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3 Unusual Habits That Will Change Your Life 180 Degrees

These 3 habits can program our brain to do incredible things because when you think about it, by default we have not evolved to be happy...
3 Unusual Habits That Will Change Your Life 180 Degrees

When you think about it, it all boils down to the things we do, not the things we “think” we do.

Forcing ourselves to do a simple task every day for a period of time will turn into a habit. This means that if you read every day for 1 hour, after a period of time (say a month) your brain will build strong neural connections. It won’t feel like (damn I have to read again), but it will feel like (how come I didn’t read today?). You will almost feel like not reading is missing out on something. Like a cigarette, or that cup of coffee in the morning.

I can almost guess that the first thing that you do every morning is that you check your phone. “But I see the time!” Of course, I also used that as explanation, but then I was bound to scroll on Instagram for 30 minutes. That was 30 minutes wasted every morning. Not to mention that we program ourselves to do that all day because the morning is the most important part of the day.

These 3 habits can program our brain to do incredible things because when you think about it, by default we have not evolved to be happy. We have evolved to be safe. Your brain is not forcing you to do things to be happy, but it sure is forcing you to stay in the comfort zone. That’s why the entertainment industry is booming these days. Your brain is partly to blame for that, but with the power of your will and a bit of resistance you can jump that obstacle.

So here are these 3 unusual habits that will change your life 180 degrees for the better:

1. Wim Hof Breathing Technique

Regulated by the autonomic nervous system, inhaling oxygen is an unconscious process. Fortunately it’s an unconscious praxis, otherwise we simply wouldn’t have a break, as we’d have to deal with it incessantly.

The amount of oxygen that we inhale through our breathing, influences the amount of energy that is released into our body cells. On a molecular level, this progresses via various chemical and physiological processes.

Breathing is the easiest and most instrumental part of the autonomic nervous system to control and navigate. In fact, the way you breathe strongly affects the chemical and physiological activities in your body.

Throughout the years, Wim Hof has developed special breathing exertions that keep his body in optimal condition and in complete control in the most extreme conditions. The breathing technique is first and foremost premised on inhaling deeply and exhaling without any use of force! [Wim Hof Breathing]

I have been personally using this method for 3 months now, and it’s giving me a head start for the day. While you do it, your body may change the temperature, or you might become light headed. Don’t fret, it’s all part of the exercise.

Here’s the video you can use to do it every morning (I use this one for 3 months now):

2. Cold Shower

I know, I know. “I will never do that”, “people only do that in prison”. Well, if we were actually a bit more intelligent, we would all do it too.

Water therapy (also called hydrotherapy) has been used for centuries to take advantage of our body’s tendency to adapt to severe conditions. As a result, our bodies become more resistant to stress.

Cold showers are not a main source of treatment for any particular condition, but they help improve symptom relief and general well-being.

Here are just few of the many benefits:

1. Cold showers helps fight off common illnesses

Our bodies are designed to become resistant to the elements we are exposed to. Here’s an example: leukocytes help fight infection in the body. The shock to the body by cold water stimulates leukocytes. This means that taking cold showers can help your resistance to common illnesses, like colds and the flu.

One study indicated that cold showers could make the body more resistant to certain types of cancer. And a clinical trial in the Netherlands showed that people who took cold showers called out of work less.

2. Improves circulation

It is uncomfortable to go below that cold shower, but it can be invigorating. The reason for that is because water that’s colder than our natural body temperature causes the body to work slightly harder to maintain its core temperature. If taken regularly, cold showers can improve our circulatory system. Some people also say that their skin looks better as a result of cold showers, probably because of better circulation.

3. Increases endorphins

One holistic method for depression that’s gaining popularity is hydrotherapy. Taking a cold shower for up to 5 minutes, 2 to 3 times per week, was shown to help relieve symptoms of depression in a clinical trial.

For people with depression, cold showers can work as a gentle electroshock therapy. The cold water sends electrical impulses to your brain. They jolt your system to increase alertness, clarity, and energy levels. Endorphins, which are the so-called happiness hormones, are also released. This effect leads to feelings of well-being and optimism.

