As I was running this morning, I created the perfect scenario in my head: what if everyone was happy? What if everyone was happy by taking action to achieve their personal and financial goals? What if everyone was financially independent and didn’t have the burden of debt and foreclosure?
While that’s an impossible scenario it got me thinking: what do people do to be happy most of their time? How different do they perceive things?
It’s no mistake that our feelings are based on the things we do, but how would you sparkle a desired in someone to take action and chase their dreams?
In my videos, I always speak about the importance of taking action, but I rarely speak about the crucial precedents of taking action in the physical reality.
Some people may have it more natural than others, but this doesn’t mean that we can’t wire ourselves to take action and feel amazing most of the time.
Three people facing the same problem can react completely different. One can be extremely pissed, the second can be a little nervous, and the third can find solution while being enthusiastic in the process. The question is: why can one person react so much different than the others, while having the same exact problem?
The answer lies in the questions
The internal questions we ask ourselves have enormous power and influence over our lives. Let’s take an example: if two people want to lose weight and one succeeds to do so, huge part of it is due to the internal questions they ask themselves. If you ask yourselves “What type of food would make me full?” or “What is the sweetest food I can eat that will make me lose weight?” then you are going to be asserted to eat food with even more sugar and carbs, but if you ask yourselves “What type of food would provide me with the nutrients that I truly need?” or “What type of healthy food should I eat to have more energy?” will assert you to eat healthier food that will result in losing the extra weight.
The same goes for the three people that were facing the same exact problem. They were all feeling different about it based on the question they asked themselves. The extremely pissed dude was probably asking himself “Why am I so unlucky?”. The guy that was little nervous probably asked himself “Why did this happen to me?”, while the third person asked himself “How can I solve this problem while being enthusiastic in the process?”. You will instantly see who can solve the problem, based on these questions.
If we know all this, why don’t we fix the internal questions that we ask ourselves every day?
The morning is the most important part of the day. It’s part of the day that we wire ourselves to do better or worse. Many of the people (and unfortunately this may include you) ask themselves: what’s new on social media? and then they grab the phones and scroll for 30 minutes straight. The answer to this question is not going to help you on personal or professional level.
Every morning, there’s a simple scheme of questions we should be asking ourselves. These questions will make you happier, thankful and grateful human being every day. This way you can wire yourself to ask better questions that will ease your problem solving formula and enjoy the process. If you have a hard time finding answers, add “can I” in the questions. For example if the questions is “for what am I happy right now?” rephrase it “for what can I be happy right now?”. This should be used only if you can’t find an answer.
Everyone Wants To Be Happy But No One Asks These 7 Questions
Why am I happy in my life right now? What in my life makes me happy? How does that make me feel?
Why am I excited in my life right now? What in my life makes me excited? How does that make me feel?
For what am I most proud of in my life right now? What in my life makes me proud? How does that make me feel?
What am I thankful for in my life right now? What in my life makes me thankful? How does that make me feel?
In what do I enjoy most in my life right now? What in my life makes me joyful? How does that make me feel?
What do I strive for in my life right now? What do I aspire to do in my life? How does that make me feel?
Who do I love? Who loves me back? What about that person makes me be full of love? How does that make me feel?
Originally taken from Tony Robbins – Awaken The Giant Within these questions can truly help us make a drastic change for the better. If you constantly answer these questions every day, you will notice that you’ll start to feel happier, more fulfilled, excited, proud, thankful and loved.
Do not take thees questions for granted. Answer them every morning until they become your daily ritual.
We can either be our own best friends or our own worst enemies.
Not a single person on earth is the same and that’s the beauty of it.
I frequently ask myself series of questions about my business: “What’s the difference between her/his/their approach that’s making their business better than mine? How can I improve my business to help spread my knowledge with more people around the world?”
I also ask series of questions about my personal development and everything that I stumble upon. You may not realize it, but we keep on asking ourselves questions for each and everything that we encounter.
Your set of beliefs is creating the questions for you. For example if you are pessimist and negative person, you are going to ask yourselves wrong questions that will make you even more pessimistic and negative. The answers to those same questions made you pessimist and negative person in the first place.
