can be fixed within few days? Learn from your mistakes in the last relationship and move on.

13. Let go of painful memories: In a way, these painful situations can be anything from the loss of a loved one to a broken heart or a job failure. But, if we stop to think for a second, we’ll realize that on a daily basis we experience many astonishing, beautiful and pleasant situations. A kiss from a child, a call from someone you hadn’t spoken to in a while, eating your favorite fruit, reading a few pages from your favorite book… these are all things to be grateful for. Look at it this way: the pain you hold on to, is a teacher that is trying to teach you a lesson. It will stay with you until you pass the test.

14. Let go of useless things: In a funny way, useless things can shackle us. Even if you think about them for a second, it still has power over you. What I do with my useless things is that I mostly donate them. This way you relieve yourself of them and do good for others. A win-win situation.

15. Let go of bad company: You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are surrounded with negative and pessimistic people, do not expect you to be any different.

16. Let go of the past: One of the most effective ways to heal from hurt is to learn the lessons from the situation and use it to focus on growth and forward momentum. If we get stuck in thinking about what “should’ve could’ve been,” we can become immobilized in painful feelings and memories.

17. Let go of identifying with roles: This one is very underrated mental barrier. We are one particular person with the family, another with our friends, and completely third with our co-workers. When you break this down, it means that your identity is scattered in 10 places, while adapting habits that you really don’t want to have just to be “OK” around people. This can severely affect your mental health. Look at #7 again. You can’t please everyone. At least try to please yourself.

18. Let go of taking criticism to heart: It’s okay to take criticism, but it’s harmful to take criticism to heart. When you take things to heart, you let them affect your mental health which can impact your overall health. The point is to get better based on what people say about you. Take criticism on the surface, improve yourself, and let it perish.

19. Let go of the immortal clock: I know this may sound morbid, but your time is limited. I don’t know how many times I should say or write this so you’d truly grasp it and live by it. Call your grandparents, make that move, plan out your financial independence and take action… tomorrow can be too late.

20. Let go of counterproductive habits: Scrolling through TikTok and Instagram watching funny cats and dogs? Let it go. Stop wasting your time by falling in the trap of the entertainment industry. Let go of everything that doesn’t improve you on personal and professional level.

These are some of the most important factors that act as our mental barriers. Dare to reboot your life 180 degrees for the better by letting go of these mental barriers. I would suggest you to read these all over again and know that they have the power to change your entire life for the better almost instantly!

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5 Awful Misconceptions About Money That Keep You From Getting Rich

So here are 5 of the biggest misconception about money that is blocking you to be financially independent and stay there:
5 Awful Misconceptions About Money That Keep You From Getting Rich

Making money is not easy… duh. But what’s making it harder is the misconceptions we have about money.

Why does it seem that people who really want to make money never do? It has something to do with the misconception we have about money.

The biggest mistake I have ever made was that I was chasing money, and it seemed that I was chasing them away from me. When I finally realized that I should be focusing more on things like quality content, message and marketing, the money came pouring in.

Even after I made 800.000$, I was still unable to really “dig” money, and later on I discovered that I had awful misconception about money and the way I should treat them.

So here are 5 of the biggest misconceptions about money that is blocking you to be financially independent and stay there:

Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune -Jim Rohn

1. Money = Emotion (Wrong)

Let me put it in simpler terms. If you want to make money to feel happy, fulfilled or feel like a big shot, there is a high chance that you won’t make them and higher chance that you won’t sustain them. Oh, and yes. You will never feel those emotions once you make money.

Chasing something physical cannot make you happy or fulfilled. Even if you get them by chasing those emotions, you will feel even more depressed when you realize that you are not a tiny bit happier now that you have them.

We have to realize that anything physical — be it a Rolex or a Bentley — is not going to give us positive emotion on long-term. It’s actually based on science.

At the heart of it all, stuff makes us feel good, and we all love feeling good. Many human behaviors are rewarded with pleasurable feelings (caused by the chemical dopamine). Buying stuff can release those same pleasure chemicals, and for many of us, our natural addiction to feeling good can hence be easily satisfied by buying something.

2. More Money = Less Worries (Wrong)

As a matter of fact, the people with less worries are the bumps you see on the street. They worry about the basic human needs: food, water and shelter. If you want to have less worries, I suggest you to throw all your money away and join them.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I don’t say that if you make money you’ll have 1000x things to worry about and you’ll be overloaded with stress and problems. I am just saying that if your aim is to make money to have less problems, you’ve taken the wrong turn already.

Educating ourselves about finances and the way we should handle them, will make our life easier, but having more money to have less worries is wrong. Here’s why is that: when financially poor people worry about a lot of things in times of hardship, they start to imagine that finances will make it all go away in a blink of an eye, which in fact doesn’t come from a state of abundance, but a state of worry and scarcity.

3. Money = Security (Wrong)

While this can be partially true, money won’t make you secure. Let me explain why is that.

When a person thinks about security, they think about predictability. Humans have the need to know what’s going to happen next. We just can’t stand not knowing about the outcome of our actions.

When we flirt with a man or a woman in a bar, we want to know what they are going to say back, right? “Are we getting declined or accepted as company?” We hate the lack of predicament in the everyday life.

Thinking that money will decrease the predicament is wrong, especially if your security means predicament (which I am 99.9% that it does). Success comes with a price, and one of the cost is taking risks, sometimes higher than the ones we can take. This in turn will decrease the “security” we imagine to get from money. So no. Money is not security in terms of predicament.

4. Money = Debt Free (Wrong)

Having a company comes with a lot of costs. From office space to employees, to gear, digital servers to taxes to a bazillion other things, company will put you in more financial debt and stress if you lack knowledge to sustain and grow it.

And here’s one brilliant example: what’s the difference between someone who makes $50.000 a year with a $100.000 mortgage and someone who makes $500.000 a year with a $1.000.000 million mortgage? Answer: nothing. Unless they have money set aside for emergencies, they’re both a paycheck away from disaster, especially the one with higher mortgage.

Debt often rises with income. What keeps you out of debt isn’t a high income or net worth. It’s not borrowing money.

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5. Money = Love (Wrong)

The only thing that money will bring is a gold digger that will take your money away.

By aiming to find love with money, you attract people who love money more than love, because that’s your reflection on relationship, love and money. We attract the things we are.

Yes, sometimes having more cash in your pocket can take you to a fancier dinner, but that has nothing to do with love. You can have the loveliest date on a picnic in nature that will probably cost you less than a glass of wine in a fancy restaurant.

Bottom Line – Money = Freedom (CORRECT)

To me, money is freedom. Yes, we can still say that money will make you “shackled” to something that is opposite of freedom, but let me explain.

When you work something out of passion and have a clear vision about the future of it, you reap an extraordinary power to make that thing work. You will educate yourself, practice it, and learn it until you master it. If you can find that job of your dreams, then you’ll truly feel what I am saying (I hope that you already did).

When you set you company and put the chess pieces in place by applying the knowledge, your company will give you the real freedom that we all search in all forms and emotions.

If you truly look at each and every one of the misconceptions we mentioned above, you will find Freedom piece in each and every one.

Don’t chase money. Chase your personal development to create a company that will truly set you free.