4. Helps improve metabolism

People that are obese can’t simply take cold shower and lose the fat overnight. But taking a cold shower 2 or 3 times a week may contribute to increased metabolism. It may help fight obesity over time. The research about how exactly cold showers help people lose weight is unclear. Still, it does show that cold water can even out certain hormone levels and heal the gastrointestinal system. These effects may add to the cold shower’s ability to lead to weight loss. [Healthline]

The list can go on and on, but isn’t it enough? Start taking cold showers if you want to have positive effect on your overall health.

3. Handwrite your goals

Okay, I confess. Writing your goals is not news, but it’s really important to handwrite them. Here’s why:

Typing notes enables you to write down more material swiftly, but you’re more likely to remember the things you wrote down if you handwrite them, according to research from Indiana University.

“To learn something means you have processed it,” says Dr. Towfigh. “And when you take handwritten notes you ‘process’ or learn more information. You begin the learning process as you listen to the lecture.” Plus, since you look at the page on which you are writing, you naturally review the material and reinforce the information you’ve already processed, Dr. Towfigh says. [Health]

Not to mention that handwriting sharpens your critical thinking, enables you to recall the material effectively and makes your conceptual understanding stronger.

Some old school habits will never die, no matter how many new technologies we invent.

Try these habits and you will feel the difference almost immediately, especially from those cold showers!

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Emotional Health

10 Toxic Sentences You Keep Telling Yourself That Can Damage Your Character

Toxic thoughts will ruin all positive changes that can lead you to pure happiness. It is important to check yourself when you have such dark thoughts and get rid of them.
10 Toxic Sentences You Keep Telling Yourself That Can Damage Your Character

Cogito ergo sum is a Latin philosophical proposition by René Descartes which translated to English is “I think, therefore I am“.

However, if your thoughts are negative, then you will fail to achieve anything in your life. Toxic thoughts will ruin all positive changes that can lead you to pure happiness. It is important to check yourself when you have such dark thoughts and get rid of them.

1. “I’M NOT READY”

“There are two things we should always be 1. raw and 2. ready…Waiting for perfection is not an answer, one cannot say “I will be ready when I am perfect” because then you will never be ready, rather one must say “I am raw and I am ready just like this right now, how and who I am.”
― C. JoyBell C.

You are the only person who is standing in your way. If you never try, you will never know.

2. “I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH”

Identify the root of this thought. Is it your subconscious mind or did someone put this thought in your head? If it’s the first, then you have to accept yourself first. There will obviously be things you don’t like about yourself. In order to improve, make a plan and work towards it instead of wallowing in self-pity. If the root is the second one, don’t bother about what others have to say about your progress. You do not need validation to be content.

You might find interesting: Nurse Revealed The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying

3. “LIFE IS TOO HARD”

We are all children trapped in an adult body trying to find our way. It is okay to be overwhelmed by life’s uncertainties. This means you are alive. Do not carry the world upon your shoulder. ;Prioritize and act.

Life is hard for everybody, but be one of those people who don’t let that take them down.

4. “I WON’T BE HAPPY UNTIL…”

It is not the destination but the journey that matters. Find happiness in small achievements – like making a meal for yourself, waking up early, going to the gym and so on. Set small goals and celebrate life. Do not let your happiness depend on a particular person or thing; instead, find it within you. Find it in the things you already have.

5. “IT’S TOO LATE”

“People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of.”  – Paulo Coelho

Dreams do not expire and age is just a number. Want your own business? Go ahead and start it. Always wanted to write a book? The time to start is right now! Transform your life and use each moment you got.

6. “I DON’T HAVE TIME”

It is the lamest of all the excuses you provide to not do the things that count. 24 hours are more than enough if you don’t waste them. You need to make time for yourself and achieve your goals. Dedication and determination is the key to success.

7. “I’M NOT GOOD AT ANYTHING”

This is a very self-destructive thought. It’s not that you are not good at anything, you just haven’t figured out yet what you are good at. List the things you enjoy doing and practice them to improve your skills. Do not compare yourself with others, just be the best version of yourself.

8. “I DON’T FIT IN”

“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it’ll always get you the right ones.” ― John Lennon

The need to belong is natural. Be honest to yourself and the right people will accept you for it. You do not need approval of anyone but yourself. And remember, you are just perfect the way you are.