Let’s take a simple example: If two people see the same successful person, one person can ask themselves “How did they got so lucky?”. This question will give them answer that won’t benefit them in any way on their personal growth, while the second person can ask “What kind of moves did they make to become successful?”. The second person can really benefit and grow on personal level if he dig even deeper about the true story behind the success of the X person.
This Simple Trick Will Instantly Improve Your Life
Our belief system is the key riddle that will change how we approach things in our life. The perception we have, the questions we ask and the answers we get is the result of our belief system.
Let’s take an extreme example: if a man says that all women are the same, we all know that’s far from the truth. Because of one bad person you can’t judge the whole humanity. This in turn will draw even more bad women around him because he will attract them by asking himself the wrong questions, or even worse, he will never date another woman.
And I’ve seen this way more often then I should. People judge everyone else, sometimes even the entire countries, based on experience of one or two people from that country.
These stereotypes we create for ourselves can truly damage our way of thinking and problem solving by asking ourselves the wrong questions and getting wrong answers.
How Can We Implement The Simple Trick Will Instantly Improve Our Life
No matter what type of belief system you have right now, I can guarantee you that you can improve it by applying this simple trick.
The way you are right now (pessimist or optimist) is the set of questions you were asking in the past. In order to change that, we have to change our questions. First let me ask you few questions. Read them, stop, and think about them for a minute:
What are some of the most precious moments in my life?
Can I recall them right now and grasp the feeling I was having back then?
What is the best thing about my life right now?
Did they instantly make you feel good? If you truly did them the way you should, they would instantly make you happier.
The thing is that the questions we ask have the power to immediately change the way we feel. If I ask you what’s the worst thing that happened to you we both know that the question won’t make you feel good, right?
In the beginning, you may have to force yourself to ask yourself positive questions because if you are pessimist, you are not going to come up with questions that will make you better on personal and professional level.
The trick I use is that I always try to get the positive benefit out of a situation.
My granddad passed away recently during a surgery, and while I instantly asked myself “Why is life so unfair?”, I had to make a different approach. I asked myself “Which were some of the best moments we had together?” and “What was he so grateful for?” because from these questions I can feel good about his life, instead of getting depressed by the whole situation.
We can master ourselves and we have that power. The only thing that’s blocking you from mastering yourself is your belief that you can’t. We all know we shouldn’t watch Netflix all day, or eat unhealthy most of the time, or waste our time on social media, and yet most of the people still do it. Maybe it’s time to bite your tongue and ask yourself different questions: “How can this benefit me in 1-3-5 years from now?”. The answer is clear to most of us, but we need to ask the right questions.
We are all limitless. Just like the pill Bradley Cooper swallows in the movie “Limitless”, we have endless potential resting inside us. But here comes the problem: we are so attached to laziness and comfort that we fail to realize that we need to do a lot crucial steps to take that potential inside out. That’s why we are easily consumed by the entertainment industry. If we want a hot meal on our lap we will order Dominos and it will be on the doorstep in less than 30 minutes. Easy-peasy.
Now more than ever, we have the biggest freedom of choice.
I’ve said this in one of my videos and I will say it again: I don’t really care that you use your freedom to play video games all day. I don’t care if you scroll on your smartphone through each and every social network, watching fun cats and dogs. I don’t care if you watch Netflix all day and just chill with few cans of beer and Doritos. What really grinds my gears is when you complain that you don’t have the job of your dreams, when you are not achieving your goals, that your life is not exciting, or that your life is not going according to your plan and as a result you are starting to be depressed.
I firmly believe, and I am a living proof that we have the utmost power to change our situation, no matter how hard it gets. We have the utmost power to get out of poverty and make millions. We have the utmost power lo leave a toxic relationship and shift our life 180 degrees for the better. We have the utmost power to stop being depressed in a blink of an eye. By doing the things I mentioned above, you will get depressed because depression is lacking the meaning of life. If you do nothing for a longer period of time, being depressed is inevitable. Also, giving your whole life to another person may result in depression if the other person leaves you.
There are many more ways you can be affected by depression, but I can almost guarantee you that if you have a clear goal which will consist of improving yourself and the people around you, you will never have a problem with depression again.
Our lack of direction, laziness and unfinished tasks is the foundation of permanent failure.
Everything can be changed in a blink of an eye, and that starts with your decision to get that resting potential out of you and paint the whole world with it.
Here are 5 things you must do to uncover the endless potential that is slowly dying in you:
1. Fix your thoughts
At first, this may seem like the most crappy thing to say to a person. However, this is the first and most powerful stepping stone in setting the pillars to shift your life.
When I first started mindfulness meditation, I was trying to calm myself. Little did I know that mediation and calmness were 2 different worlds (although after a while you will get calmer as a result of what I am about to say).
When I sat in those 15 minutes every morning, I was completely shocked to observe my thoughts. I came to a realization that I was obsessing myself with people and things that I haven’t see for months or even years! Here’s exactly what I thought about: “what did she mean when she said I won’t come with you? Okay why he didn’t wave me back yesterday? Maybe he was nervous because I didn’t greet him the other day. Okay I have to buy almond milk and taste it”. This was the thought pattern I had when I first started meditation. How on earth are you going to achieve greatness if you think irrelevant thoughts every 7 seconds? That’s just not possible. And I can almost guarantee that this is the thought pattern of 99% of the people in this world.
Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
Try whatever habit suits your needs. Mindfulness meditation and few other strange habits helped me build my foundation of my thought pattern first so I could manifest them in physical reality.
Just please (I am begging you here) look at your own thoughts more than you look at others. This is the only path to discover your true self and make a drastic change within you.
2. Find your direction
Many of us roam aimlessly like nomads. I have personally asked everyone around me and only 3 out of 100 people have a sense of where they want to be in the next 5-10 years.
Most people live day by day. They don’t invest in themselves, nor in their financial freedom. Everything they know and live by is a mix-up of “he said she said” from those around them.
It’s really strange to me why people act like they are going to live forever? The most brutal and inspirational thing I’ve heard was “you are going to die and you don’t know when.” When I first heard this years ago, I couldn’t lie down and rest. I was forcing myself to do a lot more every day because the brutal truth is that we are all going to die one day. It is our obligation to leave positive mark on this world and leave it a bit better than before.
To find how we are going to do that takes a lot of trial and error. You are never born with a direction. You must jump from one job to another and never settle by any means necessary. When you find your purpose, the job you were “created” to work, your whole self will know it immediately.
When I first found out about the limitless potential online, and how many things you can connect and share your vision with the world, I was blown away!
So by any means necessary, never settle until you find the one job that will truly unlock your endless potential in you.
3. Take massive levels of action
We are very fluffy when it comes to action. Do 30 minutes of focused work and you are tired and distracted.
The brain is also a muscle like your biceps. The more you do it, the better you perform it. If you put yourself in the shoes of Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk for a week, I can guarantee you 2 things: heart attack and stroke. We are not on that level to put up with all that stress, obligation and action.
Motion determines emotion. If you want to destroy overthinking or even depression, the best cure is to do.
Humans were made to move. There are so many detrimental health effects of not moving, but today’s technology is moving so swiftly that we mostly lead sedentary lifestyle due to work. Overtime this can completely destroy our health and wellbeing.
By taking action, massive levels of action we are slowly digging our endless potential and we let it shine with the world. We must focus more on the external things in order to make our internal things better. This means that we must take action and put our skill out in the world in order to improve ourselves on personal and professional level. If you want to lose weight you are not going to lose by “thinking” about it. You are losing weight by eating less calories than you spend. If you want to improve your fitness level you exercise. You don’t think about exercising. Every change you want to make requires you to do stuff instead of thinking about doing.
When we focus too much internally we become consumed with ourselves. This can become really damaging because we are social creatures. When we focus externally we let our light shine with those around us by giving, sharing and helping others.
I highly suggest you to read 10X by uncle G. It will reveal to you the crucial importance of taking 10x more action. It is simply a brilliant book for anyone who want to do a lot more with the short time we are given on this Earth.
4. Don’t go by your emotions, understand them
On the road to your personal and professional fulfillment, you will be stressed, afraid, frustrated, anxious and what not. You are not going to be positive 24/7, or excited all the time.
There will be obstacles on the way that will frustrate the sh*t out of you, but it will require your persistence in order to overcome them. We can only continue and persist under difficult circumstances only if we tie our actions to a grand goal, or a vision.