9. “I’M A FAILURE”

We hear the saying “failures are the pillars to success” and as difficult as it may be to accept it, it’s the truth. It is a proof that you tried. Take chances, try something new and do not stop until you are satisfied.

10. “MY GOALS SEEM IMPOSSIBLE”

Nothing is impossible. You can do whatever you want if you work hard and have faith in yourself. Focus and be positive! Good things come to those who work hard!

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A Harvard Research Reveals the Key Factor to Living Long and Happy Life

A Harvard research study reveals that green zones are of great advantage to women, and as a result it even promotes the longevity of their lifespan.
A Harvard Research Reveals the Key Factor to Living Long and Happy Life

There is a certain part of us that constantly nags us to go outside. In the 21st century, we have lost touch with the outside world, and with our own selves too. Delving deep into the escape of social media, we haven’t stopped to reflect in ages. We are constantly running, perpetually tired, always looking to find a hide-out.

Most of us consider the mountains, or a vast natural space, as a calm and quiet getaway. But the aesthetic aspect of it is not its only selling point.

A Harvard research study reveals that green zones are of great advantage to women, and as a result it even promotes the longevity of their lifespan.

GREEN ZONES AND A LONG LIFE

The entire research consists of 108,630 female respondents. The examiners took into account certain common measurement criterion, such as: the amount of nature that surrounds them at a 250-meter radius. They also took into account the death rates in their families, and the probable causes for the same.

The result that they found is a city dweller’s nightmare.

The people who reported the most amount of greenery, were twelve percent less likely to die faster than people who had no greenery surrounding them. That is a huge percentage when it comes to calculating mortal rates. Some of the diseases that they are exempt from are fairly common ones such as kidney problems, respiratory impairments, and also the deadly cancer.

HOW GREENERY HELPS PROLONG YOUR LIFESPAN

What is the science behind these statistics and how does it come to play?

This has a lot to do with the low levels of pollutants that these women seem to encounter on a daily basis. In the city, if a bus has run rushed past you, it will take you some time to clearly see the face of the person on the other side.

In fact, it isn’t just the pollution. Even levels of depression take a serious hit when nature comes to the rescue. How this works is:

1. If you have a beautiful locality, then you are bound to step out. None of us want to frolic in a concrete jungle. And more importantly, you do not see people playing Frisbee in your parking lot.

2. When you are steeped in sunshine, vitamin D seeps into your body. Depression is fueled by the lack or low levels of it.

3. It just provides for a much happier and calmer mindset. The community feelings are much more developed, and people find it easier to bond with their neighbors, than in the alienated city environment. Obviously, togetherness helps your mental condition in many ways.

4. Even a portrait of a scenery is bound to trigger some very positive and happy responses in our brain. Imagine actually getting to live that dream in blood and flesh.

5. In a well-developed green zone, the area will be much better planned. There will be impeccable trails where children can ride their bike, or adults can get going for a jogging session. It just promotes your standard of life and well being.

6. Plants aid in curbing the pollutants, and the city is nowhere around to augment the smog and contribute to the diseases.

Read after: 15 Morning Habits of Successful and Highly Organized People

UTILIZING THE GREEN ZONE TO THE FULLEST

If you have natural grounds around you, then make good use of it! Most of us are not blessed with such resources. If you look out of your window and see green trees, then you’re already in the one percentile of people who are close to a natural sphere. Build trails, indulge in the maintenance of these zones, form community organizations, participate in supplementing the resources by planting new trees, etc.

Do not take nature for granted. It will reward you bountifully.

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A Dying 24-Year-Old Has Life Advice You May Not Be Ready To Hear

The message was so good, sad, and inspiring that it went immediately viral! Read the young man’s letter, and please share this incredible message.
The message was so good, sad, and inspiring that it went immediately viral! Read the young man’s letter, and please share this incredible message.

If you just stop and think about your life and the life of everyone around you, you will notice that we all go through life unconsciously.

Are you really HERE in present time sucking up the beauty around you? The clear blue skies, the beautiful snowflakes falling from the sky? The naked trees undressed from the severe winter?