Long time ago I heard a very successful dude say: your vision should be something that you cannot complete so it will push you to do a lot more than you goal.
For example: if you are in the weight loss industry your vision should be to make everyone fit. That is just impossible. But your goal should be something that you can achieve, for example: 1000 people fit thanks to your mentorship program.
Your road to success will be filled with many many negative emotions that will try to pull you down. Frustrations and stress are the most common that will eventually kill your short term motivation. In order to understand your emotions you will have to understand only one thing: you either run away from fear, or try to get quick pleasure. Let me give you a simple example:
If you have extra pounds (let’s just assume that) you are getting short term pleasure from the extra calories you take through the day. To lose the extra pounds you will have to go through hardship and stressful cravings to get long term pleasure of your fit body and more energy. Your emotions will tell you to grab that chocolate next to you because the more you do something, the more you strengthen the bond between the physical action and your brain. This is called neuroplasticity, and it’s actually brilliant. The more you do a simple task, the more it becomes ‘wired’ in your brain. So if you exercise every day you will get bound to it and it will get easier the more you do it. But this also means that if you eat chocolate every day, the more you will do it. The choice is yours.
You should understand your emotions. Not live by them.
5. Master your skilland update it
The last step is to master the skill. Whatever it is that you want to be in your life, you have to master it and update it consistently.
Especially if you are working online. In my case, Facebook algorithm has changed so many times that I couldn’t go a day without learning something new, or else I won’t keep up with the changes and be able to profit from it.
This goes for anything. Whether you’re in professional sports, marketing, or managing a website, you have to master it and update it every day.
We have to be better all the time. That’s how we grow. It’s okay to go one step back as long as you do three steps forward.
I personally made this mistake and it cost me a LOT. I created a business that was generating me enormous amount of money (one month I made 54.000$ which I speak more about in my course) and I was working 1 hour a day without upgrading the business and adding new branches to it. Then all of a sudden the algorithm changed and my business model completely collapsed like a house of cards. Then I had to find another way to do it and I did, but I potentially lost million bucks in two years because I thought I made it till the end line (which was one the biggest mistake I have made).
If you do something and follow these steps above, you are going to make it. I can guarantee you that. But the story doesn’t stop there. You have to improve it every day and grow it. Nurture it. If your energy is not into it, it will die eventually. No matter if it’s business, skill, or even a language.
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Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with.
If you are surrounded with negativity and pessimism, do not expect any different outcome from your life. Same goes for positivity and optimism: if you surround yourself with people that push you to do great things, you have a higher chance to achieve great things.
Many people know this. And yet they never seem to change their circle. Even if they do, they forget to put in the equation a very important variable = family.
I know. Some people may look at me like a villain now, but I am saying this for all the right reasons.
Stay Away From Toxic People
Here’s how you can spot a toxic person, or an energy vampire and stay away from toxic people altogether:
They spread negativity in every form
If you really pay attention to the conversation between you and your toxic friends/family, you will start to notice the dark thoughts you are getting attacked from. How the government is stealing, how the weather is bad, or how every successful story was a strike of luck and overnight success… these are the common types of conversations you will hear.
They Only gossip
When was the last time a hearsay helped you become a better person, or improve your skill on your job? I can almost guarantee the answer would be “Never” to both questions. Toxic friends tend to gossip about each and everything, as long as it involves something other than themselves. When you think about it, saying something bad about another person tells a lot about you, instead of them. Never engage in hearsay conversations. Be fully conscious about what you speak and engage in from now on. This will save you a decades of wasted time.
They are draining you
If you still don’t believe in vibration and positivity, just sit with a toxic person and engage with them in a conversation for 1 hour. When they leave, you’ll almost feel as if your soul essence has left your body. I have personally been a part of these types of conversations and I really had no meaning of life afterwards. Not only that you shouldn’t engage with toxic people, but you should even avoid them for your own personal safety.
They get jealous.. a lot!
You found a new job? “Congratulations!” (followed by an evil professor smile)”I am so happy for you!” Who are you kidding? They will never give you a true support to lift your emotions higher, not to mention that they will never celebrate your victories truly from their soul. If they are not part of it, who cares, right?