If we just stop and see every beauty around us, life is so much better than we perceive it.

Even worse, time is a lot shorter to some people. Who and what decides how much years we live is a big question mark, but each and every one of us has 24 hours in a day, and many of us just go through those hours wishing they end up faster. When we are kids, we want to grow up; when we are adults we can’t wait to retire, and when we retire we are so full of regret that it’s already too late to do the things we could. Even a nurse revealed the top 5 regrets of the dying, and you have to read that after!

Every now and then, people share their deathbed wishes, and many of them reveal few simple things we can do right now that will shift our life 180 degrees for the better.

The unnamed individual who goes by the username mylasttie posted his story on a Reddit thread. The message was so good, sad, and inspiring that it went immediately viral!

Read the young man’s letter, and please share this incredible message!

“I am only 24 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that I will wear on my funeral a few months from now. It may not match my suit, but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.

The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least a tenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thing about death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions. The way I’ve lived my life so far, my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I have lived without doing anything impactful.

Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind. When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which things are really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:

  • Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy. It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.
  • It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions. Fear weakens and paralyzes you. If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.
  • Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you. Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy. Most of all, don’t procrastinate. Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.
  • Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted.

It is difficult for me to fully express my feelings about the importance of these simple realizations, but I hope that you will listen to someone who has experienced how valuable time is.

I’m not upset because I understand that the last days of my life have become meaningful. I only regret that I will not be able to see a lot of cool stuff that should happen soon like the creation of AI, or Elon Musk’s next awesome project. I also hope that the war in Syria and Ukraine will end soon.

We care so much about the health and integrity of our body that until death, we don’t notice that the body is nothing more than a box – a parcel for delivering our personality, thoughts, beliefs and intentions to this world. If there is nothing in this box that can change the world, then it doesn’t matter if it disappears. I believe that we all have potential, but it also takes a lot of courage to realize it.

You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice.

Leave a mark in this world. Have a meaningful life, whatever definition it has for you. Go towards it. The place we are leaving is a beautiful playground, where everything is possible. Yet, we are not here forever. Our life is a short spark in this beautiful little planet that flies with incredible speed to the endless darkness of the unknown universe. So, enjoy your time here with passion. Make it interesting. Make it count!

Thank you!”

This was an incredible message. Please SHARE it with your Friends and Family!

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Nurse Revealed The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying

“For many years I worked in palliative care…”
Nurse Revealed The Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying

The contemporary mechanisms in any field of work demands us to be constantly at our ‘A’ game regardless of the career we pursue. We are dragged into a mechanical existence which denies us the time to appreciate the beauty in mundane things. We hardly take out any time to acknowledge our surroundings or contemplate our past choices until we are faced with the realization of an approaching death.

Bronnie Ware, A palliative nurse who’s surrounded by death, finally decided to keep a record of the top regrets of her patients who were facing sure death. She wrote a book on this subject called “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing.“

“My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.”“For many years I worked in palliative care…”

When questioned about any regrets people make, or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five.

1. “I WISH I HAD THE COURAGE TO LIVE A LIFE TRUE TO MYSELF AND NOT FOR OTHERS”

When you are living the last days of your life it is common to reflect on past actions that were left undone more than the ones that were acted upon.

“Most people had not honored even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made or not made,” stated Ware.

Giving up on personal goals for the sake of others usually leads you to immense regret.

2. “I WISH I HADN’T WORKED SO HARD”

This regret is common to most people who regret not spending enough time with their families due to extensive work schedules. This was the case with almost every male patient Ware talked to.

Getting caught up in the rat race and over-working ourselves to achieve name, fame, success, and money at the cost of avoiding family trips and personal assignments usually result in a state of disillusionment and extreme regret that we realize, but not before it is too late…

3. “I WISH I HAD THE COURAGE TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS”

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. “I WISH I HAD STAYED IN TOUCH WITH MY FRIENDS”

There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Ware states “Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down.”

Figure out who matter most to you in life, and make sure you have them by your side.

5. “I WISH I HAD LET MYSELF BE HAPPIER”

Happiness is a choice rather than a consequence of situations. It is important we make choices based on our happiness and not our fears.

Ware expressed “Fear of change had them pretending to others and to their selves that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly.”

Fear is the only thing that holds us back from experiencing happiness and appreciating life to the fullest. Do not leave room for regret in your last days. Act on your choices and be as happy as you wish to be.

You can buy and read her book HERE.

“In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take”

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15 Morning Habits of Successful and Highly Organized People

Having a sloppy morning affects the activity levels for the rest of the day. It is important that we start our day with a strong foot forward, in order to balance out the tidings of the hours to come.

For people who over-work themselves, mornings are generally the time of the devil. We never want to get out of bed at society-approved hours. However, having a sloppy morning affects the activity levels for the rest of the day. It is important that we start our day with a strong foot forward, in order to balance out the tidings of the hours to come.

Here are 15 tips on how to improve and increase the productivity level for the day, starting in the morning.

1. GET OUT OF BED EARLY

Now, I know this sounds like I just asked you to eat broccoli or something. Truth is, there is a reason why this is a popular norm. Making your body clock come back to normal and lead to a very refreshing day, waking up earlier than usual can definitely increase the productivity level for your day, even though you may think otherwise.

2. KEEP AWAY FROM YOUR PHONE

It has been scientifically proven that social media is making us more depressed. The first thing you see in the morning should not involve a barrage of hate messages on Twitter or your Facebook news feed.

3. BE GRATEFUL

Stop and appreciate what you have. Take a moment each morning, to take time off the race, and appreciate how far you have gotten.

4. DO ONE THING THAT MAKES YOU SMILE

It could be petting your dog, or reading a few pages from a new book. My go-to activity in the morning is waking up before everybody else, and standing at the balcony with a warm cup of coffee nestled between my palms.

5. ASK YOURSELF IMPORTANT QUESTIONS

What is on your self-love agenda today? How could you make your to-do list seem fun? How much time are you going to allot for your mental health?

6. CREATE A ROUTINE

It is not just enough to have a rough idea of what you’re going to do on that day. Unless you plan out the timings of the task, you are only setting an extremely unrealistic goal for yourself to achieve.

7. STRATEGIZE YOUR GOALS

What is your next step in life? I, for one, like to live my life by a diagram. I need everything chalked into Venn diagrams, and pie charts. Sometimes, that’s problematic, but mostly, extremely rewarding.

8. SET GOALS THAT ARE REALISTIC

Unless you do that, you are setting yourself up to a lifetime of failed ventures. Nobody loves feeling unnecessarily inadequate, right? If you set realistic dreams, you have a higher chance of achieving them.

9. MEDITATION IS KEY

There is a brilliant app called HeadSpace that guides you through meditative exercises. You can go from 5 minutes to 5 hours, or anywhere in between. It is easy to do, and highly effective in detoxifying your mental state.

10. CLEAN

Living in a chaotic space might seem convenient, but it is never advisable for a healthy lifestyle. In trying to de-clutter your household, you will find it to be a calming exercise, leading to the de-cluttering of your mind.

11. EXERCISE

Most people think working out serves the sole purpose of losing weight. That could not be further from the truth. A healthy body positively affects our mind, making it a healthier unit.

12. GET DONE WITH THE TASKS YOU’VE BEEN PUTTING OFF

The only thing worse than deadlines, is the day they all pile up into a gigantic mountain. Rid yourself of the tasks you have been putting off for days. It will give you much less to worry about.

13. HUG THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE AND CARE FOR

Consent is necessary. I’d like to mention that from the go. Hugging people you love will make you feel much happier, and an exchange of positive energy will take place.

14. FREE UP SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF

You need to always have some me-time planned for you, each day. Just like your office and household tasks, your being needs your attention too. Spending time with yourself is imperative for a happy life.

15. GET SOME HEAD-START ON THE NIGHT BEFORE

Before you go to bed, arrange for all the things you will need in the morning. It not only saves time, but your future self with thank you immensely. Believe me, I have done that. Treat yourself the same way you’d treat your best friend.

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Stunning Review Of 17 Differences Between Successful And Unsuccessful People

It’s the determined mindset that rules the world of the successful people, but how can we attain the so-called “determined mindset”?
Stunning Review Of 17 Differences Between Successful And Unsuccessful People

It’s the determined mindset that rules the world of the successful people, but how can we attain the so-called “determined mindset”?