They hate when you disagree with them
Ok, sometimes we have to stand our ground. If you agree with everything, then what the hell do you stand for? However, toxic friends tend to hate when you don’t engage “in the hate” with them. If you don’t agree that the government is responsible for your failures, and that you can actually pick your life and become a successful story no matter the circumstance, they get even more frustrated. They get furious, and they may even leave. If you don’t support their negative thinking, it’s you who’s wrong.
Let’s face it. In one single day you have limited time and energy. That’s why we sleep every night. To refresh the brain and bodies and start all over again (along with many scientific reasons ‘why we sleep’).
Your life depends on how you allocate your time and energy. Every morning I practice some unusual habits that lift me up even more and give me more energy. Then I start taking action according to my goals. If I engage in every negative conversation, watch the news all day and scroll on Facebook and Instagram, how on Earth am I going to be successful? I can easily say that being successful after doing these things mentioned goes against all the laws of nature and science.
It’s really, really important to take care of your own self. That is not selfish, but on the contrary. If you feel in control of your own self and do the things that you love, then you can share that love around you with your loved ones, friends and family. Think of it like this: “what if you felt love when you gave it”? That was awesome quote I heard today and it really inspired me to be the best dude I can ever be and help people as much as I can.
Bottom line is: what if you can limit, or delete the time you spend with your toxic friends and family? Then you can really focus on spending time to improve your life and surround yourself with great people that will lift you up instead of put you down. Isn’t that the truth?
Have a great day champs, and always remember to surround yourself with great, positive and optimistic people.
When you think about it, it all boils down to the things we do, not the things we “think” we do.
Forcing ourselves to do a simple task every day for a period of time will turn into a habit. This means that if you read every day for 1 hour, after a period of time (say a month) your brain will build strong neural connections. It won’t feel like (damn I have to read again), but it will feel like (how come I didn’t read today?). You will almost feel like not reading is missing out on something. Like a cigarette, or that cup of coffee in the morning.
I can almost guess that the first thing that you do every morning is that you check your phone. “But I see the time!” Of course, I also used that as explanation, but then I was bound to scroll on Instagram for 30 minutes. That was 30 minutes wasted every morning. Not to mention that we program ourselves to do that all day because the morning is the most important part of the day.
These 3 habits can program our brain to do incredible things because when you think about it, by default we have not evolved to be happy. We have evolved to be safe. Your brain is not forcing you to do things to be happy, but it sure is forcing you to stay in the comfort zone. That’s why the entertainment industry is booming these days. Your brain is partly to blame for that, but with the power of your will and a bit of resistance you can jump that obstacle.
So here are these 3 unusual habits that will change your life 180 degrees for the better:
1. Wim Hof Breathing Technique
Regulated by the autonomic nervous system, inhaling oxygen is an unconscious process. Fortunately it’s an unconscious praxis, otherwise we simply wouldn’t have a break, as we’d have to deal with it incessantly.
The amount of oxygen that we inhale through our breathing, influences the amount of energy that is released into our body cells. On a molecular level, this progresses via various chemical and physiological processes.
Breathing is the easiest and most instrumental part of the autonomic nervous system to control and navigate. In fact, the way you breathe strongly affects the chemical and physiological activities in your body.
Throughout the years, Wim Hof has developed special breathing exertions that keep his body in optimal condition and in complete control in the most extreme conditions. The breathing technique is first and foremost premised on inhaling deeply and exhaling without any use of force! [Wim Hof Breathing]
I have been personally using this method for 3 months now, and it’s giving me a head start for the day. While you do it, your body may change the temperature, or you might become light headed. Don’t fret, it’s all part of the exercise.
Here’s the video you can use to do it every morning (I use this one for 3 months now):
2. Cold Shower
I know, I know. “I will never do that”, “people only do that in prison”. Well, if we were actually a bit more intelligent, we would all do it too.
Water therapy (also called hydrotherapy) has been used for centuries to take advantage of our body’s tendency to adapt to severe conditions. As a result, our bodies become more resistant to stress.
Cold showers are not a main source of treatment for any particular condition, but they help improve symptom relief and general well-being.