Determined mindset is structured from habits that are always harder to reach. Should I finish my task, or should I go out first? A lot of people decide to do the former, rather than the first.

It’s always, ALWAYS a struggle to reach the point of stability and self-confidence where it never occurs to us that we may fail in life. That point, my friends, is the top of the mountain, or the “determined mindset.”

To reach that point (at least verbally) we will expand the topic in 17 differences between successful and unsuccessful people.

1. CRITICIZE VS. COMPLIMENT

Criticizing is easily done, but it’s hard to give even a slight compliment. We often compliment the “weak ties” or not-so-close relatives, but we forget to complement our close ones.

Not only in friends and family, but in our workplace we have to embrace our colleagues too. You wouldn’t believe how many people want to be around you when you sincerely tell them that “they did a good job”, or “their dress is glamorous.” Try it. You will be amazed.

2. SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT VS. SENSE OF GRATITUDE

There are two sacks in our soul. One is ego and one is gratitude. The ego is really not a bad thing if we don’t feed it with each and everything. If you see that the ego is the “worth” of the person you will grasp that it’s really important thing. However, the ego is not for feeding, although it’s always hungry.

The other sac, where the gratitude is located, we need to feed it every day with each and everything we are thankful for. The man who lost his shoes was walking depressed barefoot until he saw a guy with no legs.

Appreciate what you have, always.

3. TAKE ALL THEIR CREDIT OF THEIR VICTORIES VS. GIVE OTHER PEOPLE CREDIT FOR THEIR VICTORIES

You see, one man cannot make a miracle. Whatever it is, however it may turn out, there will always be a group of people (or a chain reaction of people) that made enormous change. Even if we manage to do enormous thing by ourselves, we were triggered by our closed relatives (parents, friends, acquaintances, family etc ..). Even it could be a trigger by our last girlfriend that left us!

Successful people share their victories and give other people credit for their victories.

4. WATCH TV EVERYDAY VS. READ EVERY DAY

Reading itself expands our visualization, enriches our vocabulary and forms a way of virtually visualizing situations and images that no movie can. Not to mention that the news are always telling us things we don’t want to hear.

Don’t get me wrong. Watching TV is not forbidden, but reading shouldn’t be switched for TV. Successful people just don’t have time to do both.

5. TALK ABOUT PEOPLE VS. TALK ABOUT IDEAS

Talking about other people is the lowest level of conversation. It goes from the bottom (talking about people) to the middle (talking about events) and finally the top (talking about ideas.)

Strive to talk about ideas or at least events. Never discuss about people. That’s so low that you will be splashing in the pond instead of lurking in the ocean. Imagine that.

6. EXUDE ANGER VS. EXUDE JOY

To get to success, we cannot be exuding anger. It will never lead to a success.

Success is positive emotion and since positivity is a way of joy, we need to force that as an aura. We have to enjoy what we do to climb the mountain of success. No one on earth is successful by climbing the mountain angry. They just don’t attract each other.

Be joyful and wanted in your environment. You will be one step closer to your personal success.

7. HORDE INFORMATION AND DATA VS. SHARE INFORMATION AND DATA

When someone says “I shared” the information, it has to be analyzed before you get to the next level. We are able to say the same thing with different tone and body language and it will end up having completely different meaning.

For example “Give me the salt” with a smile and gratitude can be different if we say it with elevated voice and shaded eyes. Successful people share information and data precisely as they want to be understood.

8. FEAR CHANGE VS. EMBRACE CHANGE

It’s really dividable on people who are elastic to change and people who fear to make any step further. It’s like giving people a choice: either make the leap of faith (fear of the unknown) or stay comfy with your life you are living now. The choice we need to make is ours and ours only.

We all know the choice successful people make. That’s not quantum physics.

9. FLY BY THEIR SEAT OF THEIR PANTS VS. KEEP A “TO-DO/PROJECT” LISTS

The meaning fly by their seat of their pants means to “decide a course of action as you go along, using your own initiative and perceptions rather than a pre-determined plan or mechanical aids.”

The part where we use our initiative and perceptions to determine our course of actions is kind of better, but if keep that way without to-do lists and projects, we won’t make it far. That’s the style of a gambler. Not a style of successful person.

By some scientific research, we have 60.000 thoughts per day and 95% are from the previous day! That thing can’t be managed without to-do lists and taking notes.

10. HOLD A GRUDGE VS. FORGIVE OTHERS

Forgiving others saves enormous amount of time while holding grudges will take that precious time away.

People are not aware that one day they will be gone and how did they spend their time? Holding grudges? When we sincerely find the answer to these questions we will be forgiving everybody for everything.

Remember, forgive, but never forget.

11. BLAME OTHERS FOR THEIR FAILURES VS. ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR FAILURES

Even though sometimes it’s really not our fault, we cannot blame people for their mistakes and failures, especially if we are head of that department (or the whole firm.) We are unity; we work as a team and fail as a team. If that person keeps doing mistakes you can always pick your own squad.

Successful people see things as a whole, not as a unit.

12. “SAY” THEY KEEP A JOURNAL VS. KEEP A JOURNAL

Journal is the most sacred thing a man can possess.

Not because you write down your secrets and not-so-ordinary thoughts, but because that’s the only time you express your emotions in the real world. They are now on a paper (or on your WordPress.) Journal is a must!

Talk to yourself in actions, rather than wandering and staying in your head.

13. SECRETLY HOPE OTHERS FAIL VS. WANT OTHERS TO SUCCEED

Even our close relatives (just make a little test) want to see us fail. It’s because of the challenge that lives in all of us since prehistoric times. Everybody wants to see you do good, but not better than them.

Of course this can be changed, but they don’t bother to see it like that.

People who don’t work hard will never lay success in their hands and people who work hard know how it feels like to work your way to success.

So the only people who want to see you fail are the ones who never try to do anything with their life and rather stay in the comfort zone forever.

Honestly, people who do better than us should be our personal motivation and a spark of inspiration. See them that way. You will heal yourself from your dirty secret.

14. DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT TO BE VS. KEEP A “TO-BE” LISTS

One honest simple question can be entangling most of the world’s population. “WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE?”

People fear that they might become successful and never seem to start to think “what they want to be.” It’s really one simple question that is unknown to most.

On this question, I will suggest one exercise. Take a piece of paper, write the question down in the middle of the paper and connect arrows with everything you would like to be. Force yourself to think on it, deeply, even for 30 minutes, and finally start writing. It’s the first question you need to answer that will change your life, believe me.

After knowing what you would like to be (if you don’t know) you will know where you should be headed.

15. NEVER SET GOALS VS. SET GOALS AND DEVELOP LIFE PLANS

Successful people have goals. It’s no secret.

They write it on a paper (what they would like to achieve in 3, 6, 9, 12 months.) It’s bewildering how a thing can become reality if we put it on a piece of paper and read it every day twice (as soon as we wake up and before we go to sleep.) The idea is to surround ourselves with the personal goals.

Start your day with your personal prayer and end it with it. I will guarantee that your mind will unconsciously strive towards that thing.

16. THINK THEY KNOW IT ALL VS. CONTINUOUSLY LEARN

No one knows it all. If one” knows it all” the person will go nuts, and no one want’s to go nuts.

Instead, we need to face a direction, say, fitness trainer and continuously improve in that direction with work and practice.

Matthew McConaughey and Denzel Washington were not that entertaining the first time they acted in a movie. Thomas Edison didn’t invent the light-bulb from the first try.

Life is continuous learning.

17. OPERATE FROM A TRANSACTIONAL PERSPECTIVE VS. OPERATE FROM A TRANSFORMATIONAL PERSPECTIVE

People who will never respect you and see you only as a free pass in the future will always count you as “I owe you one” and “You owe me one.” No, forget that! Move away from those people, and if you find yourself in that possition change ASAP!

Successful people don’t count help on a paper. They help to see themselves growing, not to calculate and to put their pressure on their friends and business.

Moreover, everything is said here. You can find most of your surrounding described up here. If you want to change them, pass them this writing. I am sure they will thank you later.