Here are just few of the many benefits:
1. Cold showers helps fight off common illnesses
Our bodies are designed to become resistant to the elements we are exposed to. Here’s an example: leukocytes help fight infection in the body. The shock to the body by cold water stimulates leukocytes. This means that taking cold showers can help your resistance to common illnesses, like colds and the flu.
One study indicated that cold showers could make the body more resistant to certain types of cancer. And a clinical trial in the Netherlands showed that people who took cold showers called out of work less.
2. Improves circulation
It is uncomfortable to go below that cold shower, but it can be invigorating. The reason for that is because water that’s colder than our natural body temperature causes the body to work slightly harder to maintain its core temperature. If taken regularly, cold showers can improve our circulatory system. Some people also say that their skin looks better as a result of cold showers, probably because of better circulation.
3. Increases endorphins
One holistic method for depression that’s gaining popularity is hydrotherapy. Taking a cold shower for up to 5 minutes, 2 to 3 times per week, was shown to help relieve symptoms of depression in a clinical trial.
For people with depression, cold showers can work as a gentle electroshock therapy. The cold water sends electrical impulses to your brain. They jolt your system to increase alertness, clarity, and energy levels. Endorphins, which are the so-called happiness hormones, are also released. This effect leads to feelings of well-being and optimism.
4. Helps improve metabolism
People that are obese can’t simply take cold shower and lose the fat overnight. But taking a cold shower 2 or 3 times a week may contribute to increased metabolism. It may help fight obesity over time. The research about how exactly cold showers help people lose weight is unclear. Still, it does show that cold water can even out certain hormone levels and heal the gastrointestinal system. These effects may add to the cold shower’s ability to lead to weight loss. [Healthline]
The list can go on and on, but isn’t it enough? Start taking cold showers if you want to have positive effect on your overall health.
3. Handwrite your goals
Okay, I confess. Writing your goals is not news, but it’s really important to handwrite them. Here’s why:
Typing notes enables you to write down more material swiftly, but you’re more likely to remember the things you wrote down if you handwrite them, according to research from Indiana University.
“To learn something means you have processed it,” says Dr. Towfigh. “And when you take handwritten notes you ‘process’ or learn more information. You begin the learning process as you listen to the lecture.” Plus, since you look at the page on which you are writing, you naturally review the material and reinforce the information you’ve already processed, Dr. Towfigh says. [Health]
Not to mention that handwriting sharpens your critical thinking, enables you to recall the material effectively and makes your conceptual understanding stronger.
Some old school habits will never die, no matter how many new technologies we invent.
Try these habits and you will feel the difference almost immediately, especially from those cold showers!
Cogito ergo sum is a Latin philosophical proposition by René Descartes which translated to English is “I think, therefore I am“.
However, if your thoughts are negative, then you will fail to achieve anything in your life. Toxic thoughts will ruin all positive changes that can lead you to pure happiness. It is important to check yourself when you have such dark thoughts and get rid of them.
1. “I’M NOT READY”
“There are two things we should always be 1. raw and 2. ready…Waiting for perfection is not an answer, one cannot say “I will be ready when I am perfect” because then you will never be ready, rather one must say “I am raw and I am ready just like this right now, how and who I am.” ― C. JoyBell C.
You are the only person who is standing in your way. If you never try, you will never know.
2. “I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH”
Identify the root of this thought. Is it your subconscious mind or did someone put this thought in your head? If it’s the first, then you have to accept yourself first. There will obviously be things you don’t like about yourself. In order to improve, make a plan and work towards it instead of wallowing in self-pity. If the root is the second one, don’t bother about what others have to say about your progress. You do not need validation to be content.
We are all children trapped in an adult body trying to find our way. It is okay to be overwhelmed by life’s uncertainties. This means you are alive. Do not carry the world upon your shoulder. ;Prioritize and act.
Life is hard for everybody, but be one of those people who don’t let that take them down.
4. “I WON’T BE HAPPY UNTIL…”
It is not the destination but the journey that matters. Find happiness in small achievements – like making a meal for yourself, waking up early, going to the gym and so on. Set small goals and celebrate life. Do not let your happiness depend on a particular person or thing; instead, find it within you. Find it in the things you already have.
5. “IT’S TOO LATE”
“People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of.” – Paulo Coelho
Dreams do not expire and age is just a number. Want your own business? Go ahead and start it. Always wanted to write a book? The time to start is right now! Transform your life and use each moment you got.
6. “I DON’T HAVE TIME”
It is the lamest of all the excuses you provide to not do the things that count. 24 hours are more than enough if you don’t waste them. You need to make time for yourself and achieve your goals. Dedication and determination is the key to success.
7. “I’M NOT GOOD AT ANYTHING”
This is a very self-destructive thought. It’s not that you are not good at anything, you just haven’t figured out yet what you are good at. List the things you enjoy doing and practice them to improve your skills. Do not compare yourself with others, just be the best version of yourself.
8. “I DON’T FIT IN”
“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it’ll always get you the right ones.” ― John Lennon
The need to belong is natural. Be honest to yourself and the right people will accept you for it. You do not need approval of anyone but yourself. And remember, you are just perfect the way you are.
9. “I’M A FAILURE”
We hear the saying “failures are the pillars to success” and as difficult as it may be to accept it, it’s the truth. It is a proof that you tried. Take chances, try something new and do not stop until you are satisfied.
10. “MY GOALS SEEM IMPOSSIBLE”
Nothing is impossible. You can do whatever you want if you work hard and have faith in yourself. Focus and be positive! Good things come to those who work hard!
There is a certain part of us that constantly nags us to go outside. In the 21st century, we have lost touch with the outside world, and with our own selves too. Delving deep into the escape of social media, we haven’t stopped to reflect in ages. We are constantly running, perpetually tired, always looking to find a hide-out.
Most of us consider the mountains, or a vast natural space, as a calm and quiet getaway. But the aesthetic aspect of it is not its only selling point.
A Harvard research study reveals that green zones are of great advantage to women, and as a result it even promotes the longevity of their lifespan.
GREEN ZONES AND A LONG LIFE
The entire research consists of 108,630 female respondents. The examiners took into account certain common measurement criterion, such as: the amount of nature that surrounds them at a 250-meter radius. They also took into account the death rates in their families, and the probable causes for the same.
The result that they found is a city dweller’s nightmare.
The people who reported the most amount of greenery, were twelve percent less likely to die faster than people who had no greenery surrounding them. That is a huge percentage when it comes to calculating mortal rates. Some of the diseases that they are exempt from are fairly common ones such as kidney problems, respiratory impairments, and also the deadly cancer.
HOW GREENERY HELPS PROLONG YOUR LIFESPAN
What is the science behind these statistics and how does it come to play?
This has a lot to do with the low levels of pollutants that these women seem to encounter on a daily basis. In the city, if a bus has run rushed past you, it will take you some time to clearly see the face of the person on the other side.
In fact, it isn’t just the pollution. Even levels of depression take a serious hit when nature comes to the rescue. How this works is:
1. If you have a beautiful locality, then you are bound to step out. None of us want to frolic in a concrete jungle. And more importantly, you do not see people playing Frisbee in your parking lot.
2. When you are steeped in sunshine, vitamin D seeps into your body. Depression is fueled by the lack or low levels of it.
3. It just provides for a much happier and calmer mindset. The community feelings are much more developed, and people find it easier to bond with their neighbors, than in the alienated city environment. Obviously, togetherness helps your mental condition in many ways.
4. Even a portrait of a scenery is bound to trigger some very positive and happy responses in our brain. Imagine actually getting to live that dream in blood and flesh.
5. In a well-developed green zone, the area will be much better planned. There will be impeccable trails where children can ride their bike, or adults can get going for a jogging session. It just promotes your standard of life and well being.
6. Plants aid in curbing the pollutants, and the city is nowhere around to augment the smog and contribute to the diseases.
If you have natural grounds around you, then make good use of it! Most of us are not blessed with such resources. If you look out of your window and see green trees, then you’re already in the one percentile of people who are close to a natural sphere. Build trails, indulge in the maintenance of these zones, form community organizations, participate in supplementing the resources by planting new trees, etc.
Do not take nature for granted. It will reward you bountifully.
If you just stop and think about your life and the life of everyone around you, you will notice that we all go through life unconsciously.
Are you really HERE in present time sucking up the beauty around you? The clear blue skies, the beautiful snowflakes falling from the sky? The naked trees undressed from the severe winter?
If we just stop and see every beauty around us, life is so much better than we perceive it.
Even worse, time is a lot shorter to some people. Who and what decides how much years we live is a big question mark, but each and every one of us has 24 hours in a day, and many of us just go through those hours wishing they end up faster. When we are kids, we want to grow up; when we are adults we can’t wait to retire, and when we retire we are so full of regret that it’s already too late to do the things we could. Even a nurse revealed the top 5 regrets of the dying, and you have to read that after!
Every now and then, people share their deathbed wishes, and many of them reveal few simple things we can do right now that will shift our life 180 degrees for the better.
The unnamed individual who goes by the username mylasttie posted his story on a Reddit thread. The message was so good, sad, and inspiring that it went immediately viral!
Read the young man’s letter, and please share this incredible message!
“I am only 24 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that I will wear on my funeral a few months from now. It may not match my suit, but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.
The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least a tenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thing about death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions. The way I’ve lived my life so far, my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I have lived without doing anything impactful.
Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind. When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which things are really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:
Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy. It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.
It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions. Fear weakens and paralyzes you. If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.
Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you. Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy. Most of all, don’t procrastinate. Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.
Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted.
It is difficult for me to fully express my feelings about the importance of these simple realizations, but I hope that you will listen to someone who has experienced how valuable time is.
I’m not upset because I understand that the last days of my life have become meaningful. I only regret that I will not be able to see a lot of cool stuff that should happen soon like the creation of AI, or Elon Musk’s next awesome project. I also hope that the war in Syria and Ukraine will end soon.
We care so much about the health and integrity of our body that until death, we don’t notice that the body is nothing more than a box – a parcel for delivering our personality, thoughts, beliefs and intentions to this world. If there is nothing in this box that can change the world, then it doesn’t matter if it disappears. I believe that we all have potential, but it also takes a lot of courage to realize it.
You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice.
Leave a mark in this world. Have a meaningful life, whatever definition it has for you. Go towards it. The place we are leaving is a beautiful playground, where everything is possible. Yet, we are not here forever. Our life is a short spark in this beautiful little planet that flies with incredible speed to the endless darkness of the unknown universe. So, enjoy your time here with passion. Make it interesting. Make it count!
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The contemporary mechanisms in any field of work demands us to be constantly at our ‘A’ game regardless of the career we pursue. We are dragged into a mechanical existence which denies us the time to appreciate the beauty in mundane things. We hardly take out any time to acknowledge our surroundings or contemplate our past choices until we are faced with the realization of an approaching death.
“My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.”“For many years I worked in palliative care…”
When questioned about any regrets people make, or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five.
1. “I WISH I HAD THE COURAGE TO LIVE A LIFE TRUE TO MYSELF AND NOT FOR OTHERS”
When you are living the last days of your life it is common to reflect on past actions that were left undone more than the ones that were acted upon.
“Most people had not honored even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made or not made,” stated Ware.
Giving up on personal goals for the sake of others usually leads you to immense regret.
2. “I WISH I HADN’T WORKED SO HARD”
This regret is common to most people who regret not spending enough time with their families due to extensive work schedules. This was the case with almost every male patient Ware talked to.
Getting caught up in the rat race and over-working ourselves to achieve name, fame, success, and money at the cost of avoiding family trips and personal assignments usually result in a state of disillusionment and extreme regret that we realize, but not before it is too late…
3. “I WISH I HAD THE COURAGE TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS”
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. “I WISH I HAD STAYED IN TOUCH WITH MY FRIENDS”
There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Ware states “Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down.”
Figure out who matter most to you in life, and make sure you have them by your side.
5. “I WISH I HAD LET MYSELF BE HAPPIER”
Happiness is a choice rather than a consequence of situations. It is important we make choices based on our happiness and not our fears.
Ware expressed “Fear of change had them pretending to others and to their selves that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly.”
Fear is the only thing that holds us back from experiencing happiness and appreciating life to the fullest. Do not leave room for regret in your last days. Act on your choices and be as happy as you wish to